[Woofy]

Originally Posted by Shappy

Did any of you watch that show "The Undatables" on TV? Not that I am implying anything about us! Anyway, I thought it was a really sweet show and it gave me lots of positive feelings.

Have you seen how much it is to join the dating site they used for the show?

http://www.searchmate.co.uk/join-now.html

It's a bit pricey.

[Shappy]

Originally Posted by Woofy

Have you seen how much it is to join the dating site they used for the show?

http://www.searchmate.co.uk/join-now.html

It's a bit pricey.

It's an 18 month membership though and aren't some sites like match about £30 a month (if you renew month by month)? So that would make match.com about £540 in 18 months and this is a more personalised service. The match.com rates are cheaper if you buy a longer subscription though.

Still, these services really do prey on people's desperation.

[Shappy]

Well, I'm back from my date. I'm not sure whether I liked him; I could see myself being friends with him but not yet sure about anything more. He didn't suggest another date at the end, but did text me to tell me it was good to meet me. I think I'll just wait and see.

Also, he lied about his age on his profile which really annoyed me. His real age (40 instead of 37) slipped out in conversation and he pleaded ignorance about the wrong age on the profile. Why do people lie on the internet!

[Woofy]

Originally Posted by Shappy

Well, I'm back from my date. I'm not sure whether I liked him; I could see myself being friends with him but not yet sure about anything more. He didn't suggest another date at the end, but did text me to tell me it was good to meet me. I think I'll just wait and see.

Also, he lied about his age on his profile which really annoyed me. His real age (40 instead of 37) slipped out in conversation and he pleaded ignorance about the wrong age on the profile. Why do people lie on the internet!

Well at least he didn't cancel again. I know the first date is always hard when you're both nervous, just wait until he texts again.

Also, why lie on the profile. It doesn't make any sense. Surely if you do hit it off with someone the truth will come out eventually, especially with your age. I don't believe you can plead ignorance on that.

[Christian_Grey]

Originally Posted by Shappy

Well, I'm back from my date. I'm not sure whether I liked him; I could see myself being friends with him but not yet sure about anything more. He didn't suggest another date at the end, but did text me to tell me it was good to meet me. I think I'll just wait and see.

Also, he lied about his age on his profile which really annoyed me. His real age (40 instead of 37) slipped out in conversation and he pleaded ignorance about the wrong age on the profile. Why do people lie on the internet!

As he sent a generic text and didn't mention meeting again, I would say he's not interested. It doesn't sound like you were either though so no great loss

[Shappy]

I agree, if he liked me he would have suggested meeting again while we were on the first date.

[Bettykitten]

I am aware that this is me being a bit high maintenance, but I find the title "e-harmony" really off putting. It's so wet and Americanised, and the people they choose to do the ads don't help. I can't see the kind of man I am interested in signing up to that site and spending ages filling out a form.

But of course I could be bitter as I spent ages doing it and received no matches

Thinking it's time to do something though - am currently onesie clad on the sofa and don't have a better offer.....

[Woofy]

Originally Posted by Bettykitten

Thinking it's time to do something though - am currently onesie clad on the sofa and don't have a better offer.....

Me too, minus the onesie.

[hotmat3k]

Originally Posted by Shappy

Well, I'm back from my date. I'm not sure whether I liked him; I could see myself being friends with him but not yet sure about anything more. He didn't suggest another date at the end, but did text me to tell me it was good to meet me. I think I'll just wait and see.

Also, he lied about his age on his profile which really annoyed me. His real age (40 instead of 37) slipped out in conversation and he pleaded ignorance about the wrong age on the profile. Why do people lie on the internet!

Sorry to hear that it wasn't as perfect as you may of thought it had gone. I almost straight away said to my date on the first meet before we departed to ask when we could meet up again . I guess as you said, it's a sign he may not want to see you again.

Well, my 2nd date with this girl was really split into two halves. The bowling was ace! Had to wait for about 20 minutes, so sat down and had a drinks. Great continued conversation from after the first date. So had a great feeling things would continue to go on. Bowling really made us both feel more comfortable and had a great laugh about ourselves and others bowling.

I then suggested we took a walk back towards the river and grab a bite to eat. Pulled into a Pizza Express. Now, from here on; my date seemed a bit more tense and conversation started to become difficult to flow. I was trying my hardest to keep it going. As I'd been unwell for most of this week with a horrible cold/cough, yesterday I felt well enough to order anything. Stupid me, I ordered a very spicy pizza (normally no issue) but the first bite I took, I violently coughed and basically gagging for air as tried to swallow the damn pizza. My date took it quite well and made sure I was okay getting some water to ease the coughing. We made a laugh of it but still things were a little difficult in conversation.

We both finished and left off. I'd hope to just take her for a walk down the river but she wanted to go home. That was fair enough but she didn't say much on the walk back to the station. I didn't know whether I'd hit some insecurities from her past, but before she left; she was eager to give me a hug and kiss on the cheek and say she wanted to meet up again when I was feeling much better.

On the all, I was a bit confused but wondering whether the latter part of the evening killed a little bit of the chemistry we had for some reason. I've avoided contacting her today just to give her some space, but I'm wondering if I'm making things worse by doing that. She hasn't text like before to say she enjoyed meeting up again. I really don't know; women are so confusing!

[Shappy]

Well if she said at the end of the date that she wanted to meet again, why not take a chance and give her a ring to ask her out again? It's the only way you'll know how she feels.

[angelicarwen]

Hi there, I have been lurking on this thread for a bit (too nervous to post!). I hope you don't mind me butting in looking for advice!

I have been single for a wee while now and being a single mummy (which I wouldn't change) I find it hard to get out and meet lovely men. I was thinking of joining a dating website for the first time, does anyone have any recommendations or tips? They would be received very gratefully :-)

[Woofy]

Originally Posted by angelicarwen

Hi there, I have been lurking on this thread for a bit (too nervous to post!). I hope you don't mind me butting in looking for advice!

I have been single for a wee while now and being a single mummy (which I wouldn't change) I find it hard to get out and meet lovely men. I was thinking of joining a dating website for the first time, does anyone have any recommendations or tips? They would be received very gratefully :-)

I'm in the same boat. I've just joined match.com, but have been put off joining properly as I've read bad reviews. This seems to be the case with all the main sites.

Saying that, some of the reviews are good, so I think it's a case of right place, right time. On eHarmony, you have to answer a million and one questions just to get registered.

So tomorrow might just be the day I bite the bullet and use match.com.

Oh, and don't be nervous to post

[angelicarwen]

Originally Posted by Woofy

I'm in the same boat. I've just joined match.com, but have been put off joining properly as I've read bad reviews. This seems to be the case with all the main sites.

Saying that, some of the reviews are good, so I think it's a case of right place, right time. On eHarmony, you have to answer a million and one questions just to get registered.

So tomorrow might just be the day I bite the bullet and use match.com.

Oh, and don't be nervous to post

Oh bless you Woofy, it's nice to hear from others in the same situation.

Please keep us updated if you join match and how you get on.

Don't get me wrong,I love my child but having that special someone would be the cherry on top!

And thanks for replying :-)

[grotbags1]

Shappy, it sounds like it wouldn't be an issue if this bloke didn't suggest a 2nd date if on the first one you weren't too sure. I know it can take more than one date to suss someone out, but I also think on that 1st date you get a feeling as to whether you can see yourself with someone. How are the comms going with the other guy?

This happened to me recently, I was pleasantly surprised on the first date that he was more attractive than his photo's suggested but on that I also knew I couldn't see myself with him and afer 2 more dates later I knew for sure that I defo didn't want to be with him. I should have stuck with my gut feeling.

hotmak3, hmmmm, not sure what to make of your date.... it sounds like half of it was great as you say. I would take the chance of ringing her as Shappy has suggested otherwise you'll never know.

Woofy, I've been in two minds lately whether to pay again for match but I didn't get a lot out of it the first time around. My problem is that I'm really not interested in anyone who live more than 50 miles away and I think I've seen every single man possible on all of the sites I've been on in my local area and I just know I'll see the same faces popping up again. But maybe you should give it a go for a month if you haven't been on before just to see who is on there.

angelicarwen - I'd give Plenty of fish a wide berth, full of idiots just after you know what, if you see what I mean. The paid sites seem to have more who are looking for a serious relationship. Although I did have contact from 2 men on there who were just after you know what

So everyone, I'm sat on my own on the sofa too! Not in a onesie though

[angelicarwen]

Originally Posted by grotbags1

angelicarwen - I'd give Plenty of fish a wide berth, full of idiots just after you know what, if you see what I mean. The paid sites seem to have more who are looking for a serious relationship. Although I did have contact from 2 men on there who were just after you know what

So everyone, I'm sat on my own on the sofa too! Not in a onesie though

Well thanks for the advice grotbags! I shall certainly avoid plenty of fish!

I had heard good things about ok Cupid but it is also a free site so maybe not!!

Oh and if it makes you feel any better I am also sitting alone on the sofa although not in a onesy ( this evening!) :-o

[grotbags1]

You know you can always give POF a chance seeing as it's not costing you anything, you may have a different experience to me. I have heard of the odd success story from that site.

Hehe, I think everyone on this thread is sat on their own this evening, but at least we have this virtual world to chat to others

[Woofy]

Aww, we're all sat alone on our sofas

[grotbags1]

Yeah Woofy, I am most weekends, ah well, good job I like my own company.

I have also seen the same faces on all 3 sites, Match, POF and Oasis, that's how small the world is!

[hotmat3k]

Originally Posted by grotbags1

hotmak3, hmmmm, not sure what to make of your date.... it sounds like half of it was great as you say. I would take the chance of ringing her as Shappy has suggested otherwise you'll never know.

I think yourself and Shappy are right. I've used a lot of text messaging to establish conversation etc, but I think a call will set things straight very quickly. Do girls like phone calls early on through the dating or is there a starting point?

I've not quite got the butterfly feeling so far, but maybe my eagerness in previous dating has sent my vibes in the wrong direction and naturally got myself excited too quickly.

[Bettykitten]

Nowt wrong with my onesie, I don't wear it to Sainsburys....

[grotbags1]

Originally Posted by Bettykitten

Nowt wrong with my onesie, I don't wear it to Sainsburys....

hehe, are you sad that you don't wear it to Sainburys or that we're not wearing them as well?

[angelicarwen]

I have an attractive fair isle onesie, but it's in the wash :-(

[Bettykitten]

Perhaps a bit of both

[grotbags1]

Originally Posted by Bettykitten

Perhaps a bit of both

I've just re-activated my account on Oasis and wish I hadn't, same old bloody faces

[Shappy]

Originally Posted by hotmat3k

I think yourself and Shappy are right. I've used a lot of text messaging to establish conversation etc, but I think a call will set things straight very quickly. Do girls like phone calls early on through the dating or is there a starting point?

I've not quite got the butterfly feeling so far, but maybe my eagerness in previous dating has sent my vibes in the wrong direction and naturally got myself excited too quickly.

It's fine to call; you've met her twice. Give her a ring tomorrow and suggest another date for next week.

Grotbags1: I'm still in touch with the other guy. He texted this afternoon and I rang him this evening but he hasn't rang back - he may be out as it is Saturday night. As for the lawyer, I probably would have met him another time just to make sure. Even though it wasn't out of this world, the conversation did flow. That's the nature of Internet dating, you have to go through a lot of initial meetings before you finally click with someone and it's mutual.