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Old 15-06-2012, 22:06
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You're gay yourself, at least, that's how you usually identify, so are you saying you don't understand yourself?
I'd hazard a guess that it's because you're not that comfortable with yourself.

Do you think you'll ever be comfortable with who you are?
I identify as bisexual, but that's mainly because I am just crap at both. I am comfortable with who I am, I think. Just not other people. Gay people seem like they are from another culture and I don't really have an "in" yet. Not sure I want to either.
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Old 15-06-2012, 22:19
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I identify as bisexual, but that's mainly because I am just crap at both. I am comfortable with who I am, I think. Just not other people. Gay people seem like they are from another culture and I don't really have an "in" yet. Not sure I want to either.
Fair enough.

The thing is, there are plenty of people who look at what is seen as gay culture, who feel like it's not for them.

At the end of the day, people are individuals.

I think it's sad that you don't want to get to know other people, just because they are gay..
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Old 15-06-2012, 22:20
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No Jase, I think you may have misinterpreted it, it has an influence on me, but it's not all I am, there is more to me, whether it be personality etc that defines me more then my sexuality, like when I'm with friends, I'm not just 'the gay one' etc. x
I'd say your sexuality underpins who you are though. It's not about being just the 'gay one' or just the 'straight one', but it's about who you are, and I think to some extent that sexuality plays a huge role in that.

Maybe I would say that as I'm a bit of a stereotype?
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Old 15-06-2012, 22:23
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I'd disagree with you Jase. Like I'd say sexuality is a big thing but me/you have never even met and I wouldn't describe you as Jase the gay guy, if you know what I mean.

I don't even know if I'm bi anymore... I don't like labels anyway.
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Old 15-06-2012, 22:24
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I'd disagree with you Jase. Like I'd say sexuality is a big thing but me/you have never even met and I wouldn't describe you as Jase the gay guy, if you know what I mean.

I don't even know if I'm bi anymore... I don't like labels anyway.
Well no, and I'd dislike being described that way, I don't even like the label gay, but at the same time, if I wasn't homosexual, I wouldn't be who I am..
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Old 15-06-2012, 22:26
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Well no, and I'd dislike being described that way, I don't even like the label gay, but at the same time, if I wasn't homosexual, I wouldn't be who I am..
In what way like?
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Old 15-06-2012, 22:30
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Well, for a start, I wouldn't be attracted to guys, which I think is a big part of my life.
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Old 15-06-2012, 22:31
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Well, for a start, I wouldn't be attracted to guys, which I think is a big part of my life.
Yep that's true. But anything else?
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Old 15-06-2012, 22:37
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Yep that's true. But anything else?
Well, I suppose I probably wouldn't be as effeminate as I can be, in terms of like, my feelings and that..and even like, sometimes my mannerisms..

Maybe my musical tastes would be different, and maybe I wouldn't like musicals and stuff, or like, dance, and like, I dunno, things that are seen as girly..

I reckon even me liking archers and lemonade might be a bit influenced....
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Old 15-06-2012, 22:42
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Well it's that or a bloody surgeon... I only hVe 2 Halloween costume photo on fb xD My scrubs didn't arrive in time the year before so I had to makeshift that year... Then may as well not waste it so use it last year.
Haha I may just go all Javvy and stalkerish to find these pics Well tbh I'd have done the exact same thing and used them, I mean you'd already paid for them so may as well have got use of them!!
Haha, ill take note of your advice, but awww, it always seems like a good idea xD
Haha I'll keep my eyes peeled for a Smurfed out Javvy then come Halloween
Haha, well I got my car today! It was a Civic I think they sensed my distaste for the super large BMW... It totally wasn't suited for me right now though. I mean how many 20year olds do you know who drives such a 'older' car...?
Woop!! Congrats on getting the Civic from them Erm, off the top of my head none. They all have like Mini's or Alfa Romeo's or Fiesta's etc (though I do no one who goes around in her Dad's Bentley from time to time and I wouldn't really class that a young persons car )!
But yeah, I wasn't suspecting them to actually buy it yet but we got one which just came in earlier that day. Younger as well as generally low mileage - SCORE! Only downside is lower engine but I guess that's lower insurance costs Haha, I shall be paying the insurance now xD
Haha that's proper lucky then xD Double win!! Well it may be lower, but probably better in the long run if you're having to pay the insurance yourself!
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Old 15-06-2012, 22:48
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Well, I suppose I probably wouldn't be as effeminate as I can be, in terms of like, my feelings and that..and even like, sometimes my mannerisms..

Maybe my musical tastes would be different, and maybe I wouldn't like musicals and stuff, or like, dance, and like, I dunno, things that are seen as girly..

I reckon even me liking archers and lemonade might be a bit influenced....
Nah I wouldn't say any of that is down to sexuality though, that's just who YOU are.

I'm quite efferminate in some ways with my mannerisms and how I find it hard to get along more often than not with men, but then at the same tim...

S**t maybe you are right, I can't think of a manly thing I do other than drinking beer
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Old 15-06-2012, 22:50
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Nah I wouldn't say any of that is down to sexuality though, that's just who YOU are.

I'm quite efferminate in some ways with my mannerisms and how I find it hard to get along more often than not with men, but then at the same tim...

S**t maybe you are right, I can't think of a manly thing I do other than drinking beer
It's hard to say whether I'd be who I was without the sexuality though. Also, they weren't things I chose to like once I became aware of my sexuality, they were the things I always liked, and was told I shouldn't, because I should like boy things..
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Old 15-06-2012, 23:08
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Fair enough.

The thing is, there are plenty of people who look at what is seen as gay culture, who feel like it's not for them.

At the end of the day, people are individuals.

I think it's sad that you don't want to get to know other people, just because they are gay..
well don't say it like that, it makes me sound like a bigot.
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Old 15-06-2012, 23:24
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Haha I may just go all Javvy and stalkerish to find these pics.
I don't think there's many of these such photos you speak of! Thank god! Though the recent one was the first time I went to a gay club and it was... Odd... We couldn't tell if the guys were dressed for halloween or if it was a regular night out for them.

Woop!! Congrats on getting the Civic from them Erm, off the top of my head none. They all have like Mini's or Alfa Romeo's or Fiesta's etc (though I do no one who goes around in her Dad's Bentley from time to time and I wouldn't really class that a young persons car )!Haha that's proper lucky then xD Double win!! Well it may be lower, but probably better in the long run if you're having to pay the insurance yourself!
Haha, EXACTLY! I'm not alone in my logic then. It's just a more mature car... Well I generally pay the insurance myself or half when my sister was on it. My dad is also always on it but I don't generally ask for it to be paid by him. But one grand on a car I don't particularly want...

Bentley? Haha, now that's definitely not a young persons car... Though saying that I dont generally have much of an opinion on cars besides from getting me from here to here.
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Old 15-06-2012, 23:58
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I don't think there's many of these such photos you speak of! Thank god! Though the recent one was the first time I went to a gay club and it was... Odd... We couldn't tell if the guys were dressed for halloween or if it was a regular night out for them.
Haha I'll need to go have a wee look and see if I can spot them The first time you went to a gay club was in fancy dress?! What was wrong with just rolling up in your usual clothes lol if it's anything like Leeds then there's a good chance it's a regular night out

Edit: ignore that comment I now realise you must've meant the first time you went to the gay club was at halloween thus explaining fancy dress GG having a blonde moment there!!
Also, I found you and Dr. Who (who coincidentally manages to pull off fancy dress!) Was that the pic you mean when you went to the gay club or was that the other fancy dress occasion?
Edit 2: I found another one The one of you in that black cloak thingy...
Haha, EXACTLY! I'm not alone in my logic then. It's just a more mature car... Well I generally pay the insurance myself or half when my sister was on it. My dad is also always on it but I don't generally ask for it to be paid by him. But one grand on a car I don't particularly want...
Yus, you're definitely not alone with that logic!! Haha 'mature' is one way of putting it Yeah, i guess it would've been quite annoying having to fork out higher insurance if it was BMW for a car you didn't even really want...
Bentley? Haha, now that's definitely not a young persons car... Though saying that I dont generally have much of an opinion on cars besides from getting me from here to here.
lol I was definitely like WTF are you doing in a Bentley?! I'd be shit scared driving one case I damaged it Haha my friend she's proper into cars now because of her bf (he like builds them from scratch and stuff and has an obsession with VW) and she totally puts me to shame I've already agreed that whenever I'm buying my first car she's coming along to be the brains of the operation!!
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Old 16-06-2012, 00:49
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Edit: ignore that comment I now realise you must've meant the first time you went to the gay club was at halloween thus explaining fancy dress. GG having a blonde moment there!!
Also, I found you and Dr. Who (who coincidentally manages to pull off fancy dress!) Was that the pic you mean when you went to the gay club or was that the other fancy dress occasion?
Yeah, that was the year, last year... I didn't think there was many photos of that. Haha, yip - same guy who dressed as the friendly green giant!

Lol, it was very weird as some were in latex dresses... and its off-putting when you go to the toilet and a guy with a skirt is just at a urinal...

Edit 2: I found another one. The one of you in that black cloak thingy...
Haha, that was the last day of school and my friends 'Harry Potter' themed birthday. I was a Dementor... I made it myself. For school it was just our last day in 6th year so instead of doing major pranks we all dressed up...

lol I was definitely like WTF are you doing in a Bentley?! I'd be shit scared driving one case I damaged it. Haha my friend she's proper into cars now because of her bf (he like builds them from scratch and stuff and has an obsession with VW) and she totally puts me to shame. I've already agreed that whenever I'm buying my first car she's coming along to be the brains of the operation!!
Haha, same! That's also why I'd rather edge up size-wise slowly - non-innuendo intended! - incase I'd just crash into something!

Haha, I'd surprisingly learnt a lot this week about buying and finding cars!
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Old 16-06-2012, 01:36
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Yeah, that was the year, last year... I didn't think there was many photos of that. Haha, yip - same guy who dressed as the friendly green giant!
Haha there's only like one or something so not that many lol well he's certainly tall enough to be the friendly green giant!
Lol, it was very weird as some were in latex dresses... and its off-putting when you go to the toilet and a guy with a skirt is just at a urinal...
Haha can't say I've had that experience so can't really comment
Haha, that was the last day of school and my friends 'Harry Potter' themed birthday. I was a Dementor... I made it myself. For school it was just our last day in 6th year so instead of doing major pranks we all dressed up...
I thought you were a Dementor, but didn't want to guess that in case I was way off the mark Loving your 'scary' face btw
Haha, same! That's also why I'd rather edge up size-wise slowly - non-innuendo intended! - incase I'd just crash into something!
Haha I love the fact you need to clarify non-innuendo intended on this thread but yeah, I know what you mean!
Haha, I'd surprisingly learnt a lot this week about buying and finding cars!
Haha I should be more knowledgable as she does try to improve my shockingly bad car knowledge, but I'm useless with all those technicalities
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Old 16-06-2012, 13:25
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Haha there's only like one or something so not that many.
Good good!

lol well he's certainly tall enough to be the friendly green giant!
Yup, he is ridiculously tall!

I thought you were a Dementor, but didn't want to guess that in case I was way off the mark. Loving your 'scary' face btw
Indeed, I have a few photos with that face actually - I have no idea why I do it though tbh... I'm assuming your talking about the glaring one and not the scrunched up one...

Haha I love the fact you need to clarify non-innuendo intended on this thread but yeah, I know what you mean!
Well duh!

Haha I should be more knowledgable as she does try to improve my shockingly bad car knowledge, but I'm useless with all those technicalities.
Same... but have pretty much got everything sorted now! Cancelled my old quote. Bought a new one. Picking it up on Thursday! Eeeeee!

(ps, don't you just hate when DS only has a 10 emoticon limit?!
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Old 16-06-2012, 18:36
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Ahh so excited! Packed most of my things today for my placement!! Actually can't wait to start and found out the first day is mainly me going to look around very expensive homes in London with prospective clients expanding their portfolios! I'll need to practice my composed face so my jaw doesn't keep hitting the floor in each house we visit

Haha you have so many pics I just gave up after I saw those ones though
Yup, he is ridiculously tall!
I'm guessing he's a good bit over 6ft!!
Indeed, I have a few photos with that face actually - I have no idea why I do it though tbh... I'm assuming your talking about the glaring one and not the scrunched up one...
Haha at least it's a unique face for your pics, it's like you have your very own mini trademark* and lol yes that was the one I was talking about
*even though you couldn't TM it (Disclaimer there so I don't like like an idiot who knows nothing)
Same... but have pretty much got everything sorted now! Cancelled my old quote. Bought a new one. Picking it up on Thursday! Eeeeee!
Ahh exciting times indeed You'll need to upload a pic of it to fb or get someone else to!!
(ps, don't you just hate when DS only has a 10 emoticon limit?!
lol I think I spend more time trying to cut down to the emoticon limit than I do actually writing my replies
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Old 17-06-2012, 01:31
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Ahh so excited! Packed most of my things today for my placement!! Actually can't wait to start and found out the first day is mainly me going to look around very expensive homes in London with prospective clients expanding their portfolios! I'll need to practice my composed face so my jaw doesn't keep hitting the floor in each house we visit.
Exciting times! Your so going to come out wanting to probably own about half of those houses though! Property ladder next for you?

Haha you have so many pics I just gave up after I saw those ones though I'm guessing he's a good bit over 6ft!!Haha at least it's a unique face for your pics, it's like you have your very own mini trademark* and lol yes that was the one I was talking about
*even though you couldn't TM it (Disclaimer there so I don't like like an idiot who knows nothing)
Haha, I don't that *that* many! I don't actually like getting my photo taking if you can't tell...

lol I think I spend more time trying to cut down to the emoticon limit than I do actually writing my replies
Same! Its so annoying when you quote several people at a time and can't seem to use more than 10 emoticons! They should at least up it to 20/25...
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Old 17-06-2012, 02:14
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Exciting times! Your so going to come out wanting to probably own about half of those houses though! Property ladder next for you?
Very exciting Haha you're probably right, though make it at least 75% lol obviously, next step's GG's very own property Empire
Haha, I don't have *that* many! I don't actually like getting my photo taking if you can't tell...
Haha, in fairness, you don't have many uploads....you just seem very unlucky with the amount people tag you lol I just about figured that out by some of your pics
Same! Its so annoying when you quote several people at a time and can't seem to use more than 10 emoticons! They should at least up it to 20/25...
lol it'd be like having a field day with free run of the emoticons
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Old 17-06-2012, 02:55
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Haha, in fairness, you don't have many uploads....you just seem very unlucky with the amount people tag you lol I just about figured that out by some of your pics
Nah, I rarely take my camera out tbh. Its always other people...

Haha, I've just taken a look at them, some are well most. xD
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Old 17-06-2012, 14:01
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It's hard to say whether I'd be who I was without the sexuality though. Also, they weren't things I chose to like once I became aware of my sexuality, they were the things I always liked, and was told I shouldn't, because I should like boy things..
So are you a woman inside?
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Old 17-06-2012, 14:57
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It's hard to say whether I'd be who I was without the sexuality though. Also, they weren't things I chose to like once I became aware of my sexuality, they were the things I always liked, and was told I shouldn't, because I should like boy things..
I used to belong to the "it doesn't define me at all" school of thought. But now I agree with you Jason. I think who you are attracted to and love is a major part of yourself.

Certainly for myself I have a great sense of pride in who I am. Plus as an aside, I love liking boys and wouldn't ever want to change that.
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Old 17-06-2012, 18:36
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I used to belong to the "it doesn't define me at all" school of thought. But now I agree with you Jason. I think who you are attracted to and love is a major part of yourself.

Certainly for myself I have a great sense of pride in who I am. Plus as an aside, I love liking boys and wouldn't ever want to change that.
I can understand that.
I just don't get how liking boys makes you like girls things, sorry.
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