Hi Reddress i couldnt quote you cos now in new thread. Thanks for your advise, youre quite right dating web sites only reinforce to me how difficult it is to meet a guy who wont be put off by my illness. Ive been housebound for 10years and only got well enuf to use a computer in the last couple of years, then had big set back as had to have heart surgary last year (unrelated to M.E) and am only really now back at the level i was at before the op. I am so so appreciative to be welll enuf to go online, and being on the thread sharing my JJJ obsession with you lot has been a real joy. I think you hit the nail on the head in that im so used to being so limited and so isolated cos of illness that its really dented my confidence and for a long time i felt it was sg i needed to apologise for and thought new people wouldnt understand. I think it helps that M.E is more accepted as a real illness now than when i was first diagnosed. For most of the 10 years i was so ill it seemed inconcievable that i would ever be as "well" as i am now, even tho i am still very limited i can go online, watch tv (tv for the first 2 years was sg i could only do in 10 minute sessions before getting out of breath) and manage by myself alot more and so i am wanting to make new friends and would like to create more opportunities for myself to meet someone. I would like to think there is a guy out there who wouldndt be put off by my condition and the limits it would impose on a relationship, maybe dating sites are not the right place to find that guy but i think its just made me feel im doing sg proactive to meet someone. I will take your advise and try and find otherways to meet people. Am really loving that we are keeping the thread going, and looking forward to the web chat later. I wonder if Josie will have a big nite out over the weekend while john is on his P.As. Wonder if shes seen anything of Jo and others from the house.