That is because you feel that is home Twass, no other explanation, it must be where you felt loved..........Splintz loves you but childhood love must be different.
That is my daft idea
I do. But usually it's Twass and I living in the folks house.
I guess that's because it was the time when most of my memories were formed.
I almost never dream of the houses where my ex and I lived for 17 years.
I do. But usually it's Twass and I living in the folks house.
I guess that's because it was the time when most of my memories were formed.
I almost never dream of the houses where my ex and I lived for 17 years.
I think it was a far less complicated sort of time in all our lives, I never appreciated as a child quite the freedom I had in many respects, the sort of freedom modern children rarely get. The only responsibilities were to be home by tea time and do a few chores for pocket money and present an obedient front
I remember bracing myself at the foot of the stairs as a kid to have to run up to the loo in darkness and flick the landing light on, so the monsters would retreat
I do. But usually it's Twass and I living in the folks house.
I guess that's because it was the time when most of my memories were formed.
I almost never dream of the houses where my ex and I lived for 17 years.
If I dream of houses it is always with big long corridors or landings, load of rooms and I'm lost
I think it was a far less complicated sort of time in all our lives, I never appreciated as a child quite the freedom I had in many respects, the sort of freedom modern children rarely get. The only responsibilities were to be home by tea time and do a few chores for pocket money and present an obedient front
I remember bracing myself at the foot of the stairs as a kid to have to run up to the loo in darkness and flick the landing light on, so the monsters would retreat
I remember taking on five paper rounds at 14 and I've been working since, my entire childhood was spent dreaming of money and wondering why my father didn't love me
I remember taking on five paper rounds at 14 and I've been working since, my entire childhood was spent dreaming of money and wondering why my father didn't love me
I wished I had realised as a child that my father did love me and that I didn't need to try to be a boy in order to deserve that, it was just he was a complex character [and he drank too much] and he had a terrible temper. I feel sure your father DID love you Silent, and like my dad had trouble expressing it in a way a child could understand.
Kids need physical expressions of love. Having spent the day being used as a climbing frame by my granddaughters and their friend and their love of cuddles I realise toys and material things are vastly less important than the loving attention of adults, under which they blossom
Their mum, my daughter I "adopted" as an adult, had a grim childhood with her real adoptive parents, and her dreams never have walls, she never dreams of being indoors. My happy childhood was mostly down to my mum, whose lap and arms were always available!!
I wished I had realised as a child that my father did love me and that I didn't need to try to be a boy in order to deserve that, it was just he was a complex character [and he drank too much] and he had a terrible temper. I feel sure your father DID love you Silent, and like my dad had trouble expressing it in a way a child could understand.
I remember taking on five paper rounds at 14 and I've been working since, my entire childhood was spent dreaming of money and wondering why my father didn't love me
I wished I had realised as a child that my father did love me and that I didn't need to try to be a boy in order to deserve that, it was just he was a complex character [and he drank too much] and he had a terrible temper. I feel sure your father DID love you Silent, and like my dad had trouble expressing it in a way a child could understand.
Kids need physical expressions of love. Having spent the day being used as a climbing frame by my granddaughters and their friend and their love of cuddles I realise toys and material things are vastly less important than the loving attention of adults, under which they blossom
Their mum, my daughter I "adopted" as an adult, had a grim childhood with her real adoptive parents, and her dreams never have walls, she never dreams of being indoors. My happy childhood was mostly down to my mum, whose lap and arms were always available!!
I have always loved and hugged my children, I still do............touching post Twassy
Mine was hard work but I loved him and you loved yours innit
I'm not sure if it's love, admiration or that I'm just too tired to be dealing with him any more. Not spoken in years and I no longer know what I would say.
I'm not sure if it's love, admiration or that I'm just too tired to be dealing with him any more. Not spoken in years and I no longer know what I would say.
That is sad, Silent. My advice would be to try making contact and just give it your best shot....then you will have nothing to reproach yourself for in future times...
I think these cryptic posts would make a better PM
He's making some new plans for a new life, but I feel sure he'll be in here in his own time or will PM you both
I'm so glad you've been lazy Mrs T! I hope your bum's not left that sofa all day
I've been with the little grandkiddliewinks having a fabulous day! I got a seriously groovy Saltrock purple top for me birfdee present from them, I love it! :cool:
He's making some new plans for a new life, but I feel sure he'll be in here in his own time or will PM you both
I'm so glad you've been lazy Mrs T! I hope your bum's not left that sofa all day
I've been with the little grandkiddliewinks having a fabulous day! I got a seriously groovy Saltrock purple top for me birfdee present from them, I love it! :cool:
He will be no doubt
I feel guilty about being so lazy but sod it
That sounds just up your street and kind of them, you are spoiled Twass
That is sad, Silent. My advice would be to try making contact and just give it your best shot....then you will have nothing to reproach yourself for in future times...
On the other hand why bother, I've tried with relatives all my life and I no longer think the effort is worth the lack of response
I understand how you feel SIlent, cos love's a two way street and you lose heart in the end. However you only ever have one Dad. Maybe have one last shot?? He should be bloody proud to have a son as intelligent as you. It's his loss if he aint. (((((((((((Silent)))))))))
I understand how you feel SIlent, cos love's a two way street and you lose heart in the end. However you only ever have one Dad. Maybe have one last shot?? He should be bloody proud to have a son as intelligent as you. It's his loss if he aint. (((((((((((Silent)))))))))
good
I'd have given anything to have still had my Dad growing up, my youngest brother did not even have the chance to know him. It is a two road and Silents Dad should have enjoyed his son and given Silent the opportunity to enjoy the relationship too..............our parents were from a different era as their parents were too. Times have changed, maybe too much sometimes but on the whole I see parents and children with greater bonds and more so greater shows of affection.
I'd have given anything to have still had my Dad growing up, my youngest brother did not even have the chance to know him. It is a two road and Silents Dad should have enjoyed his son and given Silent the opportunity to enjoy the relationship too..............our parents were from a different era as their parents were too. Times have changed, maybe too much sometimes but on the whole I see parents and children with greater bonds and more so greater shows of affection.
I hope that makes sense ;)
It does make sense Mrs T, I think people are more in touch with their emotions nowadays. My dad had been brought up the stiff upper lip way which is not the best way. He passed some of it on to me since that is how I tend to cope with crises, usually. It's a shame we can't pick the best bits of the old and blend with the best bits of the new to make an ideal parent!!
It does make sense Mrs T, I think people are more in touch with their emotions nowadays. My dad had been brought up the stiff upper lip way which is not the best way. He passed some of it on to me since that is how I tend to cope with crises, usually. It's a shame we can't pick the best bits of the old and blend with the best bits of the new to make an ideal parent!!
I have a bit of a stiff upper lip but more for other people and not myself. Our staff hug each other, we hug the children as they hug us and more importantly it is so lovely to openly hug and kiss your own children
I believe that some aspects of our parents is not their fault, it was inherited from their parents and theirs before.......and so on. I believe in latter years my mum learned from seeing myself with my children and also my brothers with theirs.
I would need umpteen pairs of hands and feet to count the times my mum and I fell out but in her last couple of years of life she actually told me that she loved me and I was able to say it back.:)
I have a bit of a stiff upper lip but more for other people and not myself. Our staff hug each other, we hug the children as they hug us and more importantly it is so lovely to openly hug and kiss your own children
I believe that some aspects of our parents is not their fault, it was inherited from their parents and theirs before.......and so on. I believe in latter years my mum learned from seeing myself with my children and also my brothers with theirs.
I would need umpteen pairs of hands and feet to count the times my mum and I fell out but in her last couple of years of life she actually told me that she loved me and I was able to say it back.:)
Awww.... sweet story
I can get on with my mother, I just ignore every word out of her mouth and just smile
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I do. But usually it's Twass and I living in the folks house.
I guess that's because it was the time when most of my memories were formed.
I almost never dream of the houses where my ex and I lived for 17 years.
I think it was a far less complicated sort of time in all our lives, I never appreciated as a child quite the freedom I had in many respects, the sort of freedom modern children rarely get. The only responsibilities were to be home by tea time and do a few chores for pocket money and present an obedient front
I remember bracing myself at the foot of the stairs as a kid to have to run up to the loo in darkness and flick the landing light on, so the monsters would retreat
If I dream of houses it is always with big long corridors or landings, load of rooms and I'm lost
Then I have my house with the wine cellar dream
I remember taking on five paper rounds at 14 and I've been working since, my entire childhood was spent dreaming of money and wondering why my father didn't love me
I wished I had realised as a child that my father did love me and that I didn't need to try to be a boy in order to deserve that, it was just he was a complex character [and he drank too much] and he had a terrible temper. I feel sure your father DID love you Silent, and like my dad had trouble expressing it in a way a child could understand.
Kids need physical expressions of love. Having spent the day being used as a climbing frame by my granddaughters and their friend and their love of cuddles I realise toys and material things are vastly less important than the loving attention of adults, under which they blossom
Their mum, my daughter I "adopted" as an adult, had a grim childhood with her real adoptive parents, and her dreams never have walls, she never dreams of being indoors. My happy childhood was mostly down to my mum, whose lap and arms were always available!!
Sounds like we share the same father! :eek:
Mine was hard work but I loved him and you loved yours innit
(((((((((((((((((Silent))))))))))))))))))
You have a ditto on some aspects of that
I have always loved and hugged my children, I still do............touching post Twassy
((((((((((((((((((((Twassy))))))))))))))))))))))
(((((((((((((((((((Mrs T)))))))))))))))))))))) We're a right pair of soppy kippers innit XXXXXXXXX
Have you heard from eug tonight?
Yes we are
and XXXXXXXX back
No I haven't, I've not touched my mobile since I got home yesterday
All okay?
Yes, he's a man with a plan!! :cool::D
You will have to let me know
I'm not sure if it's love, admiration or that I'm just too tired to be dealing with him any more. Not spoken in years and I no longer know what I would say.
He'll do it Mrs T
Have you enjoyed your first day of holibobs??
I think these cryptic posts would make a better PM
I have been so lazy Twassy and I mean lazy, it has been lovely
What have you been up to?
That is sad, Silent. My advice would be to try making contact and just give it your best shot....then you will have nothing to reproach yourself for in future times...
He's making some new plans for a new life, but I feel sure he'll be in here in his own time or will PM you both
I'm so glad you've been lazy Mrs T! I hope your bum's not left that sofa all day
I've been with the little grandkiddliewinks having a fabulous day! I got a seriously groovy Saltrock purple top for me birfdee present from them, I love it! :cool:
He will be no doubt
I feel guilty about being so lazy but sod it
That sounds just up your street and kind of them, you are spoiled Twass
I hope things go well for him as I know he hasn't had the easiest of times
As long as it doesn't involve leaving DS
I understand how you feel SIlent, cos love's a two way street and you lose heart in the end. However you only ever have one Dad. Maybe have one last shot?? He should be bloody proud to have a son as intelligent as you. It's his loss if he aint. (((((((((((Silent)))))))))
good
I'd have given anything to have still had my Dad growing up, my youngest brother did not even have the chance to know him. It is a two road and Silents Dad should have enjoyed his son and given Silent the opportunity to enjoy the relationship too..............our parents were from a different era as their parents were too. Times have changed, maybe too much sometimes but on the whole I see parents and children with greater bonds and more so greater shows of affection.
I hope that makes sense ;)
It does make sense Mrs T, I think people are more in touch with their emotions nowadays. My dad had been brought up the stiff upper lip way which is not the best way. He passed some of it on to me since that is how I tend to cope with crises, usually. It's a shame we can't pick the best bits of the old and blend with the best bits of the new to make an ideal parent!!
I have a bit of a stiff upper lip but more for other people and not myself. Our staff hug each other, we hug the children as they hug us and more importantly it is so lovely to openly hug and kiss your own children
I believe that some aspects of our parents is not their fault, it was inherited from their parents and theirs before.......and so on. I believe in latter years my mum learned from seeing myself with my children and also my brothers with theirs.
I would need umpteen pairs of hands and feet to count the times my mum and I fell out but in her last couple of years of life she actually told me that she loved me and I was able to say it back.:)
Awww.... sweet story
I can get on with my mother, I just ignore every word out of her mouth and just smile
It's true Silent, the spats we had, she could be very hard work but she'd not had it easy either
LMAO and the best way but I am too hot headed at times but mellowed with time