Trapped and exhausted... what to do?
Hey guys,
I need to vent I think. I am having such a stressful time at the moment.
I am worried about my son and my ability to cope with him. He has CDD and is struggling at the moment. I also have ongoing problems with my Dad, which I have posted about before, he is kind of up at the moment but been on suicide watch in recent weeks. my gran is also really ill and frail :-(
Added to that, my partner has a little boy and he is staying with us for 6 days of the week and he is really disrupting my family. I have spoken to both of them about this but it always seems to end in an argument, I cant be bothered with arguing. I just feel that the work that I put into this family isnt appreciated and sometimes I want to run away. Rant over! :-(
I need to vent I think. I am having such a stressful time at the moment.
I am worried about my son and my ability to cope with him. He has CDD and is struggling at the moment. I also have ongoing problems with my Dad, which I have posted about before, he is kind of up at the moment but been on suicide watch in recent weeks. my gran is also really ill and frail :-(
Added to that, my partner has a little boy and he is staying with us for 6 days of the week and he is really disrupting my family. I have spoken to both of them about this but it always seems to end in an argument, I cant be bothered with arguing. I just feel that the work that I put into this family isnt appreciated and sometimes I want to run away. Rant over! :-(
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Using terms 99% of people here have never heard of is doing yourself no favours.
if hes with you 6 days a week I would say hes part of the family?
CDD - everything I googled for it came up as businesses, what is it?
Regarding your father maybe you could contact a mental health organisation https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=support+for+relatives+of+people+with+mental+illness&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a
Ouch, a bit harsh of you.
But the sentiment is true. How would you phrase it? (No need to answer that. The deed is done.)
It isnt my partner who is disrupting the family it is his son, sorry if that wasnt clear. He is with us because his mother has decided that she has better things to do. I already have three children.
Martin, actually I have been fighting for a diagnosis for about 6 years. My son is nearly 13. Lovely, funny and kind but has some issues.
What a horrible thing to say. There's nothing wrong with having a quick Google, and if that yields no results, simply asking politely what the term means.
I swear some people on here just get a kick out of being arseholes whilst shrouded by the anonymity that the Internet provides. If you talked like that in real life, you'd get a slap, and rightly so.
No advice for you OP, only my best wishes.
My father is a lost cause I think. Lol
I get help from the SenCo at the school and the consultants at the hospital.
I wasnt on here for answers, just to vent a little as it is all a bit much at the moment.
Thank you for your interest tho guys :-)
Thank you :-)
What for pointing out that using needlessly opaque acronyms that mean nothing to the overwhelming majority of people on a general forum like DS is counter productive? An entirely legitimate point to make.
If a classicist started dropping obscure Latin phrases into posts I would make exactly the same point. Which I guess would mean another slapping!
I notice that in a previous advice thread the OP did similar and started going on about something to which understanding the acronym "POVA" was pivotal, again with no explanation or elaboration.
Obscure, obfuscating jargon leading to a "WTF"
In the longer term my advice regarding avoiding needlessly confusing acronym use might prove more useful to the OP than your simple "best wishes".:)
What an unsympathetic horrible person you must be. So instead of accepting that lecturing someone on their language when they are clearly low is not a nice thing to do, you actually trawl through my threads to find fault!!! You didnt 'notice' this at all, you went searching for another post of mine to somehow PROVE that you are right. You be shallow and very insecure. You may also rest assured that you can offer me no advice that I would care to listen to.
Me neither, I actually thought that posting this may result in a few 'things will be fine' type of posts that may cheer me up after some stressful weeks :-(
Things WILL get better, you know that, hold onto that thought in these dark days.
How is it "needlessly opaque"? Many health issues have associated acronyms, often because the name of the illness at hand is too long to continue repeating. In the end, these acronyms start to replace to longer name, especially if you are particularly familiar with said illness due to personal experience, which obviously the OP is.
Regardless of whether or not the point was legitimate, there is simply no reason to be so downright rude.
As for the usefulness of your 'advice' (and I use that term loosely) compared to my "best wishes": a.) it's not a competition as to who can be most 'useful'; and b.) the OP didn't specifically request advice at all, more support, in which case, yes, I think my "best wishes" were more useful than your snide comment
That's not what Advice is for, hence the reason I bothered to find information for you. Chatter is what you're looking for.
Yes I agree, I actually do feel a bit better! Just wanted to offload I guess and sometimes its easier to do it anonymously :-)
Thanks :-)
Actually, there are several support threads on Advice, so I would say it is the most appropriate place for this thread.
Understood
Try reading the title - 'Trapped and exhausted... what to do? '
Anyway, I'm off I'm giving up on Advice for a while.