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Morning GS. This seems a bit of an odd one.
The family were all set to go to New Zealand a few years ago and yet the Dad doesn't seem to realise that their seasons are the opposite of ours. They don't seem much of a family unit at all, everything's 'my' 'mine' or 'you' and 'yours' - nothing so far has talked about us or our. |
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Morning GS. This seems a bit of an odd one.
The family were all set to go to New Zealand a few years ago and yet the Dad doesn't seem to realise that their seasons are the opposite of ours. They don't seem much of a family unit at all, everything's 'my' 'mine' or 'you' and 'yours' - nothing so far has talked about us or our. |
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You're probably getting the gist of it now GS. They had everything set to emigrate and then one morning he woke her up as he sat on the end of the bed and the first thing he said to her was that he wasn't going to go.
They seem more like they need marriage counselling or divorce lawyers. |
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You're probably getting the gist of it now GS. They had everything set to emigrate and then one morning he woke her up as he sat on the end of the bed and the first thing he said to her was that he wasn't going to go.
They seem more like they need marriage counselling or divorce lawyers. Not to keen on dad tbh, I don't know why though. |
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It's a difficult age to move their family to be honest. One daughter at Uni, a son who's autistic and not too sure about the other son's situation.
Emigrating seems their solution to a mid life and marital crisis. All the criticisms of the cold and the lifestyle are just stupid when you're talking about a visit during the worst winter in 30 years. You're going to struggle wherever you are in that kind of situation. |
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A family divided..hmmm, there's going to be a split here I think.
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I found that episode depressing to be honest GS. I didn't enjoy it at all.
There's quite obviously a lot more gone on in their lives than 40 minutes is going to explain (or that they necessarily want to explain) and they already had their house up for sale as well. |
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I felt sorry for the husband in that one. I also sensed a lot of resentment from the wife as she kept talking about it being her turn to have a life and he had had his. My gut instinct was that they should sort out whatever was wrong between them before upping and moving to the other side of the world tbh.
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She seems like a selfish woman. Almost "I want this, and stuff what you want".
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I found that episode depressing to be honest GS. I didn't enjoy it at all.
There's quite obviously a lot more gone on in their lives than 40 minutes is going to explain (or that they necessarily want to explain) and they already had their house up for sale as well. There's obviously a serious relationship problem there & moving to the other side of the world certainly ain't going to resolve that! Infact it'll probably just add a shed load more pressure & they won't have the support of family & friends to help them through it. The 'Mrs' seems very resolute - couldn't warm to her at all. From what we saw, I think they'd be making a dreadful mistake at this moment in time. A lot seemed to be based on her ability to get a much better paid job. Problem is, as we all know, talking about 'opportunity' & turning it into reality are often 2 different things. The 'fantastic, well paid' job may not actually materialise & then where will they be? They don't have the generous Benefits system we have here in the UK. Just hope they manage to 'make up' - although didn't look too promising! |
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She seems like a selfish woman. Almost "I want this, and stuff what you want".
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I found that episode depressing to be honest GS. I didn't enjoy it at all.
There's quite obviously a lot more gone on in their lives than 40 minutes is going to explain (or that they necessarily want to explain) and they already had their house up for sale as well. |
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I felt sorry for the husband in that one. I also sensed a lot of resentment from the wife as she kept talking about it being her turn to have a life and he had had his. My gut instinct was that they should sort out whatever was wrong between them before upping and moving to the other side of the world tbh.
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She seems like a selfish woman. Almost "I want this, and stuff what you want".
It must have been a big thing for them all to organise emigrating back in 2007 or 2008 whenever it was and it was his idea then don't forget - only for him to turn around and say he didn't want to go and call it off. Maybe he's been like that once too often and she's finally given up the ghost. Just maybe she's spent years playing second fiddle while he chopped and changed his mind and now the children are almost off their hands, she's laying it down? Some of the friends and relatives dwelt a lot on what a nice woman she is and how she did such a lot for other people. Infact all the reasons for them not going seemed to be on behalf of the friends and relatives themselves and what they'd lose, not what anyone would gain. The man himself said exactly what we said that it all sounded as though they were going to die, not take up new opportunities. Quote:
...Infact it'll probably just add a shed load more pressure & they won't have the support of family & friends to help them through it.
... as we all know, talking about 'opportunity' & turning it into reality are often 2 different things. The 'fantastic, well paid' job may not actually materialise & then where will they be? They don't have the generous Benefits system we have here in the UK. Just hope they manage to 'make up' - although didn't look too promising! I think she said going would be dependent upon her getting a job to go to though didn't she? As a couple though, whatever their problems are, I agree, they'd just be taking those problems with them. |
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I can't actually watch this program any more, having been there and done that myself. I laugh when they presume that they they will have 'more time and a family', 'we will work less hours', 'we will spend all our free time at the beach', etc. As these programs show most people actually work longer hours in Oz, most people have to commute for a couple of hours a day, and few people can afford to live near the beach or have the time and energy when they are not working. Few consider what will happen to the children if the parents split up. Usually one parent will want to return to the UK with the children which is heartbreaking for all concerned. My sister and brother's marriages soon fell apart after emigrating and even if the children stay in Oz, like my neices and nephews, they will soon want to re-visit their birthplace and most want to stay. Most relationships also become very claustrophobic as with no family and friends around you become trapped with each other.
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Just started watching this mornings one and they are from Clacton LOL
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My thoughts exactly. She didn't even seem to be that bothered about the kids, let alone the husband. I also was bemused that she thought by moving there the sons would suddenly ditch their computers for all things sport! Yeah, right!
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Another drama today - family from Gravesend were all ready to emigrate a year ago when his first daughter came back into his life after nearly 20 years apart...
They're in Brisbane and accommodated on an island resort. Surprise, surprise, they want to escape a busy and stressful life for a more relaxing lifestyle. Oh and they've promised their 9 year old a swimming pool. |
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Another drama today - family from Gravesend were all ready to emigrate a year ago when his first daughter came back into his life after nearly 20 years apart...
They're in Brisbane and accommodated on an island resort. Surprise, surprise, they want to escape a busy and stressful life for a more relaxing lifestyle. Oh and they've promised their 9 year old a swimming pool. Morning SS btw...
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Don't forget the elderly parent!
Morning SS btw... ![]() There's always the tug of a parent isn't there. It's obviously hard being separated from relatives but you'd think that would be the very first thing to come to terms with before you investigate going. |
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Hiya GS.
There's always the tug of a parent isn't there. It's obviously hard being separated from relatives but you'd think that would be the very first thing to come to terms with before you investigate going. |
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He doesn't really want this does he?
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He doesn't really want this does he?
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Hi Fizzler,
I suppose it's different from leaving family who you've seen all your life. They're not really comparing like with like at all are they - for her to take on full time work and for them to have a mortgage that they don't have now (for a property that's not really much better, although a better location) and a higher cost of living - well, it doesn't sound that much of a temptation does it. |
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I like these updates...shame they didn't do this on some of the earlier shows.
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Yes, I like them too GS.
Interesting that today they said about staying on a further week and doing their own local research, both for work and finding properties that looked appealing but in a better price bracket. I wonder if all the families get that opportunity or if they stayed at their own expense? I've never heard anyone discuss it before. This family seem to be better prepared and more likely to make a go of it, although the Aussie Dollar is 147/£ down from 213 at this time last year! So that's awful news for anyone with property to sell here before they emigrate. |
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