Originally Posted by rwebster:
“Probably! I'd rather speak to jersey at a party than most of the bitter shrews in this thread, going solely by the range of responses.”
Thank you - and I'm sorry I got a bit carried away, but I hate to see anyone torn apart for no apparent reason other than a 'hatred' for something/someone they have no real knowledge of. I'd defend anyone in the same way - and, I hope, without resorting to facile remarks instead of a coherent reply.
In that respect I have more respect for Flossie, who did actually take the time to read my replies and respond to them (or some of them) in detail. I may not agree with them, but at least they have shown themselves capable of reading what is posted in response to their own posts. We can't all agree, after all, but we can all have the courtesy to read and respond can't we?
Hazel, on the other hand, hasn't really responded to anyone's comments in any detail, or with any courtesy. Mostly it's 'smart remarks' (the "you must be fun at a party" comment aimed at me being a case in point - as if that has anything to do with what we're talking about on here...) which seem to identify Hazel as someone who loves to dish it out, but can't take it. A shame - they have really shown themselves up in the manner of their criticism. As I say, no fan of Karren myself, but I see no need to stoop to the level of personal insults that Hazel does in order to express it. I'm really sorry if Hazel equates my equilibrium on here to my ability to enjoy a party - how little they know me!!!

But, in my day job, I need to be considered and measured in what I do (working with offenders and adults with basic Literacy needs) and there is no place for being judgemental, and I see no reason not to apply that to my everyday life, even my life on DS.
No one is saying we have to like everyone, but there is a way to go about disliking someone (yes, even on an internet forum) and still retain a modicum of courtesy, respect and calm without resorting to name-calling. We're all adults here, aren't we? If Hazel is a fellow adult they should be able to engage in a debate without sounding (forgive me) rather childish in their dislike of someone they've never met!
And I don't see how on earth that can be wrong!