Hi Pas

Don't want to tempt fate as it's only been a month but things are going very well thank you and it feels like we have known each other forever

See you have been on holiday. Hope you had a good time? x

I've just watched Remember Me I'm prepared for anything now.

Hi Joyce and anyone else I've missed coming on.

Night lou, sammm and anyone else going?

Anyone know how I can change the font on my DS please?

So 11 am there? LOL, glad you are excited about it. I can't wait to see Kate's dress. Thank you!

The actual wedding ceremony starts at 11am but they are spreading out the royals arrivals and the leaving the palace to get to the church bit so i guess all day!

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Hi feefs dont know what time it is sorry...but coverage starts at 8am till 13.40pm so im assuming its around 12ish...guess

Im ashamed to say we have been given the day off work but im not too interested in it if im totally honestly.

I think the cermony is at 11am our time.


Oh I know Ian. I didn't mean literally meet. Glad to see you've registered on the website again. Fingers crossed.

Bursting to see the dress as well !!! Where are you in the world by the way !

Hi pas....not spoken to you since your hols, but read you had a lovely time. Hope your gippy tum is better.

Is the pas appreciation still going on or has the novelty worn off for hubby and son.. Usually does after a couple of days with mine. Back to head cook and bottle washer!

LOL, Matt has my invite.


Thanks


Haha, well a day off work for whatever reason is good! Thanks.

Don't have one but I just had a bright idea. Went on to a different tab and it was fine. Thanks for answering.

Well done, retail therapy is good for you and if you should get another date you have the outfit sorted.

I know i thought what no-one swearing , getting nasty with other posters, talking too much off topic...naming football stars WTF then i thought its just a thread change drama queen

Thank you ma'am.


I'm in the US. Will the ceremony be long? I've really not been paying much attention.

You know what... I bet John is thinking back to those first days when he and Josie first moved into their apartment and all the unpacking and settling in and just being thrilled to have their first home. Don't tell me... he does not get a pang when he thinks of her doing the same thing now and on her own.... you would want a heart of stone not to really !! No cuddling up together and when those lights to out at night and the tv is off.......that silence can be deafening !

So was I. He was very good at dancing around his point. I know later on in the convo he tries to explain that he was really confused by it all the night hebasked to leave and needed some time to process it all. And although we did hear him say in the diary room 'I never really looked at her like that' (wtte) that was an edited diary room clip for the highlight show. Wonder how the whole unedited convo went?

And yep to the 'hey'.

course I remember you....its lovely to see you back...shame its not in happier circumstances....

Well I wasn't thinking about it till you mentioned it.

Hi all had to do work in between catching up. One thing that has had me wondering is, whilst Josie was packing up she must have come across fan books, pictures, presents that were for both her and John . I wonder if she has asked John if he wants any as a reminder of their time in the house? It would be nice to think he had some physical reminder of their wonderful summer.

Hi Pauline
You just seemed to disappear suddenly. Glad to see you back again. Keep in touch because we're still planning to have our meet sometime in the summer.

Kay xx

Evening Marion

JOSIE: I can imagine you saying that.
JOHN: So that makes it true?!
JOSIE: ….. I .. I don't know, John. I don't know, mate. I don't know.
JOHN: (Angrily) What is your problem?!
JOSIE: (Raises her eyebrows in shock) I ain't got one.
JOHN: You do have a problem. You do!
JOSIE: No I don't.

Josie did know what her problem was but wasn't willing to disclose this in the BB House. John becomes more and more irked with her reluctance to confide in him. He knows she is bottling up how she is feeling and he can't find a solution until he has determined what the underlying issue is.

JOHN: Because you .. because you .. this is what you do .. you you you don't .. you go off at people for assuming things but you've just assumed something .. at me and you've just admitted it. But you get so p****d off when people assume you get angry and people assume things about you .. but you've just done exactly the same thing to me!
JOSIE: Alright if that's the case – don't speak to me!
JOHN: Oh, is that the way it happens? So rather than resolve the argument and ..
JOSIE: But you're trying to make an argument that's not there, John ..
JOHN: .. and admit that you were wrong just now .. you would rather just say .. rather than lose and admit that I was wrong 'I'd rather just not talk to him at all.'

Misunderstandings and making assumptions is something that happened on a regular basis inside BB and presumably would have in their relationship outside the house too. Josie again, retorts to her 'don't speak to me' defence which exasperates John further. Resolving the argument is what he is hoping to accomplish. Josie wants the issue dropped but he won't leave it. They are both soooooo damn stubborn!!

JOSIE: But I .. I .. I've .. I don't know .. you're just trying to have an argument with me ..
JOHN: No I'm not ..
JOSIE: Yes you are ..
JOHN: I'm not trying to argue with you..
JOSIE: Yeah, you are ..
JOHN: But you just accused me of ..
JOSIE: There's a few people out there you might be able to have an argument with .. I've just seen you try and pick one ..
JOHN: With who?? Who did I just try and pick an argument with?
JOSIE: .. with me. Go on, go away!! (Josie is not becoming angry she seems worn out and upset)

Josie is not as eloquent or articulate with expressing her feelings in comparison to John. When she hears things she doesn't like she stops listening, tries to change the subject, tells the person to leave her alone - or all of these things. This is tool we have heard her use many times and Josie has admitted she continued to use in her relationship with John.

JOHN: Who did I just ..
JOSIE: Go away!!!
JOHN: Josie, who did I just try and pick an argument with?
JOSIE: Go away!
JOHN: Who did I just try and pick an argument with, Jose? … WHO?! Who was a trying to pick an argument with out there?
JOSIE: Go away, go on.
JOHN: I don't understand what your problem is, Jose.
JOSIE: Go on, go!
JOHN: What is your problem?
JOSIE: I haven't got one .. you're just trying to come here and make me have one.

The pair constantly go round and round in circles in their arguments to the point where they infuriate the other. John wanted Josie to swallow her pride and admit to her doubts and insecurities and to tell him what was eating her up inside. John could see something was but didn't know exactly what was causing her to feel that way.


JOHN: You just assumed that .. you just said to me 'I can assume that you would say something like that..'
JOSIE: Alright, just go away. Go on, sling your hook!
JOHN: How can you not understand how I'm not upset about this? Seriously, Jose?
JOSIE: Oh, Johnnn! Ssssh please.

Josie was growing tired of the conversation and in turn John was getting hurt that she was doubting his feelings and he couldn't fully comprehend why this was. Josie wanted reassurance of his love for her without having to spell out to him what she was feeling.

JOHN: But I'm just sick of you thinking that you've got all this 'inside information' about what I've said in the diary room..
JOSIE: I haven't!
JOHN: And all this is about you, you, you, you, you ..
JOSIE: I haven't I said ..
JOHN: .. and every time how 'I've made you look like an idiot' .. and 'I've made you look stupid.' or I've 'embarrassed you' or I've done this, or I've done this. Why is this always about you, you, you? Why have ..

I don't think Josie appreciated that John was upset by the situation too. They were both so frightened of being hurt that they couldn't bring themselves to confess how they both felt straight away.

JOSIE: Oh my .. you're really looking for an argument tonight, aren't you?
JOHN: No, I don't want an argument ..
JOSIE: You are reeeally looking for an argument ..
JOHN: I don't want one with you .. I seriously don't want one with you..
JOSIE: Well why .. why are you pushing me like that then?

As John was trying to push Josie for an explanation so he could understand better - Josie was trying to push John away. Some people that day believed Josie had been a bit overwhelmed by all the physical attention John had given her that particular day. When a conversation becomes difficult Josie can be evasive. Where as John is determined to tackle the problems as soon as possible.

JOHN: I just want you to explain to me.
JOSIE: Yeah .. I'm so self-obsessed, John. That's me – Josie. The most self-obsessed person that's ever come out of the South West, yeah that is me. F*****g hell!! ..
JOHN: Then why is it that every time we talk about something it always comes back to you being embarrassed?
JOSIE: OMG am I not allowed to say that?
JOHN: Well yeah if you give me a reason why you think that you should feel embarrassed! (ten seconds of silence)
JOSIE: I don't feel embarrassed, John.
JOHN: But you do, you' said it on the couch, Jose. Just then, like two seconds ago.
JOSIE: Well back then, you did embarrass me – yeah.

HE JUST WANTS TO KNOW THE REASONSSSSSS!!

JOHN: And then .. you just .. you got a little bit angry .. you've gotta admit .. you got a little bit..
JOSIE: That's cos you just thought about – you, you, you, you, YOU! You just thought about yourself! It wasn't about me. You made out it was, but you just thought about you!
JOHN: When?
JOSIE: When you were asking to go home and all that bo*****s! .. trying to make out it was me because you wanted to go home.
JOHN: I never once .. why don't you wait until you see the entries before you start making accusations? Accusing people before you know what was said.

Josie concedes that she was angry although does not admit this herself. John doesn't like that she is assuming things of him when she hasn't even seen the DR entries.

JOSIE: You just told me on the sofa that you asked to go home.
JOHN: Yeah but you don't know how it was said! You don't know what I was doing, you don't know what my emotions were like .. you made it sound like I went in there and said (meanly) 'I just don't like her like that!! x2' As if I would ever do that! If .. if I did do that do you still think I'd be standing here right now? Do you not think that I would be evicted for something like that?
JOSIE: Evicted?
JOHN: Yeah, of course! If I said something in a malicious way, that's the most arrogant thing I've ever heard in my life what you've just claimed that I just said!!
JOSIE: So you never went in the Diary Room and said that?
JOHN: Never like that!! I never went in there and went 'I JUST DON'T LIKE HER LIKE THAT X2!!' not once.

More to come laaaater tomorrow

I'm good thanks....happy for you that things are going well.

Hi Kay

I will do, just trying to find a healthy balance with everything at the moment. PM me when something has been planned.

Pauline x