Originally Posted by footygirl:
“Very refreshing to read how you and your child managed with you teaching at the same school. My experience is of the opposite unfortunately, as when I was in Brownies the daughter of who ran it got picked for everything - guess who made the choices”
Oh, believe me, I've seen it both ways. What I neglected to mention was the the headteacher's daughter was also at the school - and she was certainly the 'golden girl'! Maybe it's me who stupid, but I just couldn't do it that way. I couldn't have held my head up with the other parents at birthday parties out of school! My poor daughter even sometimes called me 'Mrs' at home and put her hand up to go to the toilet out of habit from being at work with me! (It's ok, we laughed about it - no harm done!) But what mortified her more was calling me 'Mum' at work (which, ironically, children of that age often call their teachers anyway - I've been called 'Mum loads of times'... but thankfully not now that I'm working in post-16 education though

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Originally Posted by ABCZYX:
“I think Karen's a great judge. I think she usually gives out the highest marks out of all the judges because she works with them during the week so knows everything about them and how they're doing, what they're doing well in, what they're struggling with, (etc). And she uses this knowledge for the live show and probably compares how they've done in rehearsals to their live show performance, (as in, maybe if the live show is the best they've ever performed, she might give them an extra mark or so). This would probably explain why she's allowed to both coach and judge - her role as a judge is that she coaches as well, like Jason's role is to look at the performance aspect and only look at that and not the skating elements. Each judge looks at something different.
And she clearly knows what she's talking about. She's worked in ice dancing her whole life so she's more than qualified enough to be there. She's entitled to her opinion, like everyone else on the panel is. In my eyes, it's how you use it and to me, she uses her opinion a hell of a lot better than someone like Jason, who just uses it to get attention by being nasty.”
But what Karen sees during the week/during rehearsals or at any other time other than the performance during the show is irrelevant! That's the point myself and others have been making! I knew the efforts my daughter made at home, out of school, out of the classroom in which I taught her, but I STILL had to be completely objective when it came to how I approached assessing her at work - I couldn't take ANYTHING into account, other than that which I was being asked to take into account.
Teaching/judging, it doesn't matter - it's all the same. If you're involved you have to be objective, otherwise you shouldn't be doing the job. If I could separate myself from my own daughter in a primary school class I damned sure a grown woman like Karen can separate herself from a bunch of adults who are old enough to take it!
I'm not saying she can't be on the panel, but she can only be there if she's prepared to leave the emotion, and all the other stuff from during the week, at the door on Sundays. Since when was I allowed to write my daugther's class report based on what I'd seen out of the environment/time/situation I was being asked to mark her on? The answer is, I wasn't! And even if I'd thought about it, I still wouldn't have done it! (Yes, my children hate being the daughter of a local teacher!

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