should I text him?
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Hi, I've met a lovely guy and we've had 4 great dates. We got on so well with lots of laughter. I last heard from him (via text) last Friday. On Saturday he moved house so I know he's far to busy to text me but I would have thought he would of answered my text when I wished him luck last Saturday. How long should I leave it till I text him again or should I just wait for him to contact me? X
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Aww that's good
Seriously? Moving house isn't that big an event; once the tv & hi-fi are in place job's a good un. Text him and see how the move went, and when does he fancy a meet-up? He's a bloke; once he's installed in the new pad he'll want to get on with life.
Wow that was rude. She said she was on 4 dates with him so she obviously has the skills to talk to him.
It's far quicker and easier to read a text than call up voice mail and listen to a message, plus its guaranteed the message will get through even if they don't read it immediately, were as if you call and there's no answer the person doesn't know what you're attempting to reach them about even if they see a missed call. A text solves that problem.
If the receiver is in public they don't have to get their phone out and talk in front or people or listen to a message, they can just casually read the screen without interrupting what else is going on at the time.
Maybe if people spoke on the phone then they wouldn't get into a quandary about texts. It's what the thing was invented for.
We have habitual texters and emailers at work. People have a tendency to put these on the back burner as it's always something that you can do later. Those who vocalise get more buy in and more things happen. I can't see how that would be any different out of work.
I assume (hope) that means you got a reply, and a nice one at that. Mind you, it was a little rude of him not to acknowledge your previous text in the first place.
You're assuming they don't want to speak on the phone which is a big assumption.
And a sure fire problem with that is you can't make someone pick up the phone if you call them, and if you want to get through to someone for certain a text message will definitely reach them.
People have been leaving messages and in text form for other people for thousands of years way before the phone was invented. It's a different function and I don't see how it's a negative thing.
I'm not particularity pro text as I use Skype and rarely phone people because I get to talk and see the person but I think text has a great purpose too.
I don't see people complaining about text when they use a forum like this one that is built on the text format. Probably because it's far more useful to them than they realize.
Personally and its only what i would do is to call and have a chat about his place avoid any sort of pressure and just ask if he is free for a drink on xx date.
I think in this case you have tried texting one last try but talking instead ,it would give you more of an idea by his tone if he wants to carry on or not.
Hope this helps good luck.