[BellaRosa]

Originally Posted by Miss XYZ

They were lovely people tonight, all of them were so sweet.

Oliver is a lovely looking young man, and so talented.

They were really lovely and I did have a tear at the end. The young lady was so sweet and glad she found love

[johnF1971]

Originally Posted by mizhog

im not being horrible but oliver can do much better than her surely...christ on a bike

I have to admit I thought the same thing.

Despite his autism which made him come across as a bit odd, he was quite a nice, good looking guy. Not wanting to sound cruel but the 3 girls whose number he got seemed far more "undateable" than he was.

Was that disco he went to specifically for people with autism and learning disabilities? There was quite an attractive girl on the dance floor with dark skin and long dark hair. Why didn't he approach her? Come on Oliver mate, you need to learn to set your sights a bit higher!

[Fayecorgasm]

Originally Posted by johnF1971

I have to admit I thought the same thing.

Despite his autism which made him come across as a bit odd, he was quite a nice, good looking guy. Not wanting to sound cruel but the 3 girls whose number he got seemed far more "undateable" than he was.

Was that disco he went to specifically for people with autism and learning disabilities? There was quite an attractive girl on the dance floor with dark skin and long dark hair. Why didn't he approach her? Come on Oliver mate, you need to learn to set your sights a bit higher!

perhaps he doesnt fancy the same type of women that you do?You know that saying beauty is in the eye of the beholder....

[TrebleKing]

Originally Posted by johnF1971

I have to admit I thought the same thing.

Despite his autism which made him come across as a bit odd, he was quite a nice, good looking guy. Not wanting to sound cruel but the 3 girls whose number he got seemed far more "undateable" than he was.

Was that disco he went to specifically for people with autism and learning disabilities? There was quite an attractive girl on the dance floor with dark skin and long dark hair. Why didn't he approach her? Come on Oliver mate, you need to learn to set your sights a bit higher!

I'm with you two on this. He seemed to aim way too low. He could've got himself a decent, wee stunner no problem.

[Shappy]

Originally Posted by johnF1971

I have to admit I thought the same thing.

Despite his autism which made him come across as a bit odd, he was quite a nice, good looking guy. Not wanting to sound cruel but the 3 girls whose number he got seemed far more "undateable" than he was.

Was that disco he went to specifically for people with autism and learning disabilities? There was quite an attractive girl on the dance floor with dark skin and long dark hair. Why didn't he approach her? Come on Oliver mate, you need to learn to set your sights a bit higher!

Maybe he did approach her but she turned him down and they didn't show that? Maybe he realised he has to go for the people likely to say yes in order to actually be in a relationship, given he'd been unsuccessfully chasing pretty girls at art galleries for 3 years.

[Ladyxxmacbeth]

I have a son who is autistic and I always have this fear as a parent that when he gets older he will struggle to have a relationship. I love this programme because it proves to me that there are people out there willing to see through someone's disability and give them a chance at least. I think autism is a very misunderstood condition, as there are many differences in people's personalities and sensory perceptions. I wish them all the luck, because unlike some there are some very undersanding people in the world.

[nosecondchance]

I really enjoyed this programme.
The only thing that made me feel a little uncomfortable was the speed at which Kate fell in love. She seemed a really nice girl and had down really well for herself. I just wondered if her 'desperation' for a relationship could put her at risk for being taken advantage of.

[koantemplation]

Originally Posted by nosecondchance

I really enjoyed this programme.
The only thing that made me feel a little uncomfortable was the speed at which Kate fell in love. She seemed a really nice girl and had down really well for herself. I just wondered if her 'desperation' for a relationship could put her at risk for being taken advantage of.

That would definitely be the case if she didn't have anyone looking after her, but I think the people from the work place and her support worker would be there for her.

[dezire]

I have a huge problem with this show. Its obvious aim is for the audience to find it entertaining to watch disadvantaged people in awkward situations.

[IShot_Bambi]

Originally Posted by dezire

I have a huge problem with this show. Its obvious aim is for the audience to find it entertaining to watch disadvantaged people in awkward situations.

I'm sorry but I completely disagree. Each episode never fails to make me laugh and cry and all in a good way. It makes me so happy to see such incredible people find happiness. Its such an incredible program and makes me want to be a better person.

[Shappy]

Originally Posted by dezire

I have a huge problem with this show. Its obvious aim is for the audience to find it entertaining to watch disadvantaged people in awkward situations.

I don't think it's that different to any other "awkward" dating show and in fact far more sensitive than shows like Dinner Date or Take Me Out where they openly poke fun at the participants.

[ratty0]

Originally Posted by dezire

I have a huge problem with this show. Its obvious aim is for the audience to find it entertaining to watch disadvantaged people in awkward situations.

Most people-focussed documentaries are about watching people in awkward/upsetting/strange situations. A lot of TV is. It's ok to find that entertaining in the sense of any TV programme being classed as entertainment - i.e. it's interesting to watch. It doesn't mean people are rolling around on the floor laughing at the people and seeing them as second class citizens.

I personally find it fascinating. I'd never get this insight in to the various issues people face otherwise. Sometimes the issues don't have a huge impact on the date situation anyway - it's like watching anyone else who is slightly nervous. I love watching programmes about people, especially things about dating (I remember a programme called Would Like To Meet ages ago which followed people who had no confidence/dating history and tried to prepare them to find a partner).

We're such an interesting species!

[FlickJ]

I'm loving this programme and glad we get an extra episode this series. However, for me the one really big flaw is that after each episode we don't get a follow up. I would love to see an extra episode slotted on at the end of the series that showed what happened with everyone we saw in both this series and the last one. Did any of them get into proper relationships with their dates or have they had any luck finding someone new. If not are they still with the dating agency and still "trying" ? They don't quite complete the story which is a shame IMO. I think lots of people would like to know what happened next ....... x

[Poolio]

Originally Posted by johnF1971

I have to admit I thought the same thing.

Despite his autism which made him come across as a bit odd, he was quite a nice, good looking guy. Not wanting to sound cruel but the 3 girls whose number he got seemed far more "undateable" than he was.

Was that disco he went to specifically for people with autism and learning disabilities? There was quite an attractive girl on the dance floor with dark skin and long dark hair. Why didn't he approach her? Come on Oliver mate, you need to learn to set your sights a bit higher!

Before going to the disco I think it said that in the past he was reluctant to go to events organised specifically for those with learning difficulties or disabilities. With this in mind I was surprised at his choice of girl.

[Shappy]

Oliver was convinced by the chart his mum did showing all his "difficulties" and how a girl without her own disabilities would find it overwhelming.

I think he did the right thing - plenty of eternally single people never change their "standards" and then whinge about why they're single. All the people featured on the show seem really open-minded and not absurdly fussy.

[LaceyLouelle3]

Originally Posted by FlickJ

I'm loving this programme and glad we get an extra episode this series. However, for me the one really big flaw is that after each episode we don't get a follow up. I would love to see an extra episode slotted on at the end of the series that showed what happened with everyone we saw in both this series and the last one. Did any of them get into proper relationships with their dates or have they had any luck finding someone new. If not are they still with the dating agency and still "trying" ? They don't quite complete the story which is a shame IMO. I think lots of people would like to know what happened next ....... x

I agree with this, it would be a good idea.

[koantemplation]

Just seen a review of the next episode, and the woman with OCD also has Asperger's, so that will definitely be interesting.

[tco200]

Got to say Ray on last weeks show did something that takes a lot of courage and willpower for anyone

When he had a chance to potentially go back to an ex he obviously loved it was a huge decision to decide against it and try for something new

On a more shallow note my wife and I were hoping Oliver approached the dark haired girl on the dance floor

What I wonder is how set up the whole thing is, we have heard that they haven't had dates for x amount of years yet all get dates in the period filmed? 3 of the girls who have been on dates have been great looking girls as well although to be fair the lad on the first week with Tourette's was a good looking chap himself.

[WanderinWonder]

Originally Posted by Shappy

Oliver is really cute. Reminds me of a Filipino boy I used to fancy in school.

I agree, he has a cute smile. I'd have no trouble saying yes to him!

[SuperAPJ]

Originally Posted by tco200

What I wonder is how set up the whole thing is, we have heard that they haven't had dates for x amount of years yet all get dates in the period filmed?

It occurred to me that events may not happen as we see them. We're usually given the impression that each date we see is the first one that the agency has arranged for each person. The participants could've had one or more dates previously set up for them which didn't go well and were edited out.

[tellywatcher73]

Originally Posted by dezire

I have a huge problem with this show. Its obvious aim is for the audience to find it entertaining to watch disadvantaged people in awkward situations.

I would totally disagree. I think it shows that disabled people have the same hopes and dreams as anybody else and can achieve them. I wouldn't say any of the people featured are necessarily disadvantaged, its just that certain aspects of their lives are more challenging and most people would find a first date a bit awkward. The only thing I don't really like is the name of the show as I don't think anyone is "undateable"".

[Sam_Undateables]

Not sure what you mean about "how set up". I hadn't been on a date in seven and half years, and had always been too afraid to put myself out there as I never knew if an offer would be sincere or be for the fantasy. The "undateables" were all signed up to a dating agency - for me I had never tried it and like I said always been scared. The thing that shocked me the most was that I was able to get a date once on with a dating agency. How much "work" went into finding me a match, just like any of their other clients, I don't know. I do know that it was done in a legitimate and fair way. The dates signed up to an agency approached us with no knowledge that they were approaching someone who would feature in a TV programme.

Originally Posted by tco200

Got to say Ray on last weeks show did something that takes a lot of courage and willpower for anyone

When he had a chance to potentially go back to an ex he obviously loved it was a huge decision to decide against it and try for something new

On a more shallow note my wife and I were hoping Oliver approached the dark haired girl on the dance floor

What I wonder is how set up the whole thing is, we have heard that they haven't had dates for x amount of years yet all get dates in the period filmed? 3 of the girls who have been on dates have been great looking girls as well although to be fair the lad on the first week with Tourette's was a good looking chap himself.

[Sam_Undateables]

I totally agree. It was not easy openly discussing my relationship status/sex life or lack of to the nation. I did it as I wanted to raise awareness that I am a normal girl who has normal hang ups and essentially wants the same thing as everyone else, which is to be loved by someone. I do find some of the negative comments about me on social media sites difficult to read, but realise they come hand in hand with the positive. I had a great time doing the programme. It was very empowering and taught me a few things about myself. I am sure I am not the only 'Undateable' who feels that way.

Originally Posted by Inspiration

I think before anyone thinks of writing anything negative about the people on this show it's worth remembering that they're being very brave to not only put themselves into situations they find uncomfortable by going on these dates but also to do it on camera knowing it will be shown on TV. I couldn't do that. I don't have the guts to do that. So bravo to them all for trying to find happiness and not allowing their fears to stop them. They're braver than me, that's for sure. I hope they all find happiness. I like to think there is someone for everyone out there.

[tco200]

Ah thanks Sam that makes more sense then, I must have missed a bit as I presumed that yourself and the others had been on the website for a duration

[littlebooties]

I think that the main thing I came away with after watching the show was actually how much the same we all are.

I think people with learning difficulties might express their feelings more openly about being scared or being elated about going on a date or having a boy/girlfriend but I think we all feel that we just dont show it so much.

I also agree that none of these people are 'undateable' some in fact are very dateable.