Am I being a snob?
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I work with a couple of girls, sisters in fact, who I’ve worked with for a couple of years. We all get along fine in work but we have absolutely nothing in common outside of work. Our backgrounds are very different I’ve had for want of a better word ‘a quiet life’, where they have been what I could describe as nonstop drama. I’m very shy and hate confrontation and I find both of them very confrontational and constantly seem to get into fights verbal and physical with family and friends which seems to always end in the police being called .I also find on occasion they can use language that I personally find very offensive such as the occasional racist comment. Although they don’t say this to everyone, probably only to me as I’m too scared to tell them I find it offensive. I can’t think any other way to describe them but as ‘a bit rough’.
So just recently they asked me if I wanted to go out for a drink with them. Every weekend they go out and basically get drunk and always seem to end up in a fight or some argument with someone. So for starters I’m not a drinker which I have told them but they always make a joke of and say something along the lines ‘don’t worry we’ll get you drunk’ But also even if by some miracle it is a just a few drinks the bars they go to are known as no go pubs. I don’t think I could stand sitting there listening to racist comments and nonstop arguments. Another work colleague who had been out with them in the past confirmed this.
Without sounding a bit pathetic I can’t seem to find the nerve to tell them I really don’t want to go out with.
Or am I just being a snob?
So just recently they asked me if I wanted to go out for a drink with them. Every weekend they go out and basically get drunk and always seem to end up in a fight or some argument with someone. So for starters I’m not a drinker which I have told them but they always make a joke of and say something along the lines ‘don’t worry we’ll get you drunk’ But also even if by some miracle it is a just a few drinks the bars they go to are known as no go pubs. I don’t think I could stand sitting there listening to racist comments and nonstop arguments. Another work colleague who had been out with them in the past confirmed this.
Without sounding a bit pathetic I can’t seem to find the nerve to tell them I really don’t want to go out with.
Or am I just being a snob?
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Just thank them for their invitation but tell them you are going to a party/cinema/dinner/theatre and can't go. Repeat every time they ask you to go. They'll soon get bored with asking you.
"rough as fuucck" aka chavs
As for the invitation just tell them 'thanks for asking....but no thanks'.
Just keep politely declining when they offer.
If they want to try and make plans for a time when your free, then I'm not sure how you could politely decline, but if you don't want to go - don't.