[YULSTAR]

I know women always tend to see the 'good' side of 'bad' men, and they all think they will be the different one.......but really? Jermaine Defoe?

Obviously this is discussing something none of us actually know anything about, but it made me think.....

Do you have a right to sympathy when your partner cheats, when your partner has a reputation for being a serial cheater?

http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/showbiz/...ain-defoe.html

[Millie Muppet]

The guy has to settle down sometime I suppose, and hasn't Alexandra always been mates with him? Therefore maybe she hopes that's a better grounding for a relationship and she could be the one who changes his ways.

That was me playing the devil's advocate, as honestly? I think that any woman who even goes within ten paces of the guy needs their heads read, and she should know that more than anyone.

I'm not sure young rich philandering footballers will ever change their ways to be honest, as they're never really forced to take responsibility for the consequences of their actions. But, in the unlikely event they do, I reckon the best time for a woman to have any hope of a monogamous relationship with one is after he's retired- and no longer lauded by the press and hounded by wannabe WAGs.

I think the only wake-up call they'll get is when a younger, better version of them starts making the first team on a regular basis and they realise they're not immortal.

[Lamaestra]

I wouldn't go out with him at all. There is only one man in the public eye I would date, had he not been happily married for 29 years.

[Bathsheba]

Originally Posted by Lamaestra

I wouldn't go out with him at all. There is only one man in the public eye I would date, had he not been happily married for 29 years.

Who's that?

I suppose you can't choose who you fall for. People probably still hope a player will change eventually.

[Lukey37]

Who on earth would want to date someone whose previous conquests include Danielle Lloyd, Imogen Thomas and Chantelle Houghton?

It's like a roll call of cheap easy girls.

[zx50]

I could laugh at this bit:

"But as we lay on the bed he started rubbing his hands on me and we ended up having sex. The next day I felt dreadful about it. I'd asked him about Alexandra Burke and he told me it was 'early days'.

So bad that you felt the need to talk about it to the press.

[Lamaestra]

Originally Posted by Bathsheba

Who's that?

I suppose you can't choose who you fall for. People probably still hope a player will change eventually.

Players never change.

BIB - Tomas Ledin, Sweden's top rock star, now 60.

[The Prumeister]

He'd have to soak it in sheep dip and wrap it in 10 tonnes of clingfilm before it got anywhere near me..... As previous conquests include fragrant 'lovelies' such as Loyd and Thomas, I suspect a few precautions may be mandatory.

[Geneve]

sO YOU spoon with him and in the words of geordie shore spooning leads to forking... and THEN You ask about his GF!? classy lass

[Leicester_Hunk]

Originally Posted by The Prumeister

He'd have to soak it in sheep dip and wrap it in 10 tonnes of clingfilm before it got anywhere near me..... As previous conquests include fragrant 'lovelies' such as Loyd and Thomas, I suspect a few precautions may be mandatory.

ha ha! I saw him on that Vernon Kay programme last night and had forgotten how miniscule he is

[Lou17]

Surely if you dated any footballer you'd be expecting to be cheated on.

But the girls they attract are the ones that one them because theyre footballers so tit for tat I guess. they use them and vice versa.

[Button62]

Originally Posted by Lou17

Surely if you dated any footballer you'd be expecting to be cheated on.

But the girls they attract are the ones that one them because theyre footballers so tit for tat I guess. they use them and vice versa.

There are plenty of footballers up and down the country who are happily married and remain faithful to their wives/girlfriends. You never see the likes of Paul Scholes or Theo Walcott on the front page.

Not condoning footballers behaviour by any means, but OH and I used to be very friendly with a high profile footballer and his wife. A night out with them was a real eye opener. Sleazy girls would waltz right up to him and give him their phone numbers in front of his wife and it even happened when his children were present. He was faithful as far as she knew, but the doubt was always there.

[Miss XYZ]

Originally Posted by Button62

There are plenty of footballers up and down the country who are happily married and remain faithful to their wives/girlfriends. You never see the likes of Paul Scholes or Theo Walcott on the front page.

Not condoning footballers behaviour by any means, but OH and I used to be very friendly with a high profile footballer and his wife. A night out with them was a real eye opener. Sleazy girls would waltz right up to him and give him their phone numbers in front of his wife and it even happened when his children were present. He was faithful as far as she knew, but the doubt was always there.

Blimey, they'd have to have some nerve to give a man their phone number in front of his wife and kids! What did he do in those situations, presumably he would politely decline! Are he and his wife still together?

I agree with you about the likes of Paul Scholes etc, there are plenty of footballers who are decent, family men. It just seems to be the behaviour of a few that gives the lot of them a bad name. Have to say though, I wouldn't be able to trust a man like Jermain Defoe. Not with his track record.

[shelleyj89]

Originally Posted by Lou17

Surely if you dated any footballer you'd be expecting to be cheated on.

But the girls they attract are the ones that one them because theyre footballers so tit for tat I guess. they use them and vice versa.

Not every footballer cheats. Considering how many professional footballers there actually are, there's only a handful that cause the others to be painted with the same brush. There are plenty out there who are happily married, and don't go out cheating on their wives.

[bridgetb]

I wouldn't go near him or any footballer to be honest.. He obviously likes the cheap n easy slapper types. Not interested in him or his money either - he's a tosser.

[QWERTYOP]

Footballers in a showbiz forum... SMH.

[Geneve]

Its ok Chantelle Houghton said she should dump him so thats final then lol

[YULSTAR]

Will she lose all respect if she stays with him?

Has she downgraded herself to the z-celeb status of his exs?

Or do you think she can remain slightly above them cos of her singing?

[Hit Em Up Style]

Is there any footballer who has been faithful? it seems each one has had rumours of some sort do the rounds..

[wonkeydonkey]

Originally Posted by Lamaestra

Players never change.

BIB - Tomas Ledin, Sweden's top rock star, now 60.

Well don't mind if I do.

Originally Posted by Button62

There are plenty of footballers up and down the country who are happily married and remain faithful to their wives/girlfriends. You never see the likes of Paul Scholes or Theo Walcott on the front page.

Not condoning footballers behaviour by any means, but OH and I used to be very friendly with a high profile footballer and his wife. A night out with them was a real eye opener. Sleazy girls would waltz right up to him and give him their phone numbers in front of his wife and it even happened when his children were present. He was faithful as far as she knew, but the doubt was always there.

Oh yeah, I agree. It's very weird and quite unpleasant. I remember being at a party with a well known writer and although people did not actually thrust phone numbers into his hand, they talked across his wife as though she was invisible, cut her out of conversations, generally treated her like some sort of stain on the carpet.

[Sloopy]

You'd never know what you might catch from him, for starters!

Vile person.

[RAINBOWGIRL22]

The thing is he isn't even good looking?

Not even remotely so, he is a little spotty imp and looks like a tramp most of the time!!

Gold teeth also do nothing for me!

[Daisy Bennyboots]

Originally Posted by YULSTAR

Will she lose all respect if she stays with him?

Has she downgraded herself to the z-celeb status of his exs?

Or do you think she can remain slightly above them cos of her singing?

No, I don't think so. The likes of Victoria Beckham, Abby Clancy etc put the message out there years ago that cheating footballers will be not only forgiven but provided with children for staying. It's WAG law. I don't see most people respecting the wives any less. It comes with the terratory, the wives accept cheating and the public seem to without thinking them poor down trodden girls.

[Geneve]

Remember when Rooney cheated teh Wag patrol flocked over to tell colleen to stay

[DE53]

A leopard can't change it's spots.An old saying but one i've found to be true where a certain type of man is concerned