[FingersAndToes]

Originally Posted by conchie

http://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrit...ecretly-861187


Well this adds to the story !! He has already bought a new flat, which must have taken a few months to sort out.... she found out five days after he left. He must have been planning this as soon as the honeymoon was over !!

Soon it will come out, that he has been cheating for months, too. I do feel sorry for her, he sounds like an awful person and a father.

[ultimatums]

Originally Posted by FingersAndToes

Soon it will come out, that he has been cheating for months, too. I do feel sorry for her, he sounds like an awful person and a father.

Or years. The original story came from The Sun, not the DM, and their entertainment writer, Gorden Smart, wrote that there have been whispers about their relationship for many years. I think "whispers" tends to be a euphemism for cheating or gay. I don't think her husband is gay and I don't think she is either, so it must be cheating.

Infidelity doesn't automatically mean an end to a marriage or relationship. Maybe in the past they have been able to work through their problems but this time, maybe not.

[conchie]

Originally Posted by FingersAndToes

Soon it will come out, that he has been cheating for months, too. I do feel sorry for her, he sounds like an awful person and a father.

Absolute rotter by the sounds of it. If she found out five days after he had left , which would be about 12th April if her birthday is around the 6th ) that he had already closed a deal on a flat, that must have meant, even with a quick enough sale, he must have done an initial viewing of a flat at least end of January /early Feb. How on earth can you be viewing a flat in January for yourself with a view to buying, if you only got married in October !!!!!!! Who does that !!!!!

Either the reality of being married and trapped and contracted to stay caused a massive melt down and panic, or he went through with a marriage to ensure himself a good position to get a good lump of her money.

Throw in the suggested scenario of another bird as suggested by a lot of people, and in spite what must be obvious heartbreak at the moment, one can only hope in time she will realise she is worth so much more this and consider herself lucky to be rid of him.

[Demizdeeroolz]

Originally Posted by conchie

Either the reality of being married and trapped and contracted to stay caused a massive melt down and panic, or he went through with a marriage to ensure himself a good position to get a good lump of her money.

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I think this will be the case, they were together for a very long time, before she did IACGMOH and i'm sure she's said they don't have a nannies so he must have done most of the child rearing.

[JasonWatkins]

"Husband Graham felt like he was my unpaid runner"

In a previously unseen interview, done just weeks before she married Graham Quinn last October following a five-year engagement, she talked about their relationship troubles.

The former Hear’Say singer revealed their life together had become strained as he struggled to get to grips with fatherhood.

She said: “I love the girls and having children, but Gray said he felt like an unpaid runner first time round and I’d be like, ‘Listen, enough of that, go and get some muslins and help me’.”

Could really be as simple as him just being completely overwhelmed by fatherhood and freaking out if you take that literally. Could mean he could still grow a pair and come back, but I think with the way he left, on her birthday, and her not finding out until a week later, I think it would probably be worse than before as there'd be no trust there.

[Sunshine&Solace]

He always seemed a wrong 'un and an unlikely partner for her. She could do miles better (and almost certainly will in the future) he has more than likely been dipping his wick elsewhere.

[FingersAndToes]

Originally Posted by conchie

Absolute rotter by the sounds of it. If she found out five days after he had left , which would be about 12th April if her birthday is around the 6th ) that he had already closed a deal on a flat, that must have meant, even with a quick enough sale, he must have done an initial viewing of a flat at least end of January /early Feb. How on earth can you be viewing a flat in January for yourself with a view to buying, if you only got married in October !!!!!!! Who does that !!!!!

Either the reality of being married and trapped and contracted to stay caused a massive melt down and panic, or he went through with a marriage to ensure himself a good position to get a good lump of her money.

Throw in the suggested scenario of another bird as suggested by a lot of people, and in spite what must be obvious heartbreak at the moment, one can only hope in time she will realise she is worth so much more this and consider herself lucky to be rid of him.

After 11 years together, I think the way he left pretty much must have crushed any self confidence she had.

But I guess he had voiced his uncomfort previously, if he felt like unpair runner. That sounds actually quite awful. If anyone, who is actually a parent, feels like this way about taking care of the kids and their home, and the marriage, there is something seriously wrong.

I think the way he left, he might have actually wanted to crush her, so she wouldn't be asking him to come back.

[i4u]

Maybe he felt she was treating him like a flunky ?

To me she never seemed to say no to TV work and was popping up everywhere...did she have much time for family life?

[JasonWatkins]

Originally Posted by FingersAndToes

I think the way he left, he might have actually wanted to crush her, so she wouldn't be asking him to come back.

That's a very good point.

Originally Posted by i4u

To me she never seemed to say no to TV work and was popping up everywhere...did she have much time for family life?

Ahh yes, the mythical "Myleene is everywhere" legend.

[mintchocchip]

Whatever his reasons for leaving, spending months sorting out a new place is just duplicitous and leaving on her birthday is cruel.

[Leicester_Hunk]

I know a guy who did that. He had been seeing another woman for 4 years and he managed to get a mortgage behind his wife's back with his girlfriend, the girlfriend sold her house and he told his wife he was off, had bought another house, packed his bags and went. Funny he was called Graham as well.

[johartuk]

Originally Posted by mintchocchip

Whatever his reasons for leaving, spending months sorting out a new place is just duplicitous and leaving on her birthday is cruel.

Exactly. Someone who wasa desperate and at the end of their tether wouldn't be buying a flat months before walking out. He's been planning this for a while and I'd be surprised if there wasn't another woman involved.

[i4u]

Originally Posted by johartuk

Exactly. Someone who wasa desperate and at the end of their tether wouldn't be buying a flat months before walking out. He's been planning this for a while and I'd be surprised if there wasn't another woman involved.

He left her 2 months ago but no one was aware of it till a couple of days ago...and know a paper claims it knows where he's living and that he been planning his move for sometime.

Many times the showbiz press report someone has bought a property when it's actually been rented.

[i4u]

Originally Posted by JasonWatkins

Ahh yes, the mythical "Myleene is everywhere" legend.

Mythical?

She was making more TV appearances than Carol Vorderman, she even put Sarah Millican to shame.

Be interesting to see if we get a Daybreak or This Morning interview from Mayleene, or down the line a book on how to survive without a man.

[johartuk]

Originally Posted by i4u

He left her 2 months ago but no one was aware of it till a couple of days ago...and know a paper claims it knows where he's living and that he been planning his move for sometime.

Many times the showbiz press report someone has bought a property when it's actually been rented.

Bought or rented is irrelevant, this was still a pre-planned split on his part, which does suggest some level of duplicity.

[conchie]

Originally Posted by johartuk

Bought or rented is irrelevant, this was still a pre-planned split on his part, which does suggest some level of duplicity.

Given the very very close proximity of the marriage and the flat hunting ( a matter of weeks !!) it does suggest he was close to wanting out on the day he married her. Why on earth go through with it. I certainly hope she gets herself a good solicitor. One would hope she would even have a good argument for an annullment, not that I know the legal ramifications of this complex subject, but the marraige was certainly entered into under less than truthful circumstances.

Bet she is kicking herself they did not just carry on living together, chances are he would still have bolted if he was feeling like this, but at least the messy legal hassle of divorce would not have to be dealt with.

It amazing how thirty minutes in the big white frock can lead to utter chaos and massive expense.

Live together people .... never do it !!

[FingersAndToes]

Originally Posted by conchie

Given the very very close proximity of the marriage and the flat hunting ( a matter of weeks !!) it does suggest he was close to wanting out on the day he married her. Why on earth go through with it. I certainly hope she gets herself a good solicitor. One would hope she would even have a good argument for an annullment, not that I know the legal ramifications of this complex subject, but the marraige was certainly entered into under less than truthful circumstances.

Bet she is kicking herself they did not just carry on living together, chances are he would still have bolted if he was feeling like this, but at least the messy legal hassle of divorce would not have to be dealt with.

It amazing how thirty minutes in the big white frock can lead to utter chaos and massive expense.

Live together people .... never do it !!

The scariest thought is, that this was done by someone, whom she was with for 11 years. If you can't trust someone like that, you've spent a decade with them, are raising kids with them, then who can you trust?

Whatever one thinks about Russel Brand, he was a total gentleman for the divorce, he left the marriage with his own, and didn't even attempt to have a go at Katie's money.

[lexi22]

Originally Posted by i4u

Mythical?

She was making more TV appearances than Carol Vorderman, she even put Sarah Millican to shame.

Be interesting to see if we get a Daybreak or This Morning interview from Mayleene, or down the line a book on how to survive without a man.

So what if she was? Isn't she the primary bread winner, plus she's working in a fickle industry where you grab what you can while you can. I'm not a big Myleene-as-presenter fan but I hate this condemnation of women who work hard and are ambitious, particularly in an industry that treats them in such a cavalier easy-come easy-go fashion.

Would you condemn a man for doing what you're accusing her of? No you wouldn't. It's pathetic. As I said, I'm not a fan but she's always come across as very hard-working and professional.

[susan24]

What a complete toe rag. He has been planning this for months to have bought a new flat. He only married her to make sure he received up to half of her money. If he had left before, he would have been entitled to nothing legally. What a bas**rd! And then to rub it in, he dumped her on her birthday, which will now always have that memory.

Myleene stood by him after everyone told her to dump him when he was in trouble with the law. And if he is feeling bitter because she is more successful than him, he should have done something about it, got himself a job and grown a pair. It appears he is not even seeing his children.

I'm not a big fan of Myleene, but she seems a decent woman. She deserves much better than this scumbag. It's going to be very difficult for a long time, but she is well rid of him, and will eventually meet someone else - and let's face it - he can't be any worse. But I think she needs to brace herself, because I'm sure there is more to come. Probably another woman.

[Angel Dust]

Wonder if the producers of CBB are on the phone to his agent as we speak?

[boddism]

My heart goes out to Myleen. No matter what she may have been like behind closed doors no-one deserves THAT!

Leaving her on her birthday seems v symbolic to me... was this meant as a deliberate punch in the guts?? Obv he mustve been angry about something to choose THAT day! (If its true of course!)

[Tweacle Tart II]

“She feels totally betrayed. How can someone house-hunt, put in an offer, exchange contracts and move in all within the space of five days?"

Oh come on, it happens all the time in Albert Square

http://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrit...ecretly-861187

Wonder how long it will take to get his side of the story out there?

[Fatsia]

Originally Posted by JasonWatkins

Maybe it's because i'm a bloke but I certainly don't recall Myleene "dictating" anything

Many, many people have written books and made careers out of giving advice about motherhood so if Myleene is "dictating" I guess everyone else is ...

It wasn't just the book/s telling us all how to be a perfect parent (even when she'd only been a parent for 5 minutes herself), it was also a whole series of videos on Yahoo, telling us "how to keep our husband interested" after having a baby. She came across as utterly patronising, IMO.

Originally Posted by Paace

It seems to be impossible these days for any celebrity marriage to last . On the surface every thing seems to be great and then a few months down the line we get all these breakups, Mylene, Danni,Katherine, Demi etc. Surely all these beautiful women can't be bad in bed .

During the whole Cheryl/Ashley bit, my friend said "It doesn't matter how beautiful the girl is, somebody, somewhere, is tired of her sh!t" - this sums it up for me. Who knows what anybody is like behind closed doors?

OK having said all that, I know it doesn't sound like it, but I do feel sorry for her. To have your family ripped apart, apparently out of the blue, must be incredibly painful. I just don't buy the "she's so nice though, how could he?" stuff, he must have had reasons, we just don't know what they are.

[mazzy50]

Originally Posted by Paace

Is she another who has lost weight on a break up? Why do they all seem to go down this route, Katherine Jenkins, Demi Moore, Cheryl Cole etc.

I don't know what you mean by "go down this route" as if it is a deliberate choice. Significant emotional distress is often accompanied by weight loss. When my mother got ill with Alzheimer's and there was huge upheaval at my place of work with re-structuring and a change of manager I lost two stone in a very short period. I wasn't dieting, just the very thought of eating made me feel sick. Look at Angeline J after her mother died - she lost loads of weight.

[Sloopy]

Whatever your opinion of Myleene, if events have happened as described then he sounds like a spineless git. He was always known for having a bit of a dark past but she stuck with him throughout.

They were together for years then he ducks out after merely months of marriage. He'll be in line for a substantial payoff now he is the 'husband' rather than just the 'boyfriend'. Shame she went on to marry him at all really, but of course she wasn't to know.

Maybe he does have his reasons, but it sounds as if he had it all meticulously planned.