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Old 04-02-2013, 14:03
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I used to know a man who was 23/24 and he seemed to always go for very young girls, including a couple who were 17. I asked him about it once and he told me he liked girls that age because they were very easy to manipulate, more so than women his own age. He also said they would think he was Mr Wonderful because they were so young and inexperienced and he was an older man, and he could get away with more with them.
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:03
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What??

I was 18 for gawds sake, and we didnt sleep together for the first 4 months. blimey!
At least he waited that long!
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:04
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Well I'm 23 and I can't imagine dating a 17-year-old personally, but that's just me, it really depends on the people involved and their maturity levels.
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:04
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A 17 year old doesn't need to be 'let' to date someone.
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:05
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I used to know a man who was 23/24 and he seemed to always go for very young girls, including a couple who were 17. I asked him about it once and he told me he liked girls that age because they were very easy to manipulate, more so than women his own age. He also said they would think he was Mr Wonderful because they were so young and inexperienced and he was an older man, and he could get away with more with them.
Guys like that who manage to get younger girls think their Christmas's have all come at once!
Bless the girls who think their mature enough!
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:05
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What??

I was 18 for gawds sake, and we didnt sleep together for the first 4 months. blimey!
Ignore her 2shy. That was an uncalled for comment. I agree with you btw.

I was a very independent 17 year old and would not have taken kindly to my mum (my dad died when I was 16) interfering in my life.
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:05
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course it is, you are a young adult and most probably still living at home.

imo anyways
I'm not saying I don't agree with that now, at nearly 24. But when I was that age, I didn't see it like that.
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:07
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Ignore her 2shy. That was an uncalled for comment. I agree with you btw.

I was a very independent 17 year old and would not have taken kindly to my mum (my dad died when I was 16) interfering in my life.
It's a bit hard to swallow the truth that a guy that age is only after one thing when you want to believe its all romantic and mature, but it is what it is.
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:08
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I used to know a man who was 23/24 and he seemed to always go for very young girls, including a couple who were 17. I asked him about it once and he told me he liked girls that age because they were very easy to manipulate, more so than women his own age. He also said they would think he was Mr Wonderful because they were so young and inexperienced and he was an older man, and he could get away with more with them.
You won't find many of them that are that honest
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:08
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At least he waited that long!
We BOTH waited that long.
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:09
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We BOTH waited that long.
Why didn't it last?
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:10
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I used to know a man who was 23/24 and he seemed to always go for very young girls, including a couple who were 17. I asked him about it once and he told me he liked girls that age because they were very easy to manipulate, more so than women his own age. He also said they would think he was Mr Wonderful because they were so young and inexperienced and he was an older man, and he could get away with more with them.
I think that's normal. I can certainly see the appeal of an 18/19 year old girlfriend.
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:11
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It's a bit hard to swallow the truth that a guy that age is only after one thing when you want to believe its all romantic and mature, but it is what it is.
I didn't say it was all romantic lol! At 17, I was already sexually active. I knew what I was doing. Since when is it only guys who 'are after one thing'.

Your comments about 2shy were simply uncalled for. As for your comments about myself I couldn't care two hoots.

I am now too old to care about what others think. Come to think about it...I didn't care what others thought when I was 17
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:12
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I have to do a speaking and listening shit about this tomorrow!

I am against it, some of the things I have is,

Age Difference
Dangerous,

Anymore?

Could you just give me the bad points,

If not why not?
bullet points are welcome!
* None of my business when she's over the age of consent
* Surely would depend on her maturity and his
* Disapproving may drive her away
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:13
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I dont think the girls mature quicker is always valid.

At 17 i could be perceived by my peers as immature because i was living at my parents whilst at college.

My cousin however was perceived as being mature because she had her own flat amd was bringing up her baby at 17.

The difference being my cousin was convinced she was mature and grown up but the reality is her dad was footing the bill for her flat and lifestyle as she had no intention of working. She thought she was grown up because she had a baby and her on off boyfriend was almost 30. To her that was what mature girls did, shack up with older men and pop out babies.

Often girls seem to think that living away from their parents is being mature but the majority are unable to financially and emotionally support themselves.

In rare cases age gaps wouldnt be an issue it just depends on the individual.
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:13
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I think that's normal. I can certainly see the appeal of an 18/19 year old girlfriend.
Haha, and you're probably even older!
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:13
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At least he waited that long!
If they are not happy to wait, they are not worth the effort really.
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:15
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I have to do a speaking and listening shit about this tomorrow!

I am against it, some of the things I have is,

Age Difference
Dangerous,

Anymore?

Could you just give me the bad points,

If not why not?
bullet points are welcome!
What is a speaking and listening shit?
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:15
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I didn't say it was all romantic lol! At 17, I was already sexually active. I knew what I was doing. Since when is it only guys who 'are after one thing'.

Your comments about 2shy were simply uncalled for. As for your comments about myself I couldn't care two hoots.

I am now too old to care about what others think. Come to think about it...I didn't care what others thought when I was 17
I didn't direct any comments to anyone, you're all just usernames to me.
If strong opinions offend maybe its best to stick to fluffy puppy conversations in future?
A question was posed by the OP I gave my opinion.
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:15
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they met in a shop,
Total random stranger,
you don't know anything about him,
his 24, hitting on a 17 year old!

would you not question anything?
So why not admit that it's simply your personal problem?, and that you're 'making things up' to try and validate it. Nothing you have suggested has any bearing on his age.

As others here have suggested, girls mature far younger than boys do.
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:16
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Haha, and you're probably even older!
I'm 24.

I have made my attraction to older women no secret on this forum, for what it's worth. Just as there is an appeal to dating an older woman, there is also an appeal to dating a slightly younger one.

I find the idea that a 24 old year might turn down an 18 year old on account of her age to be quite laughable. I don't know a single guy my age who would.
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:20
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I'm 24.

I have made my attraction to older women no secret on this forum, for what it's worth. Just as there is an appeal to dating an older woman, there is also an appeal to dating a slightly younger one.

I find the idea that a 24 old year might turn down an 18 year old on account of her age to be quite laughable. I don't know a single guy my age who would.
What's the attraction to an 18 year old that your own age doesn't have?
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:32
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What's the attraction to an 18 year old that your own age doesn't have?
Well, if there are qualities that a 30 year old woman has that a 24 year old woman does not have (and there are), then logically it can be said that there are going to be qualities that an 18/19 year old might have that a 24 year old does not. People are different at different age groups.

I think some men like the idea of innocence. Most 24 year old girls have been around the block a few times, if you know what I mean. There is something refreshing about a girl who is fairly new to the whole dating world. Sure, you can get this quality in women in their mid-20s, but it is much rarer. Also, 18 and 19 year old girls usually have less of an attitude, they're more willing to learn and to have a man take the lead. You can understand why these qualities can be attractive to men.

But saying that, there are also reasons why I would find a 24 year old woman, or a much older woman, more attractive to date than an 18 year old girl.
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:32
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I didn't direct any comments to anyone, you're all just usernames to me.
If strong opinions offend maybe its best to stick to fluffy puppy conversations in future?
A question was posed by the OP I gave my opinion.
No offence
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Old 04-02-2013, 14:35
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Well, if there are qualities that a 30 year old woman has that a 24 year old woman does not have (and there are), then logically it can be said that there are going to be qualities that an 18/19 year old might have that a 24 year old does not. People are different at different age groups.

I think some men like the idea of innocence. Most 24 year old girls have been around the block a few times, if you know what I mean. There is something refreshing about a girl who is fairly new to the whole dating world. Sure, you can get this quality in women in their mid-20s, but it is much rarer. Also, 18 and 19 year old girls usually have less of an attitude, they're more willing to learn and to have a man take the lead. You can understand why these qualities can be attractive to men.

But saying that, there are also reasons why I would find a 24 year old woman, or a much older woman, more attractive to date than an 18 year old girl.
That and the gym knickers and pigtails
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