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Why do people get married 3, 4 5 times? Why not just live with your partner?
boddism
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Im interested in why people who've been through at least 2 marriages & divorces would want to marry again, given how hellish (I hear) the divorce process is?
Also- after 2 or 3 failed marriages wouldnt a person acknowledge that marriage is just something they're not good at, and just choose to live with any future partners rather than go through the rigmarole of marriage again?
I genuinely cant understand why the Liz Taylors of this word would marry 8 times.... surely by the 3rd marriage you'd think: well if this doesnt work out, Im clearly not cut out for this...
Also- after 2 or 3 failed marriages wouldnt a person acknowledge that marriage is just something they're not good at, and just choose to live with any future partners rather than go through the rigmarole of marriage again?
I genuinely cant understand why the Liz Taylors of this word would marry 8 times.... surely by the 3rd marriage you'd think: well if this doesnt work out, Im clearly not cut out for this...
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She doesn't believe in sex before marriage so thats one answer
The other is that she is a needy cow.
Good point. The promise of a free house everytime a woman gets divorced is incentive enough to get married multiple times!
I do think a lot of people hastily get married. I'm not promoting that. But if a couple is going to break up, they'll probably do so whether they are married or not.
Marriage is harder to get out of generally, but you also sometimes have benefits of marriage (like seeing relatives in the hospital) that you may not have if you are not married.
Bottom line, though, whether you are married or living together, you have to make sure the two of you are compatible. If not, it probably won't last.
Some people want the commitment and the officialness. Living with your "partner" just sounds cheap.
If you never had it, you wouldn't understand it.
Me, I'm one of those supposed fear of commitment types who has remained unmarried but been with my partner for 22 years, double the amount of time the average marriage lasts.
Are you having a laugh?
It's all about money. You get tax advantages by getting married, plus you get inheritance tax advantages if your spouse dies, plus you will probably be entitled to your spouse's pension if he or she dies.
As that annoying song goes, what's love got to do with it?
seems to be about ownership to me
if yer committed yer committed imo
I cant really explain this. We don't have children so its not like i wanted to have the same surname as him and the kids. I suppose i just wanted to be linked to him (and his whole family who i adore) by name.
I wish!
If you get married and split up things are dealt with more fairly than if you live together.
Are there any these days, other than inheritance tax?
I think you can usually nominate anyone to be a beneficiary, all you're saving by being married is not having to fill in another form.
Exactly.