Originally Posted by Balgal:
“Pops......very sorry to learn of your situation. I can so empathize...My mother had Alz for 2-3 years before she passed away three years ago. It is certainly a cruel and perhaps even worse a helpless disease. My mother was so fun loving and full of life and really soft and kind hearted......the early stages which are horrible because of the odd moments of clarity, change quite quickly sometimes and it's just like watching this wonderfull human, unravel, before your very eyes. It is so sad. I felt like I was in a constant state of mourning (and I was in retrospect), prior to her death. Mind you she was in her mid 80's when she died so she had actually had a fantastic and long life...I feel privileged to have had a Mother for such a large portion of my life......but when she did actually die, I have to say that it was one of the happiest days of my life......knowing that she had finally been set free from whatever state of nothingness that had gone before.......I didn't feel bad at all and realised that I had already done all my grieving. So, bear with it and perhaps the less your Mother knows and the less she recognises, the better for her.......not you.....but her and that is the most important thing...... Chin up.....life can be cruel.....you can only do your best and YES your best IS good enough.....it is no more than our Mothers require.
xx”
Thank you so much. You've just put it into words, as Jjlover said, it's really hard talking to people who haven't gone through it. Usually use humour to get through it as you're right, it's so helpless. Didn't quite realise how close the sadness is to the surface, but what you wrote just made me cry so much for her, my family and me. She has early-onset, so I feel like my dad has been cheated.
Honestly, thank you all of you who have posted. I know it's completely off topic, and quite depressing so I hope no-one minds. It's just lovely that you 3 are willing to revisit your own pain to share with other people.
Back to the fluff. Huge hugs xxx