Originally Posted by imnotjesus A close family member of mine was gay, he didnt tell alot of his family until very close to his death, and even at the point of knowing he was dying his mother and brother refused to accept it. Although they said they loved him they would not go to visit him before he died. There are alot of issues involved with "coming out of the closet", and its not something any outsider can understand. Alot of the time its not the shame a person feels for themself, but rather the risk of losing loved ones and friends. I know we seem to live in a modern world now where being homosexual or bisexual is accepted and embraced, but we really dont. Religion and stereotyping still plays a big part in the lack of real acceptance. /////
my interratation of the above paragraph is had the person come out years b4 his passinh maybe his/ parents would have had more time to get used to the idea and become more accepting of his sexuality and persona.
communication was clearly lacking in this relationship(or so it seems). it seems to me as if the rellies really didn't know him and that is very sad indeed.
as for his brother and mother..well that is a whole other conversation. oh, and they didn't love him. they clearly don't understand the meaning of the word. and that is a shame as they never got to know their son/brother.