A few hours ago one of my lovely boys was run over by some speeding **** who didn't even bother to stop. I'm absolutely beside myself, I can't quite believe it and miss him more than anything already.
We had two from the same house but different litters, they were 10 months old. I'm worried for the other one, will he realise? What can I expect? They were inseperable in the beginning, and although less so now, still great mates. I feel awful because I got two as I hated the idea of one being on their own when I'm at work, and I really don't like the idea of him going outside either.
Not sure why I am writing, I just don't really know what to do with myself, I am devastated. One thing that has moved me is how kind people I didn't even know where to him, moving him to the verge and looking after him, taking him to the vets although he was already gone and calling us, it meant a lot that someone so kind was with him when he went.
He was just such a lovely, sweet, tinker of a cat and I'm so sad his life was so short.

So sorry to hear of your loss. And I know exactly how you feel. We lost our kitten snowy when he was 7 months old after he was hit by a car. We got him and his sister together so worried how she would be without him but she didn't appear to miss him. We gave her plenty of fuss.

Thank you for your comment, that has helped. He seems OK so far, I know it hasnt been long but they can tell when you're upset. Sorry for your snowy as well. Yeah, he has been inundated with cuddles so far today and I'm sure that will continue.

So sorry to hear of your loss - I have 2 brothers who are almost a year old and I can't imagine what you are going through. I love my boys dearly and they have helped me through a very difficult year - it brings tears to my eyes thinking about losing one of them because of some idiot driving too fast.

I'm sure you will make a lot of fuss of the remaining one who will know that his 'brother' is missing and you can take comfort from each other through this awful time

I am sorry for your loss, this is a horrible experience to have to go through. I would suggest that you do not need to add to your own distress by worrying too much about your cat. You are doing the right thing by giving him extra cuddles and attention, but whilst he will become aware that the other cat is not around, he is not likely to miss him to the same extent that you are. My view is that your pain will be greater than that felt by your remaining cat. Cats vary in their social needs, but it is possible that he will not be too unnerved by the loss of his mate as he is a young cat who is exploring life and taking on new experiences each day. His sense of loss will be less than yours, which I would imagine is very raw at the moment. I hope your pain eases in time.

I feel for your loss, it's never a nice thing to lose a loved one. But do also spare a thought for the drivers too - not all of them are speeding or uncaring.

I once hit a cat - it was quite soon after passing my driving test - I was on my way home, not going too fast, when a cat ran out of the bushes in front of me, straight across the road and I felt the car hit it. To my credit I was already on the brakes as it was streaking across the pavement towards the road, but it ran off afterwards.

We stopped and had a look around to see if we could see it, but it was dark, and the cat had run off.

To this day I don't know what happened to that cat, and I wish I did.

Well this one was speeding in a 30, and didn't even bother to slow down to see what he had hit,, so I don't have any thought or sympathy for him thanks. It was all seen by my neighbour, who picked my cat up off the road and stayed with him as he died. My neighbour was so irate he even called the police, so they were hardly doing 33mph.

I am aware accidents happen, but to not even slow down is callous. So no, they're not in my thoughts right now.

I quite understand your thoughts on this. And yes, it sounds like this driver was going far too fast. I was just pointing out that not all drivers are like that.

I hope your neighbour managed to get the number plate of the car.

It's just a shame that the law doesn't cover cats in the way it does if you hit a dog with a car.

Thank you, I loved him to pieces, and they're a huge part of the family - first time I have seen my OH cry as well so it's a huge shock. Just never thought my day would be working out like this when we were having our lie in & cuddle with the boys this morning. Just too young.
He has been having more cuddles than he knows what to do with


Thank you, I think you are probably right, even if he misses him it won't be in the same way I do, and he has a happy and loving home. I'm just a natural born worrier and him being on his own was one of the first things I thought of. I am guilty of humanising my cats I guess

Thank you for everyones kindness, it means a lot, I hope that doesn't sound silly, I know I don't know anyone, I just needed to get it out somewhere where I'd be understood.

No, I do realise that, it's one of the things that made me so angry. I can understand not even wanting to ring me about it, and just stopping and putting him on the side of the road out the way would've been enough for me, accidents happen. But to just not even slow down and leave him to be potentially run over again is vile. I'm just lucky there were kind people around and he was looked after.

I am so sorry for your loss I know it is so hard 1 of my cats was hit by a speeding car

So sorry about your kitty

Sorry I can't really advise you on what to do about your other cat, just give him lots of fuss

I know how you feel.

Our second cat was run over, while returning from a night out romancing the local females.

He had a broken back and had to be put down, but not before he dragged himself fifty yards from the road to the back door, looking for help.

Unfortunately, with 24 million cars on Britain's roads, it is inevitable that animals, and humans, will, from time to time, be in collision with them.

Tempting as it may seem, I think it would be wrong to try to keep the remaining kitten confined to the house, since they are free spirits, who need fresh air and adventure.

Life can be cruel at times, but we can't let these events rule our lives.

I know you're right, it was just the first thought that came into my head, he hasn't even wanted to go out today but I know I won't be trying to turn him into a indoor cat, especially as he'll need contact with other kitties outside even more now (there's quite a gang of them on our road, get into all kinds of mischief together!). Was just an instant, overprotective thought to be honest.

Oh sweetheart I am so sorry for your loss. Take the time to grieve and give your other puss lots of love and understanding. I know what you are going through - some years ago I had 2 cats, the older one was hit by a car but survived. However, a short time later he died from a related problem. We brought him home to lay to rest in his special place in our large garden. My husband did the honours and made sure the other one wasn't around to see what was going on. But - the younger one was canny and did see and didn't come near my hubby for 3 weeks. Hard to understand, but the poor thing also sat around the grave for quite some time too. All this made me believe that they do grieve. However, mine were older 7 and 8 years - so I think your younger male should be fine, just keep an eye on him.

So sorry to hear about your kitten. It is so sad when they die so young.

I lost a 4 year old cat in a road accident, she and her 'brother' were inseparable and the worst thing was the effect on him. He started pulling his fur out. So we got him a companion, a female kitten. They got on very well - and it made him 'forget' about Cleo, simply because he had to focus on the kitten who wanted his attention!

I did briefly consider keeping my other cats as indoor cats, but it was too impractical - and impossible really as they had enjoyed being outdoors for years already.

Thanks for all your kind words. Hoped I would feel a little bit better by now, but unfortunately not. Feels like a person has gone, not my cat. Crazy how attached you get.

It's not crazy - it just goes to show what a good pet owner you are as your boy was part of the family!!

I know some people "don't get" why losing a pet can be so upsetting but luckily here we all understand!!

Take time to grieve and don't feel guilty for being upset - it's totally normal OP!!

Thank you, he was, he was my little man, there's me and my OH and our two fella's, so they are really part of the family. Still taken me by surprise a bit. I know people here would understand it, I'm just struggling at work - I work on a construction site and I'm not sure all the big, burly engineers will really get it! They probably think I'm ill as I keep dashing off to the loo for a quick cry. Just didn't expect to deal with losing either of them so young.

Poor you I'd be distraught if anything happened to my little girl so I totally understand....

Nowt wrong with being upset - maybe in a few weeks you can do some kind of commeration?? Maybe a rose bush or something??

And you still have your other little guy to keep you going

It is horrid but time will help and of course you never forget!!

My sympathies.

We have two youngish cats and I feel it is almost innevitable at least one will get run over. It's quite a busy cut-through in London and they find their way along the back of the terrace and out onto the road.

They love exploring and come bounding across the road sometimes right in front of cars. It's only through the "9 lives" that they've survived the year we've had them - though it must be more like 99 lives by now!

The would go mad if we kept them in (we do at night, and they do not like it one bit) so I don't see what option there is. We'll be hugely upset when it happens, but although they are sisters, they have a tetchy relationship and I suspect either would quite like to become the sole alpha cat. Might be different in reality of course.

At least you know he is gone - my worst nightmare would be a bad injury which they limp away somewhere with.

I am angry at him, because he never usually goes near the road! The road is out the front and his cat flap is at the back. There is a huge open space and very quiet area round the back, and lots of other peoples gardens to explore, and him and the rest of the neighbourhood gang stuck round there, and never showed any interest in going round the front. I just wish he'd had the usual 9 lives and the maybe he'd still be here.

I think my other will be OK on his own, despite all my worries, he has certainly been lapping up the intention and shown no sign of distress thank heavens, that would've broken my heart just a little bit more.

You're right about knowing - it was the worst phone call to take, but I'm glad he didn't just go missing and leave me hoping, and I got to see him and say goodbye, which was horrible but not sure I would've quite believed it otherwise.

Am missing the little tinker beyond belief.

So sorry for your loss OP, it's so hard when you lose a member of your family. I'm glad you have your other puss to cuddle.

DC
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I am so, so sorry for your loss. What a truly horrible thing to have happened to such a young puss. I would be devastated if anything ever happened to my two. My thoughts are with you and give your other little one a huge hug from me. x

so sorry for your loss, our old cat was run over and killed and a passing police car saw the guy hit him and didnt even stop to check, so the policeman stopped, he was gone already, but the policeman brought him home to us at 1am and he was still warm when he handed his lifeless body over to us. i was distraught, still miss him and its been over 4 years RIP poor guys