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Old 20-04-2010, 21:50
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Dad got his scan results today. He phoned me to say it was positive in that he is allowed to have another three months of chemo, which is aimed at slowing the spread of the cancer. The tumour in his neck, which is a secondary, had also shrunk a little. The cancer was originally in his kidney. Then he said ''and the others aren't any bigger either''. Turns out there are now tumours in his lungs and stomach and he'd been keeping it from me for months. I hate that he feels unable to tell me stuff because he's so worried about how I will cope with it, due to my mental illness. Not knowing everything just makes me worry even more. He realised he'd let it slip by accident and changed the subject, so I let him, as that's what he needs to do at present. I just wish I could be more of a support to him. I'll be heading over for a visit next week though, so need to practice putting on my positive face and letting him think all is well.
Yorkie, what a terrible situation to be in, but it looks to me as though you are offering your dad great support by your willingness to let things be the way he needs them right now. You are each putting the other one first, your dad by trying to protect your feelings, and you by understanding his need to do that. That shows true strength and love, and such caring too.
Of course you can't help but worry, but make the most of your time together next week, we will be thinking of you and sending hugs. Polly x
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Old 20-04-2010, 23:12
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Yorkie, Polly said it all really. I just wanted to offer you a warm, albeit cyber, (((((hug))))) and wish you all the best for your visit next week. Your dad must be proud to have such a loving, sensitive soul as you for a daughter.
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Old 04-05-2010, 20:55
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Hello everyone

How are you all?

Well Im an old married!!

Wedding was fantastic. Everything went perfectly. Even my mother in law was stunned into silence by how great it all was

The day went so fast I can't belive it. Do people want a bloow by blow account?

Everything was just fab! And photographer is gonna use my pictures in wedding magazines!!! Very cool

We got our honeymoon in Florida and it was fab, 4 days at the beach, 3 at universal and 7 in disney. Perfect

Anyway, hope everyone is ok
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Old 04-05-2010, 21:05
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Aww, glad it all went well! Sounds like you had an amazing time
Ooh, wedding magazines - famous!

Ooh, tell us all about it! x
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Old 04-05-2010, 23:13
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Hello Sooty,

Welcome home old married lady. Yes indeedy, we do want a blow by blow account, all the details including how you managed walking in those wonderful shoes. Does the 'blow by blow' comment relate to the mother in law being 'stunned into silence'

Now you are a famous model and going to appear in wedding magazines I do hope you will still be mixing with us plebs and popping in to share chocolate,

Polly xx
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Old 06-05-2010, 20:00
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Welcome home mrs sootygirl!

What a fantastic day you had! I can't wait to hear a full report on it and I'm so pleased your MIL was stunned by it all too! Your honeymoon sounds just as fab as the wedding and by george you both deserve it

lots of love and best wishes to both of you xxxxxxxxxxxx
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Old 06-05-2010, 20:03
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Glad everything went well for you Sooty, you really deserved it
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Old 17-05-2010, 13:36
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Just thought I'd quickly share this poem I wrote the other day.

Who would miss somebody who didn’t exist?
Who never was?
But who could have been.
Does the existence of you in my mind
make me strange?
Make me silly?
Make me human?
One day you will have a brother
or a sister
and I won’t cry for you no more
but I will remember.
I will remember the life that could have been.


(http://www.stupidstupidity.co.uk/201...oem-for-fairy/)
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Old 22-05-2010, 15:48
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Can somebody tell me what this thread is about?
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Old 23-05-2010, 13:32
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Can somebody tell me what this thread is about?
I Think just from skimming over it is for people who have a problem and they can post it and get advice if they didn't feel necessary to make a thread, I think.
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Old 28-05-2010, 20:30
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I Think just from skimming over it is for people who have a problem and they can post it and get advice if they didn't feel necessary to make a thread, I think.
Ah, okay. Thanks!

Might pop in soon then, got alot of stuff on my mind.
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Old 14-06-2010, 20:27
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hi i am a long time lurker and have soooo much on my mind over last few days i've managed to alienate my fantastic girlfriend(now ex) and my 2 best friends i've been a total idiot and its all my fault
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Old 25-06-2010, 12:52
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Sorry to hear debsy hope things are looking a lil clerarer since you posted. This thread goes a bit quiet sometimes, so sorry if u didnt get the replies you deserved

I feel pretty weird and confused today, low and hurty just gotta keep chilled and not be an idiot with it. wish me luck.
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Old 25-06-2010, 16:53
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Hey mathers, hope you're okay? And Debsy, only just seen your post, here if you wanna rant? x
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Old 26-06-2010, 15:26
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hi i am a long time lurker and have soooo much on my mind over last few days i've managed to alienate my fantastic girlfriend(now ex) and my 2 best friends i've been a total idiot and its all my fault
I'm abit of a lurker on here aswell, will be here more often if anyone wants a rant or chat!
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Old 28-06-2010, 17:52
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Hi dudes and dudettes, been a rollercoaster couple of days, really getting on my wick it is. Am all good though, no stupid reactions to it all yet..am in the danger zone today though, all mixed up.

Hope yer all well charliestubbs and bethaneeny
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Old 30-06-2010, 20:22
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arrrrrrrrrrghhhh i just wanna ****ing immolate and crash and burn so bad right now, fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu*k. god how annoying can one headspace be, unrelenting undulation of ecstasy and misery beautiful and terrible fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu*k just give me a break please for the love of god. im sick of being a dick to people cuz of my shit i need to accept the chaos is in here and not out there. dammit.
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Old 03-07-2010, 00:23
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mathers i get what you mean about headspace, i have myself, my bf, all my friends and family driven mad in the last four weeks, before then everything was perfect and in the space of one night everything crashed

iv spent four weeks overanalyzing everything, being needy and insecure and even when something is going my way i worry about how it could so easily disappear. im stuck at home a lot of the day and im so conscious everyone else seems to have a life i just feel trapped, scared and break into tears easily

anyways, don;t mind me, havent gone into details guess was just empathizing a bit about the headspace bit

hope everyone is well
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Old 16-07-2010, 17:32
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hope everyone is ok x
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Old 17-07-2010, 07:08
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hope everyone is ok x
Hi Sal
I am 9 months into my rehab after my massive back operation. Very slow progress with over a year to go before I am recovered. Then it will be as good as it gets. Its been worth it as my sciatica has gone. I am left with limited mobility and extreme soreness.

I have been spying on DS from afar, not posting much. Family life. Not going to go there to keep my sanity.

Like you, hope all present and past members are OK.

Pete
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Old 21-07-2010, 20:41
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bloody families i've had as much as i can take i've told my niece i am disowning her mother along with my 2 other sisters they have stooped to a level i didn't think was humanly possible i really actually hate them right now they have said
the most awful thing they possibly could have done and i will never forgive any of them
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Old 22-07-2010, 00:09
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Hope you're okay Sal, I'm around if you want to talk x
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Old 22-07-2010, 08:59
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bloody families i've had as much as i can take i've told my niece i am disowning her mother along with my 2 other sisters they have stooped to a level i didn't think was humanly possible i really actually hate them right now they have said
the most awful thing they possibly could have done and i will never forgive any of them
I know how you feel. One of my bloody daughters seems intent on wrecking as many lives as possible. Some people are capable of dredging new depthes.
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Old 24-07-2010, 11:36
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I have hardly used this even though it probably would have helped me in the past.

I'm only 19, but I know what it feels like to feel so slow you can't think of anything else but killing yourself. Am I to over the top by saying that, or has the commenting suicide feeling already been mentioned?

I remember not too long a go when I was put on some anti-depressants that sent me really crazy. I couldn't control my body and it was like someone was in my head controlling me. I'd cry and yet no tears would come out. Not sure if that makes sense? At the worse stages I'd be in bed rocking back and forward like some rag doll.

It is the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with, but I am glad I got through it. It would have been so easy to give up and kill myself. I am sure that if we've been in a really low place in ourselves then some of us are bound to think, 'It would be so much easier if I did'.

Anyway. Really nice to know that there are some really supportive members. Well done!

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Old 24-07-2010, 15:10
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welcome tom please pop in anytime
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