Originally Posted by NewbieCanuck:
“Yes, Rose ran off with him. And I had no objection to Martha doing the same. But Rose's love grew slowly, as she grew to know him. Rose had two series to fall in love with him, while Martha had only one in which to fall in and out of it.
It's just not the story arc I would have chosen. I'd have prefered a relationship more like the one he had with Donna, or at least one where he was kinder to her. It's not only that Martha loved someone who didn't love her back, it's that she loved someone who really treated her quite shabbily. Really no excuse for that. His loss of Rose was much fresher in Runaway Bride and he treated Donna much better.”
I don't feel that Rose's love grew slowly....her acceptance came slowly to us as the audience, definitely...but there were huge hints that both Rose and the Doctor loved each, or fancied each other or whatever (and no I don't believe they are soulmates, one was a bored teenage girl, who met a very fascinating man, and the other was a lonely Timelord with a baggage, and she just happend to be the one he was able to share it with, and therefore loved her for it). For example, even though Rose herself didn't declare her "love" for the Doctor untill Doomsday, they were practically suggesting that they were in love for example when Rose says to Mickey that he is more than a boyfriend, Adam suggests that he can't compete with the Doctor, and Rose doesn't really deny it, heck even the Dalek knew!!

So even though Rose may not mention it, there are many hints that there is feelings between both that goes futher than friendship...
But the difference between Martha and Rose is that, Rose started off as not really being admittant to it, to becoming more and more needy and jealous at times, one day would have come that she would have wanted to go that extra step as such. But Martha on the other hand, started off needy (in terms of her feelings), but became more independent, and realistic of her feelings towards the Doctor. Because they are both different, and different people handle things differently. If they had done a similar thing with Martha as they had done with Rose ie admitting that she was in love with him two series down the line...then it would have definitely been a repeat of what we had with Rose. and then basically Martha would have been just like Rose. But the unrequited love story did make it different, and personalised Martha's journey with the Doctor.
In terms of Donna, well lets not forget they were both not very nice to each other at the start!!!

So I would agree with Shinyteapot here...but on top of that, I feel the Doctor became a busy bee, therefore had less chance to think about making quips at Donna in the same way he had with Martha. Plus who knows how long he was by himself before he met Martha, and therefore she became the official companion to travel with him after Rose, and in his head comparisons started, and seeing Martha's interest in him, his reaction was to ignore. And sometimes that idiot sent out the wrong messages. He could have not kissed her, or at least told her that this is a genetic transfer, he just kissed her and said it doesn't mean anything (yeah whatever

) . And yes she knew afterwards why, but that doesn't stop or make her forget the feelings that she felt at the time.
Originally Posted by
Shinyteapot:
“Indeed he did. I wonder if part of the reason he treated Martha so badly was because he was put off by her feelings for him, which wasn't an issue with Donna? Or maybe he felt more able to empathise with Donna- after all, he was watching her lose the man she loved in an even worse manner- finding out he'd been using her all along as part of the Racnoss' scheme, on their weddding day no less. She might have been a bit shouty during that episode, but still, you wouldn't wish that on anyone
Poor Donna, she thought she'd found the man of her dreams and he turned out to be not only a horrible person, but a giant spider's pet!”
Originally Posted by NewbieCanuck:
“Althought we learned later on in the series that he's not only not better than that, he's a good deal worse than that. At least he didn't abandon Martha on a space station millions of years out of her time. And come to think of it - wasn't everyone but Jack dead at that point? Pretty nasty place to leave someone.
Interesting - in another thread (about who should play the Master after John Simm), someone suggested an actor and someone else snearingly said that the BBC wouldn't cast a black actor as a villain. But that's nonsense. Donna's fiancé was clearly a villain - arguably more of a villain than the Racnoss empress, as he was betraying his species.
One thing we have to keep in mind in all this is that the Doctor, Martha, Donna, et al aren't real. Their actions are the result of a story that RTD wanted to tell. So all my criticism of the Doctor for cruelty or Martha for being foolish is really criticism of RTD choosing to tell that story over another one. It wasn't the story I was expecting when we were told about Martha - I was thinking here's this bright, ambitious young woman with a larger, educated, successful family - an interesting contrast to the Tylers. Her family was also badly served by the scripts. Except for her mother, they were barely developed at all, and because of her mother being deceived by Mr Saxon, it was never possible to warm to her either.”
Your right, ofcousre they are not real. And really I should be a bit clear when I am trying to explain things in that I am not asking anyone to agree with me, or to start saying that you shouldn't be annoyed with another love story because I am not. No, all I am doing is explaining why I feel it makes sense, especially in hindsight. I knew there was going to be an unrequited love story, as RTD had said so interviews, so maybe I was ready for it. But what made it much easier for me is that Martha become a better person for it, and the Doctor was able to come to terms with knowing that he could have a companion around him without the need to keep pushing them away because he is scared to get as close as he did with Rose (and at the same time sending mix messages, he had a chance to clear the air many times, like after the family of Blood where Martha for the first time makes it clear she loves him)...hence Donna, and making sure where they stand before he let her on baord the Tardis. I would have got annoyed if Martha had continued this unrequited love story, in the same way I get annoyed with my friend who keeps going back to the guy that treats her so badly (and yes even the Doctor hasn't been that bad to Martha compared to this guy!!)...so basically even though I agree that RTD and co chose to these themes, and ideas, they could have not made her fancy him and so forth....but because I like the way the Doctor's character has developed due to having Martha falling for him, it really feels like a natural progression for the character, and for Martha, who then would have just been a companion, yes strong minded, clever, educated, grounded, and something to go back home to. It may have worked, it may not have, but I have to admit....that this so called perfect Martha, is a bit boring. The love sick puppy gave her a flaw, whivh in the end made her an even better person.
Rose went with the Doctor, because she was a bored shop girl, and had a boring boyfriend...and a boring life...and fell in love with this extra-ordinary man....which became her downfall...but she become stronger and confident to fight aliens and monsters....but she can't get over the Doctor.
Martha, everything going for her, education, carear...but she became a fool in love, only to realise that she is better than that, and now fights aliens, has got married to a man she loves and respects the Doctor and still cares for him deeply....
Donna, Lance made her feel worthless, she already felt like that, but she was good at pretending and accepting that life was great, and it was all about the X factor and latest pringle flavour, what else was there in the world, but the Doctor made her feel special, and she wanted to walk in the dust to be special, not because she was bored (as we see she enjoyed temping)...and when she finally does accept that she is specail...everthing that made her realise so is taken away from her...
You see all those three stories end in different ways, and I think they not only make sense it making the characters normal and real, but also have a proper character developments, even if we don't like these developments....but that is what brings the reality of it. It would be nice if everything had a happy ending (the irony is that the person that was treated the worst actually does)...and life was smooth...but it isn't. And I like that RTD and Co bring that into it. And in the end...all that happens to the companions, has a big effect on the Doctor too...
We will probably never agree...but all I am saying is that for me these threads and themes work....more so in hidsight.