Guys at hen parties
CloneClown
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I've been invited by a work colleague to their hen party which caught me off guard because I didn't expect such an invitation. I'm not sure whether to go because it all seems very clichéd to invite me if it's partly on the basis that I'm gay? I cringe when I've seen other hens invite their gay [most likely] male friends and they're generally the only guy there. I don't consider her a **** hag so do think she has invited me for genuine friendship reasons but wasn't even expecting an invite to her wedding or evening reception (maybe I still won't get an invite).
Any guys been to a hen do and how did you find it?
Any guys been to a hen do and how did you find it?
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Had this argument with my sister when we were planning her hen do. She has loads of gay friends. Not argument - obviously she could invite who she wanted to her own hen do - but debate, anyway.
They're men who happen to be gay - they're not women! There was no chat about her inviting her straight male friends to her hen do. Honestly I think it's borderline offensive
Maybe the girl means well, but it's kind of saying 'you're gay, so you're clearly one to enjoy girlie things'
Aye but it sounds like the OP has been allowed to go as a guy, because he is gay.I could be wrong like.
My husband and I had a joint stag and hen do. Both of us can't stand the traditional ones so we just made it as an excuse to get as many people together for a pre wedding pissup in some beer gardens in the summer. Teas a great day, afternoon evening out
I think some people are going for more mixed events. It makes sense if their friends are both male and female.
I can see why the OP may feel as if he is being invited as the 'token gay' though.
I myself have only been on a couple of hen nights (quite a few years ago) and they were just pub crawls. Not all hen nights involve male strippers.
Bit of an assumption to assume that just because you're attracted to men means you want to hang out with a load of women, and all that goes with them, I think.
Frankly I loathe both. So no I wouldn't go, unless I was the "entertainment"
Well I don't drink alcohol at all so maybe that is another reasons she would want me around at least I'd remember the way home:D
if it was then said like that then most of my gay friends would find that offensive, they're no more girly than most of my male friends. In fact it is rather offensive, 'gays are girly' yeh that's really nice.
We call them "Sten nights"
Not "Hag nights" then?
I don't mind stag/hen parties. What I don't like is what they have evolved into over the last few years. Nowadays it such things involve a weekend or even a week away, often abroad, doing lots of chiched actitivies such as quad biking or spa visits. A few years ago, a few drinks and perhaps a meal locally were fine, and sensibly priced.