Originally Posted by Revenga:
“Yeah, I know that's the "reason", but I really don't buy it at all.
Wilf was heroic. He was more than prepared to die in the fight, even at the end he told the Doctor to leave him, and he WOULD have died. The Doctor had a crisis about it even though he'd survive, albeit in a new form.”
There are two ways of looking at this I can see. From one perspective we are told how it feels within the fictional universe. Like it or not, they're the rules as they're told to us. It is stated that it is like a new man saunters off.
The other, more interesting for me, view is looking at how memory work. Most people think memory is like a recording that gets played back. Actually, research has shown that memory is far more like a simulation, a recreation, of certain 'key facts' interpreted with the current mental state as a background. This is why, when you remember yourself thinking things as a child, they sound far more 'adult' than you could have possibly been at that time. This can also be seen in people who have lost use of certain areas of V2 (secondary visual cortex) through strokes, head trauma, etc. Complex concepts like faces are recognised by specific, specialised areas of V2 and when these are knocked out the person cannot remember faces any more. The memory traces are stored elsewhere, but without the bit of the brain to simulate what's in those traces the memory is effectively gone.
Imagine a dramatic shift of personality then; suddenly those memories of being Ten, once you're Eleven, sound like being Eleven doing things that look inexplicable to your new personality. You'd think of them differently, and remember them differently. This more than justifies, to me, the idea of regeneration being like your existing self dying. It is far more realistic to me than the idea of just carrying on.