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Do you ever get jealous of friends?
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Really don't know whats up with me today. Am meeting my friend for a meal tonight but for some reaons not looking forward to it. I work hard in a demanding full-time job and am married and although don't own own property rent a nice little apartment and go on holidays and mnage my finances so that am not always broke yet I feel a bit bitter about my friend she has a detached 4 bedroom,married with two gorgeous young children,has two cars and works part-time. I hate feeling like this it really is not me at all heaven forbid I start falling into this feeling inadequate stage where I feel I have to have everything perfect like they do in the adverts. I don't want to be materialistic but my friend is so maybe that is the issue maybe I don't want to hear about how perfect her life is anymore lol. It's not just my friend though really I get fed up when I hear about anyone who can afford a nice big house,flashcars etc.
Anyway moan over will get back to working hard again!
Anyway moan over will get back to working hard again!
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I understand bondgirl. But, first of all, money doesn't make you happy. Friends and family, a fulfilling job and enjoying your free time makes you happy. And the people who constantly bang on about their brilliant lives can only be doing it out of some feelings of insecurity. Genuinely happy, contented people are more interested in living these great lives than telling other people about them.
Second of all, you don't say how she is able to afford all this on a part time job. Is her husband very well off? Have her parents donated a lot of cash? Maybe she can't afford it at all and she is completely maxed out from a credit point of view?
In any of these situations, you have nothing to be envious about. Take pride in the fact that you have got where you are on your own merit. And congratulate yourself on being sensible enough not to get into a large amount of debt.
I sympathise on the house front, big time, I can't afford one either. However, looks like a price crash might be coming our way. Besides I'd far prefer to have a small flat and a good quality of life than crippling myself with a huge mortgage on a macmansion.
I think he had a point.
It's weird though, you don't know what problems people might have, even though on the surface of it everything looks fine and dandy.
There was a girl I went to school with, I only knew her vaguely as she was in the year below me, but she was incredibly beautiful, talented and always seemed to have lots of friends. I don't remember envying her, exactly, but I thought of her as someone who was very lucky and blessed. Of course, being a teenager, I was utterly convinced that I was the only person in the world who had problems.
I found out years later that she had been dealing with a traumatic and quite scary medical issue at the time. My own problems were pathetic in comparison, yet I thought she was the luckiest girl alive.
Life can be strange
I know what you mean about feeling a bit jealous, but I'd call it envious. There are probably aspects of your life that she is envious off so go to dinner, have a good catch up and relax!
We have all those things
Well lucky you
Maybe you could invite us all round for dinner one day
I often find that the people with the most money deserve it or have worked for it the least. I work my arse off eighteen, yes EIGHTEEN hours a day and can barely rub two pennies together, my aunt hasn't worked in twelve years and still manages at least two month-long holidays a year.
Not fair I tell thee, not fair at all.
I often think, "why not me?" but that is just the way it is. if it was any different, you would have other problems to deal with.