Originally Posted by tezzabobs:
“This!
I'm gonna be totally honest, I hated Brendan when he first arrived. But then, he got involved with Ste. So, for me, Ste is the reason I started to love Brendan as much as I do now. And then with what we'd seen over the months of Brendan's feelings for Ste growing, the violence took a step back for a bit (but never went away.) and that really interested me, because after seeing how mean and manipulative Brendan can be, we also saw his human side.
Now, I know he's only been back for one episode and a lot of stuff is probably depending on what happens after the seduction .. business, so I can't say that I need vulnerability with him because we've already seen a lot of that, but I'm just gunna say that if he's out to wreck Ste's relationship, and then trying to control Ste's life or whatever, I'd rather he kept away from Ste. Permanently. They both left each other alone, Brendan got through his issues, Ste carried on with his life and maybe become friends in the end of it all. Like Ste and Amy did.
I sound quite whiny today but I feel quite protective over Ste, even though he isn't completely faultless considering he's gone back to Brendan so many times, so I'm gonna go for a bit, but that's all I wanted to say really!
*disappears*”
Oh no don't go! I totally agree, I hated Bren at first too. When I first saw him, and he was blatently using the girls like Carmel and stealing from Chez, I really really didn't like him. I didn't even like him after the first kiss with ste (or when he made ste kiss him) because it was all so manipulated. It was only when we began to learn more about him, his battle with himself, his complexities and his family, that I began to like him.
I hate that he has to have that element of control over Ste, and I can bear so much violence, but destroying things with noel and manipulating everything in Ste's life does worry me. Sure, I will love to watch and enjoy the jealousy, and dancing, but when I really think about what it means, I don't like it. (sorry guys) Imo, it only proves how far Brendan still has to go, and his extreme possessiveness and need for a hold over Ste is awful, becuase while he is so unpredictable and uncomforable in himself, it will always be Ste getting beaten, and this manipulation is a sad way of Brendan trapping Ste into that type of relationship. While I appreciate it is a DV storyline, and this is part of that, I just find it distressing to watch.
What I ultimately want, is them to have sometime appart, maybe where Declan Oileen and Chez help Brendan with his issues, and he gets help with his anger, so that him and Ste can sit down and talk properly. Although I ship them badly, I do not want to see a continually abusive relationship where Brendan feeds off that power he creates, and Ste is too scared to leave, so unless they BOTH work throught their problems, because Ste is in no way innocent, he plays the mind games and has hurt Brendan physically and emotionally too, I don't want them together. Not that I want Ste with noel either though.
I also want to learn more about how both their pasts affects the relationship (or any kind - friendship or something more) that they may ultimately have. Because, Brendans past obviously affects him badly even now, and for Ste to have been abused by every man he has ever loved (parents or Brendan) he has to have issues with it. I have already said, this is why I belive he is with noel, because of the need for safety and security, rather than putting his feelings first.
Sorry for the essay