I suppose people deal with grief differently, he was probably breaking down inside... I actually didn't cry when my grandmother actually died, I had said my goodbyes the day before when I sat and talked with her alone for about 4 hours - I had prepared myself mentally that she was almost gone... but it was the closing of the coffin really got me in the end.
Very true. It's something I felt so bad about with my Gran and had to make my peace with. We found out my Gran had terminal cancer and a few weeks later she passed away. It was all so quick and surreal and I built up such a wall that I don't think I've ever let it out. I didn't cry when we found out or in the weeks before she died or at her funeral. I felt so terrible about it. Like I wasn't normal, even though it killed me inside and broke my heart.
Yeah my nan was terminally ill with cancer so I kind of prepared myself, my other nan went downhill quickly, fell over, went into a coma, then never woke up:(
I volunteered and wanted to read the euolgy, it was sort of a joint effort with my parents and OH helping to write it.
I hate public speaking, but it was something I wanted to do, so on the morning of the service, suited up, I was practicing alone at the end of the the garden, whilst the tribe were busy preparing the final details for the wake, etc.
Reading and speaking what we, as a family had put together as a final tribute totally got to me, and I blubbed like a baby.
Openly crying when your a lad is usually seen as being a bit weak and not manly...
Personally it was about 6 weeks ago at my grandmother's funeral - it was the first time in years that anyone has seen me cry. It was just before the coffin was closed during the final prayer (I just realised that this was it - after 22 years of this woman looking after me I would never see her again) and I broke down.... I could feel it coming gradually and I could not stop it, it was so strange for people to see me crying I set the rest of the funeral home off
When and why was the last time you cried?
Nowt wrong with crying at times of bereavement like these.
However men crying over something silly like splitting with a girlfriend is shameful. Get some nuts!
Yeah my nan was terminally ill with cancer so I kind of prepared myself, my other nan went downhill quickly, fell over, went into a coma, then never woke up:(
Sorry to hear of your loss too:(
I would think sudden would be much worse because at least you can say your goodbyes and prepare for someone you love dying over a period of time.... Sudden deaths must be like a punch in your side.
I cried this week when I took flowers to the crem on the anniversary of my Dad's death.
I also cry quite a bit at times because of the pain I am constantly in. Most of the time, I can put up with it, but sometimes, it just gets too much and the tears just come.
It was about a month ago when a few things that had been bubbling away for a while suddenly got a little too much and the frustration needed to come out. I think it was the music I was listening to at the time that got me going. I definitely felt a lot better afterwards, though I must have looked a right sight.
Seems like a bit of a lame reason compared to everyone else losing loved ones and such. But I cried earlier whilst watching the Glee tribute to Cory Monteith who died recently.
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Very true. It's something I felt so bad about with my Gran and had to make my peace with. We found out my Gran had terminal cancer and a few weeks later she passed away. It was all so quick and surreal and I built up such a wall that I don't think I've ever let it out. I didn't cry when we found out or in the weeks before she died or at her funeral. I felt so terrible about it. Like I wasn't normal, even though it killed me inside and broke my heart.
Yeah my nan was terminally ill with cancer so I kind of prepared myself, my other nan went downhill quickly, fell over, went into a coma, then never woke up:(
Sorry to hear of your loss too:(
I volunteered and wanted to read the euolgy, it was sort of a joint effort with my parents and OH helping to write it.
I hate public speaking, but it was something I wanted to do, so on the morning of the service, suited up, I was practicing alone at the end of the the garden, whilst the tribe were busy preparing the final details for the wake, etc.
Reading and speaking what we, as a family had put together as a final tribute totally got to me, and I blubbed like a baby.
Nowt wrong with crying at times of bereavement like these.
However men crying over something silly like splitting with a girlfriend is shameful. Get some nuts!
So you split with a girl and your first thought is I want some nuts
I knew I was right
Ahahaha!
Sorry James, I am happily married - have been 15 years.
There are plenty of other sites for you to go to if you want that kind of thing.
So what most get married to hide it just ask Michael Barrymore
PS The wife always knows
I also cry quite a bit at times because of the pain I am constantly in. Most of the time, I can put up with it, but sometimes, it just gets too much and the tears just come.
The Cancer Awareness TV advert where strangers rush to catch falling people gets me everytime, and I don't know why.