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Old 04-02-2013, 13:50
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Generically, seven years is neither here nor there. A 24 year old guy will have more life experience and his expectations and requirements/wants may, therefore, differ to those of his 17 year old girlfriend. I think the maturity of the individuals concerned will make a difference. I certainly don't think it is a relationship to be frowned upon.
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:51
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Ive done it - I was 25 and my GF was 16, I was a complete Gent but she was a wild one !!
We stuck together for 6 years as well till she got the raging horn for some other even older bloke and buggered off -
C'est la vie I guess - nice times for a few years though.

I treated her really lovely and loved her to bits - screw the age thing is the lad ok or a cock thats the main thing.
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:52
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I have to do a speaking and listening shit about this tomorrow!

I am against it, some of the things I have is,

Age Difference
Dangerous,

Anymore?

Could you just give me the bad points,

If not why not?
bullet points are welcome!
You have age difference listed in 'against' why is this?
Why would you think it is dangerous?
I cant see either of those points being valid. Girls are on the whole very much more mature than boys of their own age, so I woudl say that 17 and 24 is perfectly fine, so long as the chap is nice and treats her well, there in no argument against it, I woudl look at the positives instaead, he may have financial security, he will have been in relationships before and will more likely know how to be a good boyfriend.

I was in a relationship at 19 with a 35 year old and thought nothing of it, if the person is the right one for you then I dont see age as a problem.
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:53
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Within reason I guess but they can make it difficult for you.

If mine did not like a boy, they would ban him from their house. That was difficult trying to explain to the chap why they could never come round.

Saying that though my folks were always spot on!
Ha mine were too! My Dad especially was not overly happy with the 37 year old when I was 19, but I wasn't living at home so there was not much he could do apart from wait until it ended as we had little in common (funny that!).

Apart from kick you out the house .

So does the now 40 something still have a teenage fetish ?
Nope, last I heard he had been with someone his own age for a couple of years now.

I was almost 20, living alone and in a fairly good job. I would hardly call it a "teenage fetish" when someone was that age!
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:54
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You have age difference listed in 'against' why is this?
Why would you think it is dangerous?
I cant see either of those points being valid. Girls are on the whole very much more matire than boys of their own age, so I woudl say that 17 and 24 is perfectly fine, so long as the chap is nice and treats her well, there in no argument against it, I woudl look at the positives instaead, he may have financial security, we wil have been n relationships before and will more likely know how to be a good boyfriend.

I was in a relationship at 19 with a 35 year old and thought nothing of it, if the person is the right one for you then I dont see age as a problem.
So fed up of seeing this argument being used for girls!
It's simply not true.
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:54
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I dont see a problem with it whatsoever
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:55
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You have age difference listed in 'against' why is this?
Why would you think it is dangerous?
I cant see either of those points being valid. Girls are on the whole very much more matire than boys of their own age, so I woudl say that 17 and 24 is perfectly fine, so long as the chap is nice and treats her well, there in no argument against it, I woudl look at the positives instaead, he may have financial security, we wil have been n relationships before and will more likely know how to be a good boyfriend.

I was in a relationship at 19 with a 35 year old and thought nothing of it, if the person is the right one for you then I dont see age as a problem.
the speaking and listening structure backstory is, they met in a shop, he is maturer than boys her own age, he is fun, he has a car and a job,

its dangerous because,

He could be a total nutter inside,
have aids,
can be controling, or emotionally abusive,
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:55
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Oh for goodness sake! We are talking 17 not 14! You should know your own daughter...if she is mature then I cannot see a problem. She will not take kindly to your interference anyway.

I remember myself at 17. Fiercely independent and woe betide my mum if she attempted to control who I saw and did not see.

Luckily my mum was a wise woman and never interfered, simply gave me the guidance I needed, when I needed it.

We have to give our children freedom.
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:55
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So fed up of seeing this argument being used for girls!
It's simply not true.
It can be, I was mature enough at 18 to go out with a 24 year old, we were extremely compatible, other 18 year olds just seemed silly and childish to me.
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:56
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I dated a 33 year old man briefly when I was 17. Parents let me get on with it and it soon ended in it's own time.
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:56
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Personally I had no interest in girls of 17, when I was 24, or a bit lower or any age older. 20, 21 fair enough but I wouldn't have felt right in a pub, club or watching Full Metal Jacket with someone who wasn't old enough to.

I'd wonder why he was interested in a girl that age, although wouldn't suggest there would automatically be something more to it.
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:56
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I dated a 24 year old at 17.

The only concerns my folks had were that his car was a right heap of crap and potentially unsafe.
Did you have protection though?
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:56
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I was almost 20, living alone and in a fairly good job. I would hardly call it a "teenage fetish" when someone was that age!
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:56
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the speaking and listening structure backstory is, they met in a shop, he is maturer than boys her own age, he is fun, he has a car and a job,

its dangerous because,

He could be a total nutter inside,
have aids,
can be controling, or emotionally abusive,
WHAT??? that is ridiculous, because he is 24 he might have AIDS?? just LMAO that is so silly, none of those points are valid. NONE.
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:56
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I find this rather interesting.

Since boys and girls mature at different rates, it's not beyond the realms of possibility that a mature and sensible 17-year-old girl and a 24-year-old bloke could have a perfectly normal and happy relationship.

Consequently, as boys and girls do mature at different rates, I'd be hard pressed to see what a 24-year-old woman would want in a 17-year-old boy.

As long as he's a decent bloke, I don't see anything wrong with it.
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:57
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It can be, I was mature enough at 18 to go out with a 24 year old, we were extremely compatible, other 18 year olds just seemed silly and childish to me.
And of course going out with someone much older makes you look more mature
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:57
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he's a paeeeedo
he's a paeeedo
he's a paedo in a paedo gang!
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:58
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the speaking and listening structure backstory is, they met in a shop, he is maturer than boys her own age, he is fun, he has a car and a job,

its dangerous because,

He could be a total nutter inside,
have aids,
can be controling, or emotionally abusive,
But I'm not sure how a 17 year old boy could not have the same dangers?

(I was in an emotionally abusive relationship at 16. The boy was also 16. Those traits are not restricted to those over 18, you know.)

^ Luckily that was a time where my parents DID intervene. And kicked his arse (verbally).
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:59
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I dated someone in their late 30s at 19, which is a larger age gap and so no, I'm going to say it wouldn't be an issue.

Obviously it depends exactly what your problem is with the guy? If your only issue is his age then no I would not call that a good enough reason.


Plus I don't know about anyone else, but at 17 it was not really up to my parents to "let" me do anything!
course it is, you are a young adult and most probably still living at home.

imo anyways
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:59
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And of course going out with someone much older makes you look more mature
DId I say it made me look more mature?? no I was mature enough at 18 to have that relationship, it was a good one too, my first love and my first sexual partner, I have very fond memories, at the time we were just right for each other.
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:59
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WHAT??? that is ridiculous, because he is 24 he might have AIDS?? just LMAO that is so silly, none of those points are valid. NONE.
they met in a shop,
Total random stranger,
you don't know anything about him,
his 24, hitting on a 17 year old!

would you not question anything?
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Old 04-02-2013, 13:59
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I dated a 33 year old man briefly when I was 17. Parents let me get on with it and it soon ended in it's own time.
Me too, except he was a total nutter inside and had aids.
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:01
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DId I say it made me look more mature?? no I was mature enough at 18 to have that relationship, it was a good one too, my first love and my first sexual partner, I have very fond memories, at the time we were just right for each other.
First sexual partner? Oh there's a surprise!
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:01
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I have to do a speaking and listening shit about this tomorrow!

I am against it, some of the things I have is,

Age Difference
Dangerous,

Anymore?

Could you just give me the bad points,

If not why not?
bullet points are welcome!
The question is moot as you cannot in practice stop her if she's 17, all you can do is try to dissuade her and good luck with that one!

The main risk is a maturity and emotional imbalance between them and it's more likely that he is the one with the power to manipulate than her, grab the sex he's probably after, then dump her (though it can occasionally work the other way!).
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:02
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First sexual partner? Oh there's a surprise!
What??

I was 18 for gawds sake, and we didnt sleep together for the first 4 months. blimey!
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