The Drama continues petulant child ffs not in the mood for it all sorry that's another grump lol
The Grumpy Old Women Thread... (Part 18)
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You've every right to be grumpy LL.
I'm feeling a bit grrr too. I got through loads of stuff recently and really thought that I could have a bit of a break in the lead up to Christmas but instead I'm dealing with other people's cock ups again. And not just one or two either - in fact I'm struggling to remember the last time I came across someone who did what they were supposed to do, or did their job well. I hate incompetence!!!
On the other hand, I'm just back from a lovely bike ride. Yes, it was very gloomy and drizzly, but kind of moody too, atmospheric, and there was next to no wind, and I really enjoyed it.
I'm feeling a bit grrr too. I got through loads of stuff recently and really thought that I could have a bit of a break in the lead up to Christmas but instead I'm dealing with other people's cock ups again. And not just one or two either - in fact I'm struggling to remember the last time I came across someone who did what they were supposed to do, or did their job well. I hate incompetence!!!
On the other hand, I'm just back from a lovely bike ride. Yes, it was very gloomy and drizzly, but kind of moody too, atmospheric, and there was next to no wind, and I really enjoyed it.
Originally Posted by Sadperson:
“TFIF. That is all.
No offence taken here LL
Just not had time to think this week. ”
“TFIF. That is all.
No offence taken here LL
Just not had time to think this week. ”
Hope everyone is safe warm and well we are cut off but not going anywhere thankfully love and hugs grumpies.
Laura, are you on a hill?
Hope you are staying safe and dry, thinking of everybody in lovely Cumbria
Sorry to be MIA again - like Plum and Sad I'm pleading pressure of work.
Hugs and happy Sunday, sweeties!
Hope you are staying safe and dry, thinking of everybody in lovely Cumbria
Sorry to be MIA again - like Plum and Sad I'm pleading pressure of work.
Hugs and happy Sunday, sweeties!
Let us know how you're getting on LL. xxx
We've had high winds, but that's about it as far as WEATHER. And it wasn't really that bad anyway. I couldn't get out on the bike yesterday - I think I would've ended up going backwards - but I did manage to get up on the roof. Life's been so busy and those 'little jobs' like clearing gutters simply haven't been on my radar. All done now, and a fair bit of gardening too, so hopefully I'll reap the rewards in the spring.
We've had high winds, but that's about it as far as WEATHER. And it wasn't really that bad anyway. I couldn't get out on the bike yesterday - I think I would've ended up going backwards
- but I did manage to get up on the roof. Life's been so busy and those 'little jobs' like clearing gutters simply haven't been on my radar. All done now, and a fair bit of gardening too, so hopefully I'll reap the rewards in the spring.
So my oh decided last night to tell my children that I was a grinch at Christmas because I had shi**y one as a child with crap food etc. Not true. I have some super childhood memories and my best Christmas memories are of when the children were small with my extended family. My dread of Christmas comes from enduring Christmas with the outlaws who would argue with each other and belittle me or tell me I would never be one of the family as I wasn't blood. And that was the ones who spoke to me at all. So I have spent a sleepless night remembering the worst ones. He has this idealized picture and he has only memories as his parents are dead. I swore at him at the time. Something I rarely have done and never in front of the children. I am still so upset. Do I tell him what I really thing and spoil his memories? Biting my tongue for the sake of him and my children continues to cause me heartache. This woman continues to poison my relationships from her grave .
Originally Posted by Amica:
“So my oh decided last night to tell my children that I was a grinch at Christmas because I had shi**y one as a child with crap food etc. Not true. I have some super childhood memories and my best Christmas memories are of when the children were small with my extended family. My dread of Christmas comes from enduring Christmas with the outlaws who would argue with each other and belittle me or tell me I would never be one of the family as I wasn't blood. And that was the ones who spoke to me at all. So I have spent a sleepless night remembering the worst ones. He has this idealized picture and he has only memories as his parents are dead. I swore at him at the time. Something I rarely have done and never in front of the children. I am still so upset. Do I tell him what I really thing and spoil his memories? Biting my tongue for the sake of him and my children continues to cause me heartache. This woman continues to poison my relationships from her grave .”
“So my oh decided last night to tell my children that I was a grinch at Christmas because I had shi**y one as a child with crap food etc. Not true. I have some super childhood memories and my best Christmas memories are of when the children were small with my extended family. My dread of Christmas comes from enduring Christmas with the outlaws who would argue with each other and belittle me or tell me I would never be one of the family as I wasn't blood. And that was the ones who spoke to me at all. So I have spent a sleepless night remembering the worst ones. He has this idealized picture and he has only memories as his parents are dead. I swore at him at the time. Something I rarely have done and never in front of the children. I am still so upset. Do I tell him what I really thing and spoil his memories? Biting my tongue for the sake of him and my children continues to cause me heartache. This woman continues to poison my relationships from her grave .”
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No idea what to say under the circumstances apart from I would be very unhappy also.
Leak in the roof and the front door but better that some, it has been horrible folk are only returning after the last floods so we got off likely.
Love Hugs and Vibes to grumpies
Originally Posted by Amica:
“So my oh decided last night to tell my children that I was a grinch at Christmas because I had shi**y one as a child with crap food etc. Not true. I have some super childhood memories and my best Christmas memories are of when the children were small with my extended family. My dread of Christmas comes from enduring Christmas with the outlaws who would argue with each other and belittle me or tell me I would never be one of the family as I wasn't blood. And that was the ones who spoke to me at all. So I have spent a sleepless night remembering the worst ones. He has this idealized picture and he has only memories as his parents are dead. I swore at him at the time. Something I rarely have done and never in front of the children. I am still so upset. Do I tell him what I really thing and spoil his memories? Biting my tongue for the sake of him and my children continues to cause me heartache. This woman continues to poison my relationships from her grave .”
“So my oh decided last night to tell my children that I was a grinch at Christmas because I had shi**y one as a child with crap food etc. Not true. I have some super childhood memories and my best Christmas memories are of when the children were small with my extended family. My dread of Christmas comes from enduring Christmas with the outlaws who would argue with each other and belittle me or tell me I would never be one of the family as I wasn't blood. And that was the ones who spoke to me at all. So I have spent a sleepless night remembering the worst ones. He has this idealized picture and he has only memories as his parents are dead. I swore at him at the time. Something I rarely have done and never in front of the children. I am still so upset. Do I tell him what I really thing and spoil his memories? Biting my tongue for the sake of him and my children continues to cause me heartache. This woman continues to poison my relationships from her grave .”
She should've counted herself very lucky indeed to have a daughter-in-law like you. I'm so sad that you were treated like that.
I'd tell him how you feel, but that's just how I'd handle it, so don't follow my advice if it doesn't feel right for you. But yes, for me saying my bit would be like saying I'm important here too, if that makes sense. When my in-laws behaved badly on a handful of occasions I let Batman know that I was hurt/disappointed/cross (delete as appropriate) and I fully expected him to be in my corner. Not to go and have arguments on my behalf but to be aware that some things definitely weren't okay by me. His parents, so he could then step in and deal with whatever before things got worse.
Some issues will never be 'mended' now. It's too late. But at least it didn't affect our relationship, Batman's and mine I mean. But that's just my personality I guess - I know that if I took the not saying and having sleepless nights route I'd let it impact in other ways. I would definitely be resentful. And I can be a right old cow when I'm like that. So it's better out than in.
But like I said, that's just me. You're a better person already having put up with it and there's an argument for letting old grudges mellow into distant memories.
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Oh Amica - I feel your pain. The outlaws in my life continue to make Boxing Day the day of the season that I dread. I've deliberately removed myself from pretty much every other social occasion over the year though. Nothing but negativity and unkindness - criticism and sheer obnoxiousness. Tolerated for the sake of the children - yet unwittingly, fostering an acceptance that this behaviour is 'normal' - which I have now realised to my horror.
I'd tell him, if you can do it without an almighty row. I'd certainly tell the kids, they're old enough to understand and maybe that avoids the confrontation with hubby if he won't take it well.
Big hugs. Glad to hear those of you in the somewhat submerged parts of the UK are ok. I drove down to Andover in the wind yesterday and that was bad enough.
BG - cannot believe you picked that of all days to get on the roof!!
Today I am mostly cleaning, before Mr Sad festoons the house with Christmas decorations.
I'd tell him, if you can do it without an almighty row. I'd certainly tell the kids, they're old enough to understand and maybe that avoids the confrontation with hubby if he won't take it well.
Big hugs. Glad to hear those of you in the somewhat submerged parts of the UK are ok. I drove down to Andover in the wind yesterday and that was bad enough.
BG - cannot believe you picked that of all days to get on the roof!!Today I am mostly cleaning, before Mr Sad festoons the house with Christmas decorations.
Happy Birthday OMG, hope all is good with your and yours love and hugs
Hello Grumpies nothing to report love and hugs to all who want or need
Hello Grumpies nothing to report love and hugs to all who want or need
Originally Posted by me@home:
“Happy Birthday Laura! xx I hope that the day treats you kindly.”
“Happy Birthday Laura! xx I hope that the day treats you kindly.”
Thank you Me@ hope your good and all ready for Christmas love and hugs.
Originally Posted by Sadperson:
“Happy birthday LL and happy birthday to that Goshie, wherever she's hiding these days ”
“Happy birthday LL
and happy birthday to that Goshie, wherever she's hiding these days ”
Thanks Sad, yes I do hope go she pops in and says hello, would love another episode of last day even after all this time I remember it
** waves to Laura **
MrsKJ is having the house decorated her way costing mucho £ and I've no idea what to get her for Christmas. The point being I'm not a bad man nor a skinflint but I'm not flush . Ladies, can you give me some ideas and preferably links? Just enough to avoid tears.
At the back of our wardrobe we found the 30 year old liqueurs and stuff everyone bought back then because duty free. I chucked most of it down the toilet but I (ahem) saved 1 1/2 bottles of gin. Gin keeps well.
Gin, neat, at 07:00 on a Monday morning. Oh dear me KJ.
MrsKJ is having the house decorated her way costing mucho £ and I've no idea what to get her for Christmas. The point being I'm not a bad man nor a skinflint but I'm not flush . Ladies, can you give me some ideas and preferably links? Just enough to avoid tears.
At the back of our wardrobe we found the 30 year old liqueurs and stuff everyone bought back then because duty free. I chucked most of it down the toilet but I (ahem) saved 1 1/2 bottles of gin. Gin keeps well.
Gin, neat, at 07:00 on a Monday morning. Oh dear me KJ.
Originally Posted by KJ44:
“** waves to Laura **
MrsKJ is having the house decorated her way costing mucho £ and I've no idea what to get her for Christmas. The point being I'm not a bad man nor a skinflint but I'm not flush . Ladies, can you give me some ideas and preferably links? Just enough to avoid tears.
At the back of our wardrobe we found the 30 year old liqueurs and stuff everyone bought back then because duty free. I chucked most of it down the toilet but I (ahem) saved 1 1/2 bottles of gin. Gin keeps well.
Gin, neat, at 07:00 on a Monday morning. Oh dear me KJ.”
“** waves to Laura **
MrsKJ is having the house decorated her way costing mucho £ and I've no idea what to get her for Christmas. The point being I'm not a bad man nor a skinflint but I'm not flush . Ladies, can you give me some ideas and preferably links? Just enough to avoid tears.
At the back of our wardrobe we found the 30 year old liqueurs and stuff everyone bought back then because duty free. I chucked most of it down the toilet but I (ahem) saved 1 1/2 bottles of gin. Gin keeps well.
Gin, neat, at 07:00 on a Monday morning. Oh dear me KJ.
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Waves back to KJ💋
As for ideas re present what about a nice watch? I don't wear much jewellery💍only wedding set or a day of interest for MrsKJ sorry not much help
Originally Posted by Amica:
“So my oh decided last night to tell my children that I was a grinch at Christmas because I had shi**y one as a child with crap food etc. Not true. I have some super childhood memories and my best Christmas memories are of when the children were small with my extended family. My dread of Christmas comes from enduring Christmas with the outlaws who would argue with each other and belittle me or tell me I would never be one of the family as I wasn't blood. And that was the ones who spoke to me at all. So I have spent a sleepless night remembering the worst ones. He has this idealized picture and he has only memories as his parents are dead. I swore at him at the time. Something I rarely have done and never in front of the children. I am still so upset. Do I tell him what I really thing and spoil his memories? Biting my tongue for the sake of him and my children continues to cause me heartache. This woman continues to poison my relationships from her grave .”
“So my oh decided last night to tell my children that I was a grinch at Christmas because I had shi**y one as a child with crap food etc. Not true. I have some super childhood memories and my best Christmas memories are of when the children were small with my extended family. My dread of Christmas comes from enduring Christmas with the outlaws who would argue with each other and belittle me or tell me I would never be one of the family as I wasn't blood. And that was the ones who spoke to me at all. So I have spent a sleepless night remembering the worst ones. He has this idealized picture and he has only memories as his parents are dead. I swore at him at the time. Something I rarely have done and never in front of the children. I am still so upset. Do I tell him what I really thing and spoil his memories? Biting my tongue for the sake of him and my children continues to cause me heartache. This woman continues to poison my relationships from her grave .”
Aw how sad x not sure what I would do but big hugs to you
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