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Old 06-08-2010, 10:47
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Do strippers really get erections and wave them around and do women even touch them or am I being misguided by what I see and hear?

Please help because I'm clueless and actually really anxious about them because my gf often goes to hen nights and the like and the idea fills me with dread. Seeing a naked man and having a laugh is not the end of the world, but if he is waving an erection around I think a line has been crossed and even worse if he's goading women into touching him it stops being a laugh and it becomes sexual contact in my eyes

What's the truth dare I ask
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Old 06-08-2010, 10:51
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If she was going to cheat on you, she would have done it long before seeing a knob on a dancer.
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Old 06-08-2010, 10:52
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Yes, that's exactly the sort of thing that happens.

I had a friend who talked me into going to one of these shows. I didn't want to go, but she was dead keen and had already bought the tickets so I didn't want to let her down.

I hated it. I can't explain why, but I found it really, really depressing. I'd never go to another one.
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Old 06-08-2010, 10:53
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If she was going to cheat on you, she would have done it long before seeing a knob on a dancer.
Erm... I didn't ask about that.


Yes, that's exactly the sort of thing that happens.
Uh oh. My heart just sank a bit.
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Old 06-08-2010, 10:57
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Yes, that's exactly the sort of thing that happens.

I had a friend who talked me into going to one of these shows. I didn't want to go, but she was dead keen and had already bought the tickets so I didn't want to let her down.

I hated it. I can't explain why, but I found it really, really depressing. I'd never go to another one.

Oh god soooo depressing, the day I get so desperate that I have to pay to see a mans willy is going to be one sad day.

Tbh, I find all 'girls night out' activities cringeworthy.
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Old 06-08-2010, 10:57
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Go on to You Porn and search for 'females have fun at male stripper party' There's plenty of clips around.

Full.on.sex.
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Old 06-08-2010, 11:00
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Its much the same as what goes on when you have a dance from a girl at a strip club, but swap the breasts waving in your face for genitals.

The strippers usually go around the room and pick out girls to do things to like squirt cream or peel a banana with their teeth, but if the girl doesn't want to they wont bother her usually. So don't worry. Its mainly a huge laugh and giggle for the girls.

And much as they dismiss it, they use elastic bands
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Old 06-08-2010, 11:00
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Why'd I click this thread. Stiff willies... no thanks.
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Old 06-08-2010, 11:01
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Erm, I'm not 100% sure but I think it varies depending on the type of crowd, from full on sex parties to innocent flashing of a bit of nob. Id say brit girls hen parties would go for the latter. Just an educated guess mind..
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Old 06-08-2010, 11:01
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Erm... I didn't ask about that.
Well what are you worried about then? That she might see an erect penis apart from yours? Do you think she might be overcome at the sight of it?

Seriously, you need to think why it's a problem for you.

I've seen one years ago (stripper that is!) and it was rubbish, not sexy or turn-on-able.
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Old 06-08-2010, 11:04
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I remember going on my (now ex) sister in law's hen weekend to Blackpool (stag and hen central!)

We went to a male lap-dancing place and I found it really quite depressing. We never stayed long, as the hen's mum was not too pleased.
It was overpriced drinks, a club full of women, with the "lapdancers" just walking about dressed up as soldiers, firemen etc.

The hen did get a private dance (cringe I know!) which she claims involved him waggling it about.
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Old 06-08-2010, 11:05
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Well what are you worried about then? That she might see an erect penis apart from yours? Do you think she might be overcome at the sight of it?

Seriously, you need to think why it's a problem for you.

I've seen one years ago (stripper that is!) and it was rubbish, not sexy or turn-on-able.
No I just thought it seemed quite sexual and more than just a laugh. I'm mad about her tbh and I'm only human. Probably a bit naive about these kinda things but hey ho...
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Old 06-08-2010, 11:09
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No I just thought it seemed quite sexual and more than just a laugh. I'm mad about her tbh and I'm only human. Probably a bit naive about these kinda things but hey ho...

It's not my cup of tea but I really wouldn't worry about it. Most women would see this as a laugh at best and sleazy at worst.

I've only once seen a strippogram and to be honest, he seemed a bit sad - funny enough when he was taking his clothes off but ridiculous when he had to gather them up and leave.
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Old 06-08-2010, 11:19
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OP, every strip show is different - it depends on the venue, the crowd and what the stripper has been booked to do. Some women start screeching, whistling and carrying on as if they're on heat, some just sit there laughing at what's going on. No sex takes place (not in front of the audience anyway ), and strippers allow a bit of touching/stroking (the whipped cream, chocolate), but not actual groping. The women who want to touch the strippers don't need much encouragement to do so, and experienced strippers can usually tell which women are happy to just look, have a bit of a laugh but don't want to become the focus of attention.

If you honestly believe that a stripper doing what a stripper does could constitute sexual contact, then your problem isn't with the stripper or even the event itself. It's with not believing your girlfriend can go to one of these events, have a good time, but not do anything that involves touching the stripper. Even if she did touch them, that contact isn't the same as her sexual contact with you, and if you really think it is then I think you should talk to her about that and try to relax, as she's entitled to her fun even if you wouldn't enjoy it.
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Old 06-08-2010, 11:25
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Do strippers really get erections and wave them around and do women even touch them or am I being misguided by what I see and hear?

Please help because I'm clueless and actually really anxious about them because my gf often goes to hen nights and the like and the idea fills me with dread. Seeing a naked man and having a laugh is not the end of the world, but if he is waving an erection around I think a line has been crossed and even worse if he's goading women into touching him it stops being a laugh and it becomes sexual contact in my eyes

What's the truth dare I ask
Why don't you just ask her what happens?
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Old 06-08-2010, 11:36
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I must say though, fair play to the OP's honesty.

In the main, most men hide feelings like this
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Old 06-08-2010, 11:37
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I know that some will put an audience members head under a cloak, towel, whatever and the audience member will be quite at liberty to suck on his member.

I just missed out on it happening to me. This was at a gay club with a straight stripper so maybe he needed a top up.

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Old 06-08-2010, 11:47
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I must say though, fair play to the OP's honesty.

In the main, most men hide feelings like this
Thanks, I do appreciate that.

OP, every strip show is different - it depends on the venue, the crowd and what the stripper has been booked to do. Some women start screeching, whistling and carrying on as if they're on heat, some just sit there laughing at what's going on. No sex takes place (not in front of the audience anyway ), and strippers allow a bit of touching/stroking (the whipped cream, chocolate), but not actual groping. The women who want to touch the strippers don't need much encouragement to do so, and experienced strippers can usually tell which women are happy to just look, have a bit of a laugh but don't want to become the focus of attention.

If you honestly believe that a stripper doing what a stripper does could constitute sexual contact, then your problem isn't with the stripper or even the event itself. It's with not believing your girlfriend can go to one of these events, have a good time, but not do anything that involves touching the stripper. Even if she did touch them, that contact isn't the same as her sexual contact with you, and if you really think it is then I think you should talk to her about that and try to relax, as she's entitled to her fun even if you wouldn't enjoy it.
Good explanation cheers! Really good actually. I suppose like all things like this, it's best just to talk to her about it instead of asking others. I'm pretty conscious about just wading in there and asking questions that would make her feel uncomfortable and she'd probably end up not going which isn't what I want. Well I don't want her to go but I want her to not go because of something other than me putting her off.

I just wanted to know more about it and what goes on and get an idea of the situation.
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Old 06-08-2010, 11:47
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I know that some will put an audience members head under a cloak, towel, whatever and the audience member will be quite at liberty to suck on his member.

I just missed out on it happening to me. This was at a gay club with a straight stripper so maybe he needed a top up.

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Maybe you need to sit nearer the front next time.
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Old 06-08-2010, 11:49
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Why don't you just ask her what happens?
Or why not become a male stripper yourself and experience events from the inside.
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Old 06-08-2010, 11:52
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Maybe you need to sit nearer the front next time.
You couldn't get keener than me - my friend copped it.

I was always unlucky that way - one of the few times I did get picked I was handcuffed and stripped myself (on a Sunday lunchtime too).

Never went to his shows again!

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Old 06-08-2010, 11:53
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Or why not become a male stripper yourself and experience events from the inside.

She couldn't really complain if you did - and if she did you'd have grounds for suspicion

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Old 06-08-2010, 12:08
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cant understand anyone even interested in any man with clothes off, there far better covered up..
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Old 06-08-2010, 12:10
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a lot of women do not get turned on by seeing an erection dont worry i think your gf probably goes to these places for a laugh only
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Old 06-08-2010, 12:11
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They make me shudder and not in a good way

The worst one I saw was a guy who blindfolded the girl and tied her to a chair with her hands behind her back then got a snake (and thats not a metaphor!!) out of a bag and let it crawl up her skirt.

I honestly nearly threw up.
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