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When and why did you last Cry? (lads especially)

irishfeenirishfeen Posts: 10,025
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Openly crying when your a lad is usually seen as being a bit weak and not manly...

Personally it was about 6 weeks ago at my grandmother's funeral - it was the first time in years that anyone has seen me cry. It was just before the coffin was closed during the final prayer (I just realised that this was it - after 22 years of this woman looking after me I would never see her again) and I broke down.... I could feel it coming gradually and I could not stop it, it was so strange for people to see me crying I set the rest of the funeral home off :o

When and why was the last time you cried?
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 1,033
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    a few weeks ago watching prayers for bobby
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    SJ_MentalSJ_Mental Posts: 16,138
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    My mum's funeral :(
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 4,391
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    When my dog died.
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    simondsUU933wsimondsUU933w Posts: 4,176
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    SJ_Mental wrote: »
    My mum's funeral :(

    Same here (back in March) and several times since thinking about her. Shit isn't it :(
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 1,421
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    Chopped an onion earlier. Like. A. Baby.
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    OvalteenieOvalteenie Posts: 24,169
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    My mum's funeral... when the coffin went behind the curtain... and then she was gone :cry:
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    irishfeenirishfeen Posts: 10,025
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    Did anyone else feel slightly ashamed of crying after? ...I was very embarrassed after in happened because I usually would not be like that. :o
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    irishfeenirishfeen Posts: 10,025
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    ylomyloh wrote: »
    Chopped an onion earlier. Like. A. Baby.
    Ah ya them things are a fooking terror ;)
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    simondsUU933wsimondsUU933w Posts: 4,176
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    irishfeen wrote: »
    Did anyone else feel slightly ashamed of crying after? ...I was very embarrassed after in happened because I usually would not be like that. :o

    Yep - it's quite common and although you may feel embarrassed, I doubt not one other person is laughing at you.
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    irishfeenirishfeen Posts: 10,025
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    simonp820 wrote: »
    Yep - it's quite common and although you may feel embarrassed, I doubt not one other person is laughing at you.
    No definitely not laughing... it was the first time I have ever seen my Uncle cry too and he would not usually show emotion at all in any shape or form.
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    TheTruth1983TheTruth1983 Posts: 13,462
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    A few weeks ago I had a really bad call at work and I had to go to the restroom after it as I was welling up.
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    irishfeenirishfeen Posts: 10,025
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    TheTruth1983 wrote: »
    A few weeks ago I had a really bad call at work and I had to go to the restroom after it as I was welling up.
    Hope it worked out in the end for ya.
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    simondsUU933wsimondsUU933w Posts: 4,176
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    irishfeen wrote: »
    No definitely not laughing... it was the first time I have ever seen my Uncle cry too and he would not usually show emotion at all.

    I've lost count of how many times I cried openly during Mum's illness/death/funeral in front of people I've known all my life, nurses, work colleagues. TBH I didn't really care.

    I found it strange that my brother never cried once ... until the minute she passed away in the hospice when he burst into tears too.
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    TheTruth1983TheTruth1983 Posts: 13,462
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    irishfeen wrote: »
    Hope it worked out in the end for ya.

    I told the bastard I was passing his details to my manager for a call back and didn't bother my arse :D
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    irishfeenirishfeen Posts: 10,025
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    simonp820 wrote: »
    I've lost count of how many times I cried openly during Mum's illness/death/funeral in front of people I've known all my life, nurses, work colleagues. TBH I didn't really care.

    I found it strange that my brother never cried once ... until the minute she passed away in the hospice when he burst into tears too.
    I suppose people deal with grief differently, he was probably breaking down inside... I actually didn't cry when my grandmother actually died, I had said my goodbyes the day before when I sat and talked with her alone for about 4 hours - I had prepared myself mentally that she was almost gone... but it was the closing of the coffin really got me in the end.
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    irishfeenirishfeen Posts: 10,025
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    TheTruth1983 wrote: »
    I told the bastard I was passing his details to my manager for a call back and didn't bother my arse :D
    Why what happened on the phone? :)
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    SULLASULLA Posts: 149,789
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    Quite often actually:o
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    NightFox_DancerNightFox_Dancer Posts: 14,740
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    SJ_Mental wrote: »
    My mum's funeral :(
    simonp820 wrote: »
    Same here (back in March) and several times since thinking about her. Shit isn't it :(
    Ovalteenie wrote: »
    My mum's funeral... when the coffin went behind the curtain... and then she was gone :cry:

    Awww....I'm so sorry. :(
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    irishfeen wrote: »
    Openly crying when your a lad is usually seen as being a bit weak and not manly...

    Personally it was about 6 weeks ago at my grandmother's funeral - it was the first time in years that anyone has seen me cry. It was just before the coffin was closed during the final prayer (I just realised that this was it - after 22 years of this woman looking after me I would never see her again) and I broke down.... I could feel it coming gradually and I could not stop it, it was so strange for people to see me crying I set the rest of the funeral home off :o

    When and why was the last time you cried?

    I don't agree.

    I'm as soft as shite and have cried recently at some youtube videos.

    I cried recently when I had to leave my dog for an operation at the vets.

    I am a softie:D

    Sorry for all those that have lost loved ones recently.
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    irishfeenirishfeen Posts: 10,025
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    woodbush wrote: »
    I don't agree.

    I'm as soft as shite and have cried recently at some youtube videos.

    I cried recently when I had to leave my dog for an operation at the vets.

    I am a softie:D
    In general though it is looked down upon, not saying its right or anything.
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    TheTruth1983TheTruth1983 Posts: 13,462
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    irishfeen wrote: »
    Why what happened on the phone? :)

    He lost the plot because I had to escalate a ticket to the next level and wanted to talk to my manager.
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    irishfeenirishfeen Posts: 10,025
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    TheTruth1983 wrote: »
    He lost the plot because I had to escalate a ticket to the next level and wanted to talk to my manager.
    Ah why didn't you let him off? ;)
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 32,379
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    irishfeen wrote: »
    In general though it is looked down upon, not saying its right or anything.

    You're probably right but it shouldn't be.
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    James FrederickJames Frederick Posts: 53,184
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    ylomyloh wrote: »
    Chopped an onion earlier. Like. A. Baby.

    Try wearing swimming goggles it works for me
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    irishfeenirishfeen Posts: 10,025
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    woodbush wrote: »
    You're probably right but it shouldn't be.
    No I agree, although I did feel very embarrassed for some reason after I did it :o
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