Originally Posted by seejay63:
“Pip had no business inviting Toby without asking if it was ok. A family tea is just that, family. Just because Toby is Pip's current horizontal jogging partner doesn't make him family.”
I am inclined to agree with you. I wouldn't bring a guest to a party given in honour of someone, without asking if they would extent the invitation to my plus 1. I think Pip was unacceptably presumptious.
I know it flies in the face of orthodoxy but my sympathy is with Jill. I think she is perfectly within her rights to choose who she wants to share her special day with. And I liked that she expressed her misgivings rather than adopting a silent, powerless, martydom to keep others happy, as I suspect older people often do.
What I would critisice her for is not talking about her concerns about Toby and her history with the Fairbrother's with Pip and indeed the others in the family. They aren't to know that she always felt she lived in the shadow of Grace's ghost (assume this is the root of the problem - before my time so I don't really know) and may not have remembered that another generation of Fairbrothers treated Jill's daughter shabbily.
If she articulated her concerns it may help her to come to terms with the past as well. So for that reason she would be wise to do so. However she can be forgiven for having her blind spots, as do we all.