Originally Posted by Andrew_Duncan:
“I hate when people call HW's bullies, it really does trivialise the issue of bullying. That word gets banded around far too much.”
Actually that line gets bandied around too much to try and avoid when bullying happens.
And Kenya's behaviour is that of a bully. Plain and simple. There's nothing trivialized about it. She decided from day one she didn't like Porsha and has consistently and systematically gone for her. They had a big fall out at the beginning, 2 years ago!!! However every little move Porsha makes, anything that happens in her life Kenya finds an excuse to attack her on, deliberately finding the most negative stand point. And doing it with almost glee with little other intent to get one up and either wind Porsha up or make her feel bad.
I mean what has Porsha done to her this season really? In fact what has she done since the first half of last season? And yet Porsha is the one she singles out and excludes and attacks for no reason whatsoever. More than any other woman on the show even those she is having a
current problem with.
Why is she going there with Porsha over karma for 'laughing' on the sofa last year and not Cynthia, Kandi and Nene who were all laughing just as loud? If not louder.
Because she knows Porsha is the weak link who wasn't/isn't established on the show and therefore she thinks she can get away with it. In the same way she deliberately singled out Cynthia at the beginning because she was the weakest character on the show while at the same time sucking up to all the others. In the same way she has singled out every supporting woman this season on the show to go in on (Mynique, Natalie etc) except for the more established stronger character of Marlo.
That's not to say Porsha is weak or a shrinking violet and can't dish it out but bullying isn't reserved to the meek and mild. Even the strongest person can be beat down by systematic behaviour of which bullying is. Of course it's much easier to do it to a weaker person and ultimately more damaging which is why bullying behaviour is usually associated with weak victims... but the fact is it isn't reserved for them.
And that's the difference. People don't like each other, people argue, people give a bit of shade, people trade insults, people have opinions on the behaviour of others but when the motivation is purely to single a person out and systematically attack, attack, attack in such a deliberate way then that falls into the category of bullying.
Nene is a different case. I think she is very bullish and intimidating and can be very stubborn and hateful to those she doesn't like or thinks have done her wrong but she doesn't pick targets and keep shooting.