Originally Posted by shemarchi:
“HI everyone. couldnt come back on last night as i was sooo upset. I think i am going crazy, too involved in this pair for my own good. I just keep thinking of what he said in the house," I admit to loving you, I admit to caring about you,I admit to doing anything for you and i will stick to that as long as i am in here and as long as i am out there." I wish he would just remember those words and at least make the effort to speak to her privately. I think the love is still there and this situation could still be resolved even if it was just to be on friendly terms at first. Love them BOTH soooo much. Shem xx”
“HI everyone. couldnt come back on last night as i was sooo upset. I think i am going crazy, too involved in this pair for my own good. I just keep thinking of what he said in the house," I admit to loving you, I admit to caring about you,I admit to doing anything for you and i will stick to that as long as i am in here and as long as i am out there." I wish he would just remember those words and at least make the effort to speak to her privately. I think the love is still there and this situation could still be resolved even if it was just to be on friendly terms at first. Love them BOTH soooo much. Shem xx”
The problem is John can't talk to Josie because she doesn't listen and changes events in her mind to fit her view of things.
To me based on what was on last night Josie should be contacting John to say I'm sorry I didn't listen can we talk now.
Josie has not listened to John and wants him to see everything from her point of view. He was desperate for her to listen to him and understand what he was saying. You could feel his hurt and frustration. If Josie watched last night there is no denying she did not listen to him and he did love her.
If she feels anything then I think she needs to demonstrate she will try to change by saying she will listen to him and talk. This doesn't mean that she doesn't have issues with him that need resolving but how can anyone face trying to discuss things with Josie if she is acting as she did last night, stubborn, refusing to listen and changing facts to her own benefit. With this approach you wouldn't get anywhere.
Maybe they should do that thing where one person talks for 5 mins or so and the other has to listen and then the other person talks for 5 mins whilst the other listens.
Whether they got back together or not they could do with talking.
Josie should stop supporting bbex and condoning his tweets and John should ask his pal Magras to keep quiet for a bit.
Have you ever been in the situation when you are trying to explain to someone how you see something and feel a certain way and they deliberately change the subject or change the facts and generally don't listen it's the most frustrating thing in the world.
Josie need to show she is prepared to listen and consider John's feelings. This would show John she is trying to understand where he is coming from which may help them both calm down and try to talk to each other.
As for the girlfriend I just don't know about all that. John says he hasn't one and now have missed quoted him. Today Josie is saying she never said anything about the girlfriend and she is being misquoted. Evidence from previous articles would appear to back the view that Now are particularly good at reporting rubbish.
So Josie contact John and be prepared to listen and John talk to her and be prepared to explain and listen. Give eachother the benefit of the doubt before accusing each other.
this will come across as a John post but really I just think Josie needs to contact him to say I could see on the prog that I wasn't listening to you and you were getting upset can we talk now and I will listen. Then they can both explain to each other their problems.
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