Straight men in gay relationships

[Deleted User] · 06/11/10 - 01:23

Does anyone know of any straight guys who end up dateing another guy. We seem to allow straight women to have realtinships with one other woman but not men. Does one person make you bi or do you have to fancy more people of the same sex ?

Pistol Whip · 06/11/10 - 01:48

I'm a firm believer that you (as a human being) can fall in love with a person regardless of their (or your) gender. This "straight" and "gay" thing is a by-product of conformity and just labels people against their will.

SULLA · 06/11/10 - 03:37

No such thing.

People in gay relationships are gay:)

[Deleted User] · 06/11/10 - 03:41

SULLA wrote: »

No such thing.

People in gay relationships are gay:)

Ssssh! :eek:

floraandfauna · 06/11/10 - 04:15

Pistol Whip wrote: »

I'm a firm believer that you (as a human being) can fall in love with a person regardless of their (or your) gender. This "straight" and "gay" thing is a by-product of conformity and just labels people against their will.

You can and I absolutely agree with you on that point that you can fall in love with anyone, but and it is a big but, you have to fancy them and have chemistry too; that is a different matter altogether

Unfortunately labels are given but you can't say it's against their will, gay pride for one example is them showing they are proud to have the label and good on them

It's a tough subject and a moral issue for all. It's something religions seem to abhor and punish yet can we trust them seeing as they protect paedophiles

TheEricPollard · 06/11/10 - 04:20

It happens in soaps.

Natgar · 06/11/10 - 04:37

I think human sexuality i s very fluid. But people always say gay or straight. I think that on the far one end you have gay and the far other end straight. If someone falls out of the gay area but not in the 100% straight area of course they can fall in love with another man, but I believe it depends where they fall in the spectrum considering sexuality as a straight line with one end homosexual, the other end heterosexual and the middle completely bisexual (50/50).

Azagoth · 06/11/10 - 04:41

You what? How can a guy be straight if he's doing the dirty with another bloke?

Ænima · 06/11/10 - 05:04

alastair_r wrote: »

Does anyone know of any straight guys who end up dateing another guy. We seem to allow straight women to have realtinships with one other woman but not men. Does one person make you bi or do you have to fancy more people of the same sex ?

No.

A man who likes to be in a relationship with another man is gay.

Imaginations say otherwise...

Flamethrower100 · 06/11/10 - 05:29

why would a straight dude want to shag another man.

for woman it is different, some straight woman will willingy be in a relationship with another woman even if there is no attraction, I don't know why, it just is.

TheEricPollard · 06/11/10 - 05:35

But a woman who had shagged men for the last 20 years and then did a woman probably wouldn't be called a lesbian. It's an interesting point. A woman who shags 1 woman ever could still be called straight by many, or if not bi, but a bloke who shags 1 bloke is suddenly 100% gay?

I'm a gay/bi woman and every so often a straight female friend will try and chat me up online. I don't think they're gay or bi, I just think they're straight women trying to look interesting or arouse their fat ugly boyfriend.

But if the straight woman was hot I'd still consider it, ha ha ha.

[Deleted User] · 06/11/10 - 05:36

alastair_r wrote: »

Does anyone know of any straight guys who end up dateing another guy. We seem to allow straight women to have realtinships with one other woman but not men. Does one person make you bi or do you have to fancy more people of the same sex ?

BIB, can you clarify that bit? Who 'allows' it?

Ænima · 06/11/10 - 05:36

I just realised my last post is in dire need of a

Aneechik · 06/11/10 - 05:40

I think it's entirely possible for two members of the same sex to love each other, but it only becomes romantic love if there is sexual attraction too, and if they're both straight that's not going to happen.

tauran_shammy · 06/11/10 - 08:33

gay= likes only cock
bi=likes cock and poontang
straight=likes only poontang

Anyone saying otherwise is in denial.

[Deleted User] · 06/11/10 - 09:01

I'd classify these men as bisexual. I know a few die hard straight guys who walk talk and act like a straight guy should but can't get enough of the schlong. Insecure about coming out? Probably. Straight? Definitely NOT!.

[Deleted User] · 06/11/10 - 10:54

TheEricPollard wrote: »

I'm a gay/bi woman and every so often a straight female friend will try and chat me up online. I don't think they're gay or bi, I just think they're straight women trying to look interesting or arouse their fat ugly boyfriend.

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They might be. Or they might be trying the idea on for size in a safe environment.

There are plenty of prison romances in the world. For which you don't actually have to be in prison, just hopelessly deprived of sex with the gender you normally prefer. After enough celibacy plenty of people will start to speculate about people they would normally consider off-limits.

the chimp · 06/11/10 - 10:54

tauran_shammy wrote: »

gay= likes only cock
bi=likes cock and poontang
straight=likes only poontang

Anyone saying otherwise is in denial.

100% correct there can be no other gauge.

Pisces Cloud · 06/11/10 - 10:54

sootysoo wrote: »

I'd classify these men as bisexual. I know a few die hard straight guys who walk talk and act like a straight guy should but can't get enough of the schlong. Insecure about coming out? Probably. Straight? Definitely NOT!.

Indeed. I think some people seem to find the concept of bisexuality too difficult to comprehend. If a man is having a sexual relationship with another man then he cannot be straight, unless he's doing it for money.

lemoncurd · 06/11/10 - 11:00

tauran_shammy wrote: »

gay= likes only cock
bi=likes cock and poontang
straight=likes only poontang

Anyone saying otherwise is in denial.

What has Thai food got to do with it?

tauran_shammy · 06/11/10 - 11:07

lemoncurd wrote: »

What has Thai food got to do with it?

hehe want fried rice with that poontang?

Star_Bright · 06/11/10 - 11:08

I'd classify them as in denial if they are calling themselves straight. They're probs married as well, poor wives :eek:

tauran_shammy · 06/11/10 - 11:17

Star_Bright wrote: »

I'd classify them as in denial if they are calling themselves straight. They're probs married as well, poor wives :eek:

Yup true, a lot of married men seem to be able to justify to themselves that going with another man isnt cheating on a wife.
A lot also rationalize it by saying if another guy is giving them a bj it doesnt make them gay or bi..... strange though because once they have been on the recieving end of same sex oral they usually get "curious" about what it would be like to return the favour.

[Deleted User] · 06/11/10 - 11:25

I think (despite rumours. LOL) straight men are capable of forming deep relationships with their own sex. That these be characterised as evidence of some "repressed gay" tendancy is, at best, wishful thinking, coupled with some personal motive. <G> It's generally held as an insult to Lesbians, that all they need is a "big cock" to convert them to "normality". Live and let live?

tauran_shammy · 06/11/10 - 11:37

Yeah it's like all these guys who fantasize about being in bed with two lesbians, don't they know lesbians wouldn't want to be anywhere near them? A couple of bi chicks though would be a different story.

ohirome · 06/11/10 - 11:41

Flamethrower100 wrote: »

why would a straight dude want to shag another man. for woman it is different, some straight woman will willingy be in a relationship with another woman even if there is no attraction, I don't know why, it just is.

Right so what you're saying is that women are free to sleep with other women and remain heterosexual whilst if a man does it he is clearly a homo? Strange theory there.

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