[Thomas007]

Today I saw a post secret about someone saying they were still a virgin and that they think they'll always be one.

That got me wondering, at what age would being a virgin be a deal breaker.

Ok, so you meet this guy/girl. They are perfect for you in every way. They take you out and it was an instant connection, something you've been waiting for your entire life. In the course of the evening they do or say something that makes you think, "This is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with."

But over the course of talking throughout the week you come to find that they're a virgin. You've been inside their home and there's no lampshades made of human skin, they have actual friends, healthy relationship with their mother, etc etc.

My female friends says that it wouldn't matter. Another friend said that after about 26 it'd be a bit weird. What says DS? And if it would be a deal breaker, why?

ETA: For the sake of this poll "After 20" means older than 21. "After 30" means older than 31 etc. If it's, for example 26 click After 20 and clarify in response. Thank you.

[woodbush]

It wouldn't bother me what age they were. Some people want to save themselves for someone they love no matter what the age.

There are many reasons why some people don't have a sexual relationship until they are older.

[TxBelle]

If they are sane, why would it be a dealbreaker? I would admire someone that saved themselves for that special person.

[PerpetualAscent]

Originally Posted by TxBelle

If they are sane, why would it be a dealbreaker? I would admire someone that saved themselves for that special person.

I've never understood the concept of 'saving yourself', as though after you have sex for the first time you're spoiled or are different somehow.

Not sure if it would be a deal breaker but if someone was attractive and in their late twenties I might start to get suspicious.

[Pootmatoot]

I suspect many people just wouldn't announce it, and would hope for the best. It's only in the movies that people scream "I'M STILL A VIRGIN!" seconds before penetration. The internet has been around long enough for even a virgin to know what they're supposed to be doing, this isn't 1920 when it could mean you had literally no idea what was about to happen or what you would do.

[TxBelle]

Originally Posted by PerpetualAscent

I've never understood the concept of 'saving yourself', as though after you have sex for the first time you're spoiled or are different somehow.

Not sure if it would be a deal breaker but if someone was attractive and in their late twenties I might start to get suspicious.

I realize that "saving yourself" is probably very old fashioned, obsolete and backward, but for some its a special moment in their lives.

[Si_Crewe]

"Deal breaker"?

If I was buying a car off them or whatever I wouldn't care if they were a virgin or not.

[MrHoppy]

It might correlate with other things that might be dealbreakers but in itself it's fine.

Poll fails to state whether the gender is for the poster or for their prospective other half.

[LaceyLouelle3]

I was 20 when I lost my virginity, to be quite honest I think he was pleased he was 'taking it'. He seemed to think it was some sort of achievement, he definitely didn't seem put off by the idea.

I don't think its a deal breaker at all.

[Pootmatoot]

Originally Posted by LaceyLouelle3

I was 20 when I lost my virginity, to be quite honest I think he was pleased he was 'taking it'. He seemed to think it was some sort of achievement, he definitely didn't seem put off by the idea.

I don't think its a deal breaker at all.

Perhaps he has your hymen on his wall, like a stag's head?

[subversive]

Originally Posted by Pootmatoot

Perhaps he has your hymen on his wall, like a stag's head?

or maybe in a book, like a stamp collection, dated and numbered, how long it took, etc..

[pugamo]

Depends on the person with the key variable being desperation level.

[peon]

it wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me to be with a virgin of any age. she would at least be able to accomodate my micropenis and be unable to compare my appalling sex techniques with anybody else. win/win.

[woofwoof77]

it wouldnt bother me at all


for anyone who it bothers, you must be pretty shallow IMO

[Iphigenia]

I don't understand the poll choices. When it says Male xyz and Female xyz, does it mean you answer if you're the Male thinking about elderly virgins or the Female thinking about elderly virgins? Or do the questions apply first to male virgis, then to female virgins.

I'm Female, never considered anyone's virginity one way on another, and can't see how it would matter.

Why should not being a virgin be a turn-off? Aside from being a individual's own choice, what an immense turn on to be somebody's first!!

[Ænima]

If we've been going out a while and she's still a virgin, it's a deal breaker, unless of course she's very good with her hands/ mouth.

[Espresso]

Originally Posted by Thomas007

Ok, so you meet this guy/girl. They are perfect for you in every way. They take you out and it was an instant connection, something you've been waiting for your entire life. In the course of the evening they do or say something that makes you think, "This is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with."

If you met a person and thought that about them and they were similarly entranced with you, then you were put off because they were a virgin, that would make you - without question - the world's leading twerp, whatever age you were or they were.

[Victoria Sponge]

I don't like the idea of dating a virgin, taking a guy's virginity or teaching him sex. For me, sex is a very important part of a relationship. However I suppose if I already really fancied him a lot and he was a virgin, I'd have to work with it.

[River 07]

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

[skipjack79]

Originally Posted by woodbush

There are many reasons why some people don't have a sexual relationship until they are older.

The dominating reason will be because they are awkward with the opposite sex, and most of the time any other explanation is a cover.

I remember when I first had sex, it was a calamity, and there is a learning curve before you become sexually confident. It's no fun having sex with somebody who doesn't know what they're doing, and like driving, it's something blokes should be able to do by their early 20s at the very latest.

[Victoria Sponge]

Originally Posted by Espresso

If you met a person and thought that about them and they were similarly entranced with you, then you were put off because they were a virgin, that would make you - without question - the world's leading twerp, whatever age you were or they were.

What if the virgin wanted to carry on being a virgin though? Then what? Personally I couldn't be in a relationship and abstain from sex. I'd end up seeking it elsewhere...what are the alternatives?

A virgin + someone who likes sex = not a compatible relationship.

[Porcupine]

I would say mid 20s. When I meet / date a man I want them to know what they are doing in bed. I would hate to be the one in the driving seat.

[Bedsit Bob]

Where the poll says Male and Female, does that refer to the person voting , or to the person you are dating

[sootysoo]

I might think it was a bit odd if they hadn't even attempted to have sex and they were in their thirties but I wouldn't say it was a "deal breaker", especially if that person was the one.

[netcurtains]

I'd rather have a virgin than someone who's screwed everything that moved.