Originally Posted by Winchester Lady:
“I was called an idiot for saying on another thread that Jahmene should not be promoting himself as a victim for monetary gain. Posters who have expressed similar thoughts are being slated on this thread. I am not lacking in compassion - in fact I am a trustee of 2 national charities which help people who are suffering in different ways and I spend at least 40 hours of my personal time every week on this voluntary work. But it does annoy me how Jahmene is publicising all his difficulties to get votes.
Sometimes people posting here say that it is not Jahmene, it is the producers who are milking his past but tonight Jahmene himself kept referring to his background - as he has consistently done. I know so many people who have come to terms with their traumas in private and act with dignity in public so I cannot help thinking that Jahmene is immature and not at all inspirational, as he seems to think he is.”
This seems to reflect a paternalistic (gender notwithstanding) view towards victims of abuse. They must behave in a manner you view as appropriate or "dignified". Certain schools of psychology would call this repression, not dignity.
Jahmene doesn't wallow in his experiences. He implements them to make positive change in his life. He cites them as motivation for his performing in general, and in this contest specifically.
Your "seen but not heard" attitude towards victims suggests to me that you might want to limit your contributions to the financial side. The impact your involvement is having might not be entirely positive.