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Old 16-06-2012, 17:49   #1
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People who talk to you one minute then ignore you the next.

Does it annoy you when people do it?

I understand if someone is busy, but don't see the point talking to someone then stop contacting them altogether for no apparent reason.
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Old 16-06-2012, 17:57   #2
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It might not mean that they dislike you, but could be down to some other reason.
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Old 16-06-2012, 17:59   #3
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I hate that too. Probably means they're inconsiderate twonks...
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Old 16-06-2012, 18:00   #4
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Yes Its very annoying although, I have been known to do it myself on occasion.
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Old 16-06-2012, 18:02   #5
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Old 16-06-2012, 18:05   #6
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Yes Its very annoying although, I have been known to do it myself on occasion.
Why talk to them in the first place then?
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Old 16-06-2012, 18:10   #7
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Usually means they have their wives or girlfriends with them. It is lovely to watch them squirm.
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Old 16-06-2012, 18:13   #8
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Why talk to them in the first place then?
Well sometimes you think their a half decent person and then something they say changes your mind.
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Old 16-06-2012, 22:54   #9
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Maybe your interestingness levels fluctuate wildly.
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Old 17-06-2012, 00:00   #10
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I get that most of the time. I do find that arrogant but I also think F them.
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Old 17-06-2012, 00:12   #11
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I hate it. It's really annoying.
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Old 17-06-2012, 00:15   #12
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proberbly means they were after something off of you, but now they dont, so no point in being "mates" with you in order to get the thing or skill you have. Or the local rumour mill has been spreading things about you.
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Old 17-06-2012, 01:03   #13
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I always think when a girl for example comes and talks to me. I get very suspicious thinking its some kind of joke that's why I don't trust anyone.
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Old 17-06-2012, 03:28   #14
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I always think when a girl for example comes and talks to me. I get very suspicious thinking its some kind of joke that's why I don't trust anyone.
I know that feeling, having her group of friends giggling and talking behind thier hands looking my way as she walks over and engages me in small talk is kind of suspicious.
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Old 17-06-2012, 08:05   #15
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Usually means they have their wives or girlfriends with them. It is lovely to watch them squirm.
Hmm, to be honest I've never understood the logic of that. I always speak to people I know, whether my girl friend is with me or not.

Do they ignore colleagues from work, for example, because they think it might somehow offend their other halves to be seen acknowledging their existence ? Sorry, but I simply don't get it. All that's required is "Hi, how are you" ~ it's not engaging in a long protracted conversation.

As for the OP's question, there are plenty of people like that around. All over you one minute, then blanking you the next.
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Old 17-06-2012, 08:09   #16
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Are you talking about people you're talking to face to face and then stopping and going elsewhere or people who don't talk to you anymore?
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Old 17-06-2012, 08:14   #17
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proberbly means they were after something off of you, but now they dont, so no point in being "mates" with you in order to get the thing or skill you have. Or the local rumour mill has been spreading things about you.
No need to be rude about it though, as that could potentially alienate the person the next time they might need them. It will also mean that they could easily mention the person's ignorant behaviour to others who might have experienced the same, thus compounding the person's reputation as an ignorant user.

Civility costs nothing and over time, buys plenty.
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Old 18-06-2012, 07:40   #18
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I know that feeling, having her group of friends giggling and talking behind thier hands looking my way as she walks over and engages me in small talk is kind of suspicious.
That's not how it comes about with me though,they just say something to me or come up to talk to me and I just get suspicious. I don't want to think like that, but its just a natural human reaction or maybe am just being paranoid.

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Are you talking about people you're talking to face to face and then stopping and going elsewhere or people who don't talk to you anymore?
No talking about people on the internet chat to you then never hear from them again. Loads meet these days on the internet and make some great friends, maybe am just spending too much time on the internet or one of the select few, who will keep getting ignored for no reason when I haven’t said or done anything wrong.
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Old 18-06-2012, 07:54   #19
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I hate this. So many times i've been introduced to friends of friends, and they only talk to me when I am with my friends. If I see them when I am not with our mutual friends they completely blank me. Its the same at work as well. You spend a day working with somebody and you see them in the canteen a week later and they blank you. Maybe its just me.
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Old 18-06-2012, 08:01   #20
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That's not how it comes about with me though,they just say something to me or come up to talk to me and I just get suspicious. I don't want to think like that, but its just a natural human reaction or maybe am just being paranoid.



No talking about people on the internet chat to you then never hear from them again. Loads meet these days on the internet and make some great friends, maybe am just spending too much time on the internet or one of the select few, who will keep getting ignored for no reason when I haven’t said or done anything wrong.
I had someone I knew online and met a couple of times for coffee when they were in the area. We were both having difficulties irl and would support each other and just generally chat a lot. I thought we were really good friends. Then I noticed they had started to become distant. Didn't answer texts on the odd occasion I texted 'Hi hows things?' or just generally chatty stuff we'd always done. As soon as I logged on MSN they would be there and suddenly show as 'offline' even when I'd had no intention of messaging them. Then once in a while they'd post sarky comments to stuff I posted on fb or elsewhere. After a while I'd had enough and asked them via PM on another forum what I'd done wrong. Got a whole load of BS about them being really busy, yada yada yada, how bad my message made them feel etc, they'd be back to normal soon as the busy stuff would end. Needless to say they never got 'back to normal' and I have let go.
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Old 18-06-2012, 08:16   #21
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They're fading you out of the "friendship zone". Just take it as a hint and move on...
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Old 18-06-2012, 08:22   #22
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They're fading you out of the "friendship zone". Just take it as a hint and move on...
It's not as easy as that though if the friendship was important to you and you were led to believe important to them as well. Quite hurtful when it suddenly dawns on you that you've been dropped totally with no warning. I've moved on now and I'm sure the OP will as well but it can be baffling.
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Old 18-06-2012, 08:45   #23
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It's not as easy as that though if the friendship was important to you and you were led to believe important to them as well. Quite hurtful when it suddenly dawns on you that you've been dropped totally with no warning. I've moved on now and I'm sure the OP will as well but it can be baffling.
I know it's disheartening but if you stop to think about how much attention that person has paid to how you might be feeling, then you would realize, paying them any attention at all would be foolish. They obviously didn't care enough to give you the slightest of respect. Why give them the same?
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