Thanks for bringing this article over. It makes very interesting reading.
I must admit when I read the OK article I did not really know what she meant by an ego based relationship, but having read this, I now understand and I would say she has definitely been reading up about this from her self help books, and has been influenced by this.
It makes sense to me how some of the things she is saying now differ so much from when she first broke up.
But what is more real? What you say in the first few days of the break up when your emotions are fresh and raw? Or what you say several months on, having taken a step back after reading self help books and being influenced by everyone else's viewpoint from family, friends, work colleagues, hair stylists, make up artists, cameramen/women, interviewers, fans/supporters and Uncle Tom Cobley and all?
It's all very well reading self help books but that book is probably written by one expert with one viewpoint, whereas every human being is unique and has their own thoughts and feelings.
You can't choose who you fall in love with. If you do then it isn't really love. Falling in love is something you have no control over, and if you do try and control it, then you are changing it.
So I think the more you analyze the whole process of love, the less likely you are to find anyone to love, because your brain will be going nineteen to the dozen every time you meet someone, and it will be doomed to failure.
Having said all that, if Josie does feel the need for help in sorting out her relationships with men or any emotional issues she feels she has, I think she would be far better to go to professional counselling rather than a self help book - she is too close to the problem, and an outsider particularly someone who knows nothing about her would look at things from a different perspective.
Of course, ALL the above is my personal opinion only, and everyone else will no doubt have a different viewpoint, because we are ALL DIFFERENT.