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My 2 year old is running my life!!!!
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I feel at my wits end.
I have a 2 and a half year old boy who is running rings round me. I don't know what to do to stop it. When I tell him off he kicks me and pinches me. If he can't have his own way he screeches at the top of his voice. Sometimes he just screeches!
I feel embarassed that I have no control over my own child. He does what he wants when he wants and no matter what I seem to do he either runs away from me or hurts me or screeches at me. He behaves the same way for my husband.
He never used to be this bad. Before I used to be able to tell him no and he'd stop. He'd cry for a little while then would just stop the naughty thing he is doing. I don't know when he changed. It's doing my head in.
I'm pregnant as well and I'm worried he's going to kick me in the belly and cause me to miscarry.
I've given birth to a devil child.
Any suggestions to help?
I have a 2 and a half year old boy who is running rings round me. I don't know what to do to stop it. When I tell him off he kicks me and pinches me. If he can't have his own way he screeches at the top of his voice. Sometimes he just screeches!
I feel embarassed that I have no control over my own child. He does what he wants when he wants and no matter what I seem to do he either runs away from me or hurts me or screeches at me. He behaves the same way for my husband.
He never used to be this bad. Before I used to be able to tell him no and he'd stop. He'd cry for a little while then would just stop the naughty thing he is doing. I don't know when he changed. It's doing my head in.
I'm pregnant as well and I'm worried he's going to kick me in the belly and cause me to miscarry.
I've given birth to a devil child.
Any suggestions to help?
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The naughty step is a good start. Threaten it, mean it and then do it, and do it every time he misbehaves beyond reasonable toddler levels, with a minute on it for each year of his age. Boundaries, establishment of is the term.
The whole lashing out thing is bloody awful - and you're right a lot of it comes down to being horrified that you have no control over them. I wouldn't agree with smacking him though tbh - you're trying to show him that it's wrong to smack and he's too young to differentiate between you smacking him for being naughty and him smacking you for being what he perceives to be being naughty as well.
Can you tell when one of these strops is going to hit? Sometimes if you can pre-empt it by totally changing the subject or attracting his attention with something else that the whole tantrum can be avoided. Can you get him to help you with preparations for the baby? Maybe getting him to sing songs to your bump may make him aware of the baby and the need to be gentle with it and also help him feel more involved.
Good luck - they don't call them the terrible twos for nothing
If you stick him on a naughty step then he will just get straight back off it so without saying anything to him just put him back on there again and again until he gets the message (bit of a battle of wills that one!).
If he hits you though, you need to stop him straight away so grab his arms (don't hurt him!) and no threats this time, just punishment.
He's Two. They do that apparently.
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It seems like fairly sound advice. Kids of that age start to test boundaries and become frustrated because their minds have usually developed beyone their ability to express themselves verbally. So they want to tell you what they want and how they feel etc but they don't know how to.
One other piece of advice is to remember to think about the good stuff your child does and remind yourself that he isn't all bad. He certainly isn't a devil child!! (But I'd check for horns just incase......):p
Edited to add.....I highly recommend getting down on the floor and throwing a tantrum with him. I tried it and it works a treat!
My heart goes out to you,I know its a horrible thing to go through.
Could he be a little jealous of the baby thats due?
Some little ones behave in this way sometimes,hes kind of telling you that he is still there,maybe hes worried that he will be forgotton and by lashing out then in his own little way he is getting the attention he wants.
Its just a thought Ruth.
Dont feel bad about not controlling him hun,it happens to the best of mums.
Wish I could offer you more advice.
That's true - a good tip is to watch him when he's asleep, he'll look adorable then and you'll momentarily forget the bad bits
You don't hit him. You just don't give in to his demands. Simple.
...are you really only 14?? :eek:
When he used to have his tantrums I would totally ignore him, if he kicked me or punched me i'd just calmly pick him up and put him on the naughty step, explaining why I was putting him there. Of course he didn't stay at first, but the key is persistance and consistency. Kids always get the message in the end, so I just kept putting him back.
There were a few times I totally lost my cool and ending up crying because I felt so powerless but honestly if you stay consistent you will get there. Stick to what you say and don't give in to his demands.
We also have a sticker chart where he gets stickers for good behaviour which encourages him.
Good luck, hopefully you will be able to get things under control before your baby is born
Sorry?? 14? says who?
Oh I must be getting mixed up with someone else
No. Not me. F/mid forties/have 23 yr old daughter
Magicmover?
I would maybe try taking away privileges such as toys and sweets. I know how you are feeling, my little boy is two and a half and he is starting to run rings round me. On reading your post it reads near identical to my little boy, and yes sometimes i think i have given birth to a devil child. Should have called him Damien really lol
When he does that you pick him up and pop him in a playpen and you leave the room showing NO emotions. If he throws his toys out tough shite. He'll calm down sooner or later and it will take less and less time each time. Good luck.
My poor sister tho, has a child who has absolutely no currency whatsoever. No amount of taking away toys/treats made (or indeed "makes") any difference. He just shrugs it off. It's been tough for her!
Yeah i can imagine, i tried that with my little lad sometimes it works and other times it doesnt. I do find that putting him in his bedroom with the gate locked works better. However sometimes he will start again not ten minutes after being let out. Its very frustrating. The thing that annoys me the most about my lad is that you cannot take him anywhere, he throws the biggest tantrums and i do know that the best way is to ignore it but it is difficult. He has gone from being a very lovely little boy to a monster. I know they say it is terrible twos but my little girl was nowhere near as bad as what he is. I do feel sympathy for your sis and the op.