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Old 12-12-2010, 17:49
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it seems this forum is getting worse and worse to me, the general bitchiness, snide comments and what appears to be general hate towards contestants, Pro dancers, the hosts..band.....you name it, i sometimes wonder why some even watch the damn thing at all.

Some of the names on here given to the contestants, i mean, (yes, looking at you Non appreciation) do they really deserve such nastiness?
I haven't spent much time on the Non App thread this year (haven't really spent much tome on DS, full stop) so I may have it wrong, but in the days when I was a regular, we would sometimes read strictures about Non App in other threads that weren't accurate. People on there were being witty rather than bitchy or nasty, though admittedly there was the odd posting that crossed the line. Even the nicknames were given more in amusement than in malice. That might have changed this year, or the tone of the thread may have soured, but it has never hitherto been a bitchy thread. In fact, it has consistently been one of the least nasty (bar the appreciation section).

It might have changed since I left it (and I admit that I initially left because of posts from newer members). That would be sad. It was always a good laugh...
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Old 12-12-2010, 17:51
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I think it has been particularly bad this year, I have never read such nasty comments, I almost stopped coming on. I've never had to defend my favourite couple as much as I have this year. Spoils it in a way but it's the nature of the show and won't ever change.
Clearly you never went on the Beeb forums. They were downright nasty in the final weeks of a series. Perhaps some of the posters have migrated across now those forums are no more.

I don't think it's jealousy that drives the nastiness (although it could be a reason why someone doesn't like a particular contestant) but just plain fear that their favourite might not win. For example Kara or Matt fans seeing the other one as the biggest threat to their own favourite (if they both get through tonight, it'll be tin hat time next week).

Just to add, not everyone is nasty, but I guess we all vent our frustrations in different ways.
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Old 12-12-2010, 17:53
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Clearly you never went on the Beeb forums. They were downright nasty in the final weeks of a series. Perhaps some of the posters have migrated across now those forums are no more.

I don't think it's jealousy that drives the nastiness (although it could be a reason why someone doesn't like a particular contestant) but just plain fear that their favourite might not win. For example Kara or Matt fans seeing the other one as the biggest threat to their own favourite (if they both get through tonight, it'll be tin hat time next week).

Just to add, not everyone is nasty, but I guess we all vent our frustrations in different ways.
I think it is often frustration at perceived injustices, or an (over)reaction to the nonsense spouted by the contestants, the judges and Tess.
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Old 12-12-2010, 17:56
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It might have changed since I left it (and I admit that I initially left because of posts from newer members).
Come back!
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Old 12-12-2010, 17:58
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I believe I might, Non Goalie...
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Old 12-12-2010, 18:22
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Your quite right the general nastiness here does spoil things, some people continually try to dress up nasty comments personal insults and abuse as an opinion or negative comment which it is clearly not.
Yes I think that includes those that attacked that nice old lady AW who competed despite a painful arthritic condition. That bag Alesha was rattling in the mail today probably feels guilty about not giving fair scores to other celebs in order to get rid of AW. She's still at it. Reckons the choice should be down to 11million voters - that gives some insight into how thick skinned she is. We have people rolling on about hate - please these people ain't worth the effort.
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Old 12-12-2010, 18:47
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Yes I think that includes those that attacked that nice old lady AW who competed despite a painful arthritic condition. That bag Alesha was rattling in the mail today probably feels guilty about not giving fair scores to other celebs in order to get rid of AW. She's still at it. Reckons the choice should be down to 11million voters - that gives some insight into how thick skinned she is. We have people rolling on about hate - please these people ain't worth the effort.
BIB1 -Exercise and its subsequent weight loss can actually help those with arthritis, it probably did her the world of good.

BIB2 - The choice was down to the viewers, they didnt vote for AW that week ergo she said Goodbye Widdy.
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Old 12-12-2010, 18:59
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BIB1 -Exercise and its subsequent weight loss can actually help those with arthritis, it probably did her the world of good.

BIB2 - The choice was down to the viewers, they didnt vote for AW that week ergo she said Goodbye Widdy.
Depends how bad the condition is my Gran had to pack up helping polio kids down her local pool at ninety because of it. She lived till 95 but the last few years were fraught. That's what I admired about AW her dedication to duty an altruism that in the permissive's society gets short shrift.

I can't say too much about the second yet but the same corrupt judges practices decided who would be in the final.
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Old 12-12-2010, 19:08
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Depends how bad the condition is my Gran had to pack up helping polio kids down her local pool at ninety because of it. She lived till 95 but the last few years were fraught. That's what I admired about AW her dedication to duty an altruism that in the permissive's society gets short shrift.

I can't say too much about the second yet but the same corrupt judges practices decided who would be in the final.
BIB1 - I think I can safely use my professional judgement to say Ann's condition didnt seem to impair her one little bit.

BIB2 - Those permissive rampant druids eh? They get everywhere!

BIB3 - Again, its down to the public votes. How can people still think the judges have the final say? The dance off is gone...the public votes take precedence. If the public do not vote, that person is gone! Duh!
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Old 12-12-2010, 19:27
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BIB1 - I think I can safely use my professional judgement to say Ann's condition didnt seem to impair her one little bit.

BIB2 - Those permissive rampant druids eh? They get everywhere!

BIB3 - Again, its down to the public votes. How can people still think the judges have the final say? The dance off is gone...the public votes take precedence. If the public do not vote, that person is gone! Duh!
2. That was their problem they weren't rampant enough

3. OK So shall we say you know half the voting pattern in advance which the judges do. They may get a nasty surprise occasionally but mostly they know who the public vote for. It don't take a genius to decide who to award marks to in order to achieve the passage of their favourites.
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Old 12-12-2010, 19:38
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Yes I think that includes those that attacked that nice old lady AW who competed despite a painful arthritic condition. That bag Alesha was rattling in the mail today probably feels guilty about not giving fair scores to other celebs in order to get rid of AW. She's still at it. Reckons the choice should be down to 11million voters - that gives some insight into how thick skinned she is. We have people rolling on about hate - please these people ain't worth the effort.
Other than her dancing (obviously) is there any other evidence for this arthritic condition?
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Old 12-12-2010, 20:07
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The answer to the OP's question is routed in psychology, so Pamela may be able to answer it. It basically boils down to human negativity which may stem from self loathing, envy, rage at the world, feelings of inadequacy and the unconstrained ID, coupled with the feeling of security that internet anonymity can provide.
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Old 12-12-2010, 20:13
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I haven't spent much time on the Non App thread this year (haven't really spent much tome on DS, full stop) so I may have it wrong, but in the days when I was a regular, we would sometimes read strictures about Non App in other threads that weren't accurate. People on there were being witty rather than bitchy or nasty, though admittedly there was the odd posting that crossed the line. Even the nicknames were given more in amusement than in malice. That might have changed this year, or the tone of the thread may have soured, but it has never hitherto been a bitchy thread. In fact, it has consistently been one of the least nasty (bar the appreciation section).

It might have changed since I left it (and I admit that I initially left because of posts from newer members). That would be sad. It was always a good laugh...
We wondered where you'd gone, Pilgrim. Come back and see us. We've mellowed this year

Clearly you never went on the Beeb forums. They were downright nasty in the final weeks of a series. Perhaps some of the posters have migrated across now those forums are no more.

I don't think it's jealousy that drives the nastiness (although it could be a reason why someone doesn't like a particular contestant) but just plain fear that their favourite might not win. For example Kara or Matt fans seeing the other one as the biggest threat to their own favourite (if they both get through tonight, it'll be tin hat time next week).

Just to add, not everyone is nasty, but I guess we all vent our frustrations in different ways.
The answer to the OP's question is routed in psychology, so Pamela may be able to answer it. It basically boils down to human negativity which may stem from self loathing, envy, rage at the world, feelings of inadequacy and the unconstrained ID, coupled with the feeling of security that internet anonymity can provide.

Or maybe it's just that some people don't buy into the PR hype and don't sanctify d-list celebs who happen to be in a reality TV show? Just a thought.
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Old 12-12-2010, 20:14
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The answer to the OP's question is routed in psychology, so Pamela may be able to answer it. It basically boils down to human negativity which may stem from self loathing, envy, rage at the world, feelings of inadequacy and the unconstrained ID, coupled with the feeling of security that internet anonymity can provide.
You may well be right, or it might just be that people like me like to relax by talking bollocks
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Old 12-12-2010, 20:16
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You may well be right, or it might just be that people like me like to relax by talking bollocks
Nail. Hammer. Boom.
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Old 12-12-2010, 20:18
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You may well be right, or it might just be that people like me like to relax by talking bollocks
That's what I was saying.
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Old 12-12-2010, 20:20
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2. That was their problem they weren't rampant enough

3. OK So shall we say you know half the voting pattern in advance which the judges do. They may get a nasty surprise occasionally but mostly they know who the public vote for. It don't take a genius to decide who to award marks to in order to achieve the passage of their favourites.
Well in that case its the public who decides next week so will you be happy then?
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Old 12-12-2010, 21:14
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You may well be right, or it might just be that people like me like to relax by talking bollocks
But your bollocks talking is very classy Mimi.

Some attempt classiness but are doomed forever to wallow in just plain poo.
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Old 12-12-2010, 21:17
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But your bollocks talking is very classy Mimi.

Some attempt classiness but are doomed forever to wallow in just plain poo.
Are you implying that my poo is decorative?
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Old 12-12-2010, 21:21
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Are you implying that my poo is decorative?
No sweetie, just that your bollocks-talking is pure class.
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Old 12-12-2010, 21:24
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No sweetie, just that your bollocks-talking is pure class.
*simpers then slaps self*
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Old 12-12-2010, 21:29
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*simpers then slaps self*
Steady - don't want you going all Dr Pammie with the simpering.
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Old 12-12-2010, 23:13
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The answer to the OP's question is routed in psychology, so Pamela may be able to answer it.
Why - does she have some professional qualification in that area?

Cor, she kept that one quiet. Next you'll be telling me she's married to someone famous.
It basically boils down to human negativity
Coming from a poster who's named himself after the King Of The Gods...

which may stem from self loathing, envy, rage at the world, feelings of inadequacy and the unconstrained ID,
You've nailed me to a T, it's like you're in my mind.

Or, possibly, some people simply don't like other people? Nah, too obvious.

coupled with the feeling of security that internet anonymity can provide.
Yeah, that Nasty Interweb. I blame it for everything: WW2, the incarcaration of Nelson Mandela, the illegal invasion of Iraq, and worst of all the choice of Tess Daly as a television presenter.

Got a lot to answer for, has the information superhighwatsit.
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