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Old 17-10-2011, 20:50
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Is it just me, but i do not see what we are supposed to think over this storyline. Personally i think Amira's reaction towards Christian is understandable, what does he expect, what the hell gives him the right to try and grab Amira's phone and demand to see the Baby, it is none of his Business.
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Old 17-10-2011, 20:51
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Hear hear
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Old 17-10-2011, 20:52
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Team Amira all the way for moi too.
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Old 17-10-2011, 20:53
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I know her approach seems very mean, but we have to see that the only person she is against here is christian. She is not stopping syed from seeing yasmin, all she asks is that christian is not there.
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Old 17-10-2011, 21:33
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Asking Christian not to be there, limits the cances of Syed seeing Yasmin.

He can't have her over at his, unless Christian is thrown out of his own house for the time being.

He can't talk to Christian (or about Christian, when Yasmin is older) when out in the Square.

He actually needs to pretend that Christian does not really exist as long as Yasmin is there.

When Amira lives on the same Square, Syed can't be seen in public with Christian, nor can he be mentioned by anyone, as long as Yasmin can hear it, for she will wonder what on earth is going on, what with her mother hating gays and her father living with one (and being one, but Amira doesn't seem to have accepted that yet).

Nothing spontaneous can be planned at all!!!

And in the end, only Yasmin will suffer. When elephants fight, it's the grass that gets damaged the most.

I understand Amira's anger of course, I would feel the same way. But realistically, she can't have Syed be a proper dad AND prevent Christian from ever holding Yasmin, or playing with her, talking to her etc. It's madness.
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Old 17-10-2011, 21:53
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She's only been back a couple of days. She hasn't been around Christian and Syed since they've been a couple, so it's all brand new for her. From her point of view, the feelings and anger she has will just be as bad as when she first found out about the affair. So her reaction is responsible. She wants to get her own back a bit and hurt them like she was hurt.

They need to let her calm down and cool off. But because she won't do it immediately, it's somehow unreasonable.
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Old 17-10-2011, 22:16
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The face spray thing was funny, albeit unintentionally.

It makes me smile when people miss the point of a soap storyline and back the 'baddy', cause they can't see that the show pokes fun at their attitudes.
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Old 17-10-2011, 22:19
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I think she is being totally reasonable, Christian does not have any place too demand anything from her nor does Syed to an extent, Christian broke up her marriage and I think its completely understandable to feel bitter and not want the person who cause you so much pain involved with you're child and just wading in like they have thinking they have a right to dictate to her who has access to her daughter it would totally be the wrong approach, sorry but for once I think I agree with the character of Amira, you take things slowly in theses situation not just wade in demanding things.
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Old 17-10-2011, 22:22
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I think her behaviour is understandable, but not reasonable. How can anyone (in their right mind) think that using a child as a bargaining tool to get your gay ex back is reasonable?!

It's meant to be silly, rash and unbelievable. It's a soap after all.
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Old 17-10-2011, 22:22
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Most people wouldn't find her reaction unreasonable, especially after they both lied and cheated on her. There's the few who are just obsessed with gay relationships who will stand by Syed and Christian.
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Old 17-10-2011, 22:29
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There's the few who are just obsessed with gay relationships who will stand by Syed and Christian.
Actually Amira has also faced criticism tonight from people who are not Christian/Syed fans. Please don't generalise.

I'm a fan myself but I don't endorse everything they do.
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Old 17-10-2011, 22:32
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No I don't agree about using the child as a ways to get back at the ex but I think expecting her to accept Christian as a part of her child life after what he did to her right away is out of order, they have obviously moved on with their life but in some way it still affect her and to be honest I don't think their behavior has been good towards her.
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Old 17-10-2011, 22:35
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Most people wouldn't find her reaction unreasonable, especially after they both lied and cheated on her. There's the few who are just obsessed with gay relationships who will stand by Syed and Christian.
How silly! That'd be like me saying that only homophobes are standing by Amira, which is obviously not true.
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Old 17-10-2011, 22:43
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I'm a fan of both Syed and Christian despite their flaws [Syed's lack of a backbone, in general - which was the main reason Amira got hurt so badly, since Christian wanted her told from the offset - and of course, Christian's insecurities] - but yeah, Amira gave a fair condition.

I was pretty much screaming at the screen tonight as to why it took Syed so long to want to see his daughter for the first time! Sorry, the love of my life or not, I think my parental instinct would [and should] have priority in such a situation.

Not liking the whole 'let's adopt - no, steal - my baby off its mother just because' direction they're laying with Syed and Christian either...
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Old 17-10-2011, 22:48
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I'm a fan of both Syed and Christian despite their flaws [Syed's lack of a backbone, in general - which was the main reason Amira got hurt so badly, since Christian wanted her told from the offset - and of course, Christian's insecurities] - but yeah, Amira gave a fair condition.

I was pretty much screaming at the screen tonight as to why it took Syed so long to want to see his daughter for the first time! Sorry, the love of my life or not, I think my parental instinct would [and should] have priority in such a situation.

Not liking the whole 'let's adopt - no, steal - my baby off its mother just because' direction they're laying with Syed and Christian either...
This was another thing that bugged me about the way they are writing Christian and I think its a valid point you made about insecurities, if he loved and care about Syed then he wouldn't of made him choose which ultimately is what he is doing by saying we are rather in this together or not by not allowing Syed to see his daughter and also allowing them to take baby steps with Amira it is just aggravate the situation further by making him feel guilty for wanting time with his daughter I think his being as selfish and unreasonable as many think Amira is being.
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Old 17-10-2011, 23:17
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Christian was f***ing her husband so she has every right to be a complte bitch towards him. Good for her.
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Old 17-10-2011, 23:29
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Her reaction is understandable but probably not reasonable, Syed has a right to see the kid and she can't lay down the law on how he spends his access time.
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Old 17-10-2011, 23:36
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Actually Amira isn't preventing Syed from seeing his kid, Christian is. Christian is the one who doesn't want to let Syed see Yasmin without him being there.
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Old 17-10-2011, 23:38
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It's fine by me too.
Syed had sex with her under false pretenses and she can lay the ground rules for once. I can see how she wants to do this to get back some control over her life too.
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Old 18-10-2011, 00:04
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If people think this doesn`t happen all the time they are fooling themselves. Many women stipulate that the father`s new girl friend shouldn`t be around the children when he gets access.
To me Christian was over the top when he was planning or Yasmin to stay with them as if the minute Syed got access they would share custody. Would any mother be easy with their year old daughter staying with two men who were total strangers to her?
I am concerned that Christian see this as the means of them getting a baby.
Syed must be allowed to see Yasmin but he has to do so on his own and I would say with Amira present until Yasmin comes to accept him and is happy with him. After that the subject of Christian being present when Syed has her must be settled.
Everyone is arguing about Syed and Christian but Yasmin has to be considered. Syed is a stranger to her and he has to establish a relationship with her first.
Yasmin is going to have a big affect on Syed and Christian`s relationship even if they do get custody. I can see Christian being very jealous of Syed`s relationship with her, after all he was the one who wanted a child. On top of which there is nothing like the love you have for a child and she will need a lot of looking after so Christian will not be the only love in Syed`s life another reason Christian will not be happy.
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Old 18-10-2011, 00:43
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i dont understand why she seems to have completely forgiven syed but has alot of hatred towards christian? of course she has every right to be mad at christian but syed is the one who cheated and married her / stringed her along / disgraced her name in the community! surely all her hate should be directed at syed?
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Old 18-10-2011, 00:53
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Lets not forget Christian was Amiras' best friend and he was after her boyfriend at the time even Jane told him off i mean that's unforgivable. He ruined their relationship for his own selfish reasons.

He is the fault for their breakup/heartbreak and now he's trying to make Syed choose over his CHILD, his own flesh blood how is he being fair?

If i was Amira i would do the same thing and it's not because he's gay it's because he was her best friend and he was bedding her boyfriend at the time. He split them up the real victim is Amira.
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Old 18-10-2011, 00:57
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No she is not being unreasonable at all.
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Old 18-10-2011, 01:05
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i dont understand why she seems to have completely forgiven syed but has alot of hatred towards christian? of course she has every right to be mad at christian but syed is the one who cheated and married her / stringed her along / disgraced her name in the community! surely all her hate should be directed at syed?
Because unfortunately she is still deeply in love with syed, and that's why i feel sorry for her, because seeing syed hold yasmin must have made her feel what could have been.
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Old 18-10-2011, 01:07
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Lets not forget Christian was Amiras' best friend and he was after her boyfriend at the time even Jane told him off i mean that's unforgivable. He ruined their relationship for his own selfish reasons.

He is the fault for their breakup/heartbreak and now he's trying to make Syed choose over his CHILD, his own flesh blood how is he being fair?

If i was Amira i would do the same thing and it's not because he's gay it's because he was her best friend and he was bedding her boyfriend at the time. He split them up the real victim is Amira.
Christian was not her BESTfriend but he was a good mate, a family friend and someone she thought she could count on and trust. He helped plan her wedding, he renovater her new flat, she told him very intimate details of her sex life. And then the reveal, cruel and callous. He betrayed and humiliated her and I don't think she'll ever forgive him.

She loves Syed, he's the father of her child, she's had a very difficult year, didn't get any support and she's probably a bit deluded. That's why she's giving him a free pass however I would like Amira to tell Syed how much he's hurt her. It needs to be adressed.
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