Hi Elasticband,
I had exactly the same problem, and spent hours trawling the internet for a download. I finally found one at
http://www.motclub.com/html/programs.htm#mpt.
Just click on the line near the top on the left called " Motorola Mobile PhoneTools " and then choose the version called "Motorola Mobile PhoneTools 1.23c Original English" (click on the 1 just after it to start the download.)
Once you have downloaded that programme, run the install etc and then once it is up and running, click on the menu button on the phone and choose help. From here you can choose the upgrade function which will take you to a site to download the latest upgrade to give you the full working programme which I can guarantee to be working as I am currently using it for my V220.
Only problem is that both files are about 20Mb so if you are using dial up it will take a little while but isnt too bad (about an hour and a quarter for each for me).
Hope this helps, any more info needed just contact me,
Matt
P.S. If you are also needing a cable, try
www.tccables.co.uk and search for the appropriate mini USB cable on there. Only £3.64 including P&P as you don't need a branded Motorola one.