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Old 24-07-2010, 15:11
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one of my sisters is intent on ripping the family and all my memories of my dad wide apart and i don't know what to do
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Old 24-07-2010, 15:12
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Not really on topic of the thread, but I do have some good news.

I passed my grade 7 flute, found out yesterday.
First piece - 29/30
Second - 25/30
Third - 28/30

Scales - 15/21
Aural - 13/18
Sightreading - 17/21

Just to let you all know - as I used to be a regular in here
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Old 24-07-2010, 15:13
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Not really on topic of the thread, but I do have some good news.

I passed my grade 7 flute, found out yesterday.
First piece - 29/30
Second - 25/30
Third - 28/30

Scales - 15/21
Aural - 13/18
Sightreading - 17/21

Just to let you all know - as I used to be a regular in here
well done beth good news is most welcome
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Old 24-07-2010, 17:42
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one of my sisters is intent on ripping the family and all my memories of my dad wide apart and i don't know what to do
Hard to call that one Sally. Our errant daughter is doing the same. Me and my better half have decided we are the most important people. Just the two of us, and of course our dogs. We know the truth and cling on to our memories. If the rest of our family really are true to themselves, they will know how to react.

I also said to my daughter, look in the mirror. Do you like the person you see?

We live in own little bubble and do what is best for us. We have also learnt to be selfish. Sad but saves a lot of upset for us. Easy to say hard to do.
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Old 24-07-2010, 19:58
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Hard to call that one Sally. Our errant daughter is doing the same. Me and my better half have decided we are the most important people. Just the two of us, and of course our dogs. We know the truth and cling on to our memories. If the rest of our family really are true to themselves, they will know how to react.

I also said to my daughter, look in the mirror. Do you like the person you see?

We live in own little bubble and do what is best for us. We have also learnt to be selfish. Sad but saves a lot of upset for us. Easy to say hard to do.
i'm so confused i dont know who or what to believe right now
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Old 25-07-2010, 13:42
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I spent most of my life trying to love and be loved by my family, I could never understand why there was an ingrained need for them to have somebody else in the family (anybody - whoever was most vulnerable at the time) to blame, to slag off, to gossip about, to scorn, to pick on. Sometimes I was the victim, sometimes my youngest brother, sometimes my sister - we all seemed to have to take our turn sooner or later. There was always SOMEBODY in the family who was the current outcast.

One day I realised I'd had enough of playing their games and moved 600 miles away. They all said I'd miss "home", that I was doing the wrong thing, that I'd gone a bit mad. I didn't, I wasn't and I hadn't.

It's not easy walking away from your family. They are all you know - even when they're being horrible you feel "safe", "familiar" and "comfortable". But I tell you what, I now know that I'd never felt truly happy, worthy or content until I walked away from them, and I've never looked back.

Pete and Sally, put your own life and happiness first. Concentrate on what and who makes you happy and, I know it's an old chestnut, but try not to worry or even think about things or people you can't change.

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Old 25-07-2010, 18:23
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One day I realised I'd had enough of playing their games and moved 600 miles away. They all said I'd miss "home", that I was doing the wrong thing, that I'd gone a bit mad. I didn't, I wasn't and I hadn't.

It's not easy walking away from your family. They are all you know - even when they're being horrible you feel "safe", "familiar" and "comfortable". But I tell you what, I now know that I'd never felt truly happy, worthy or content until I walked away from them, and I've never looked back.

Pete and Sally, put your own life and happiness first. Concentrate on what and who makes you happy and, I know it's an old chestnut, but try not to worry or even think about things or people you can't change.

xxx
Strangely Lorry, we did a similar thing some years ago. Move away from our families. Like you it was a huge turning point for the better in our lives.

You are so right about:-
put your own life and happiness first
The past few months have really brought that home to us. Sometimes the obvious doesn't always strike us.

Your words are so true.
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Old 25-07-2010, 20:05
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Strangely Lorry, we did a similar thing some years ago. Move away from our families. Like you it was a huge turning point for the better in our lives.

You are so right about:-The past few months have really brought that home to us. Sometimes the obvious doesn't always strike us.

Your words are so true.
we did the moving away thing back in 2005 300 miles i think i'm just going to ignore what she is saying ignorance is bliss and all that i wish i'd never heard what she was spouting cos now the seeds of doubt have been planted i don't quite know what my next move is now
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Old 25-07-2010, 23:43
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we did the moving away thing back in 2005 300 miles i think i'm just going to ignore what she is saying ignorance is bliss and all that i wish i'd never heard what she was spouting cos now the seeds of doubt have been planted i don't quite know what my next move is now
Good on you Sally. Don't let those seeds of doubt germinate, whatever they are, but instead follow your own heart.

p.s. Beth - well done on those fantastic results!
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Old 25-07-2010, 23:55
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Hey guys, I needed to post this somewhere and didn't want to make a new thread. Basically I am meant to be going on holiday tomorrow but I don't think I can do it anymore. I have been worrying all day, dodgy stomach, lost my appetite, close to tears. I am crying now because I think I am being weird but I can't go now no matter how much money I have spent.

I have had these irrational fears all week that there will be a train crash or a terror attack on the train that I will be on and I will die.

I am so scared I feel like I am going to stop breathing. Please help I feel in a terrible state
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Old 26-07-2010, 10:25
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hi davey sorry only just logged in how you feeling now where are you going
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Old 26-07-2010, 15:50
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Hi all.
I've not posted in here for ages, just don't seem to have the time.
I just thought I'd pop in and say thanks to everyone on here that encouraged me to do the open uni. I completed my first course in June, though I haven't got results and will probably not have passed. But anyway despite that I've just register for a second course starting in October and am looking forward too it.
I'd just like to thank you all, and you know who you are for encouraging me.
Life apart from study is up and down and down and up like everyone else.
I hope everyone is reasonably ok, both old and new members.
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Old 27-07-2010, 09:50
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hi davey sorry only just logged in how you feeling now where are you going
Hi. I am in Brighton. I managed to do it but I was so scared. It was the first time I had ever been in London Underground. My friend helped me calm down throughout the journey. I just felt like such an idiot really. I am going to enjoy my time here though and not think about the journey back.

I am just glad this place is here so I can be honest.
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Old 27-07-2010, 17:22
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I have started one of these Crisis Support Groups on TiBB. It is another Big Brother forum, but has other forums as well, just like DS has.

The responses I have got are awful.

People being all jokey and saying they need help because they have to keep reading my threads. Apparently people shouldn't be getting support and advice off people off a forum and should instead be going doctors or something.

I did explain that some people can't do this and the forum is a big part of their life because they don't have much of one. I also explained it is much easier to chat with people on a forum rather than talking to someone or seeing someone. In difficult situations we sometimes can't talk to friends/family really close to us; i know i didn't want to.

I would link it, but I don't think I am allowed. It is in the General Discussion forum of TiBB.
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Old 30-07-2010, 19:25
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Hi everyone. I'm back home now... sorry for my hysterical ranting earlier in the week. I felt very stressed about the journey back, but me and my friend got chatting to somebody on the train and we made friends with him and I felt a bit more relaxed, weirdly... I'm just glad to be back ok... the worries have stopped now!
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Old 30-07-2010, 19:36
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i don't quite know where to start i'm in love with a friend who has no idea how i feel and i know i'm so deeply in the friend zone its not true
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Old 01-08-2010, 23:13
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Could do with some advice...Long medical history, which I won't bother with for now, but after seeing my GP on Thursday, he's said he wants to put me in touch with the mental health link worker. I've already had contact with my local crisis team earlier this year, but wondered if anyone knows what a link worker is supposed to do, and what I can expect?
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Old 02-08-2010, 20:12
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Could do with some advice...Long medical history, which I won't bother with for now, but after seeing my GP on Thursday, he's said he wants to put me in touch with the mental health link worker. I've already had contact with my local crisis team earlier this year, but wondered if anyone knows what a link worker is supposed to do, and what I can expect?
hi jess mental health varies from health authority to authority yours could be called a link worker but others may call it something else our crisis team was brilliant here
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Old 02-08-2010, 21:35
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Just popping in to make sure everyone's okay, you're all welcome to PM me at anytime if you need, or just want someone to talk to x
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Old 03-08-2010, 08:47
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Could do with some advice...Long medical history, which I won't bother with for now, but after seeing my GP on Thursday, he's said he wants to put me in touch with the mental health link worker. I've already had contact with my local crisis team earlier this year, but wondered if anyone knows what a link worker is supposed to do, and what I can expect?
Hi Jess, from what I remember the link worker just popped in every few days, asked how I was etc.
I found it pretty useless, but its good for some
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Old 07-08-2010, 22:02
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Hi Jess, from what I remember the link worker just popped in every few days, asked how I was etc.
I found it pretty useless, but its good for some
Thanks for that, sounds like pretty much what the crisis team ended up doing towards the ned of my contact with them, which was at times helpful, other times fairly pointless. I've got an appointment with her on Monday at the surgery, so we'll see what comes of that.
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Old 07-08-2010, 22:51
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hope it goes well jess do let us know
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Old 12-08-2010, 09:43
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Hey, just come on here to say anyone who wants to PM me can, will be on here more for anymore to talk...
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Old 12-08-2010, 23:11
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Hi guys, i lost my mum 5 years ago, then two weeks ago my aunty died, then on sunday my uncle died, anyone got any advice on how to cope with greif, not really sure how to handle it all, at the moment i just feel numb.
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Old 13-08-2010, 00:13
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Thanks for that, sounds like pretty much what the crisis team ended up doing towards the ned of my contact with them, which was at times helpful, other times fairly pointless. I've got an appointment with her on Monday at the surgery, so we'll see what comes of that.
It was pretty much a waste of time, felt like a box ticking exercise TBH ('jessca has been referred to link services, has had other agencies signposted to her'). Two potential positives though - they've agreed I can change my AD's and it's clear that my condition hasn't improved since February, which means I stand a better chance of having my Employment & Support Allowance reinstated, although I won't hold my breath on that one.
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