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Old 12-02-2013, 13:26
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I am getting married in 6 weeks and will be adding on my partners surname to mine...we both have the same first name so cant just use his.

I dont know weather to hypen it onto mine or just add without..does anyone know if it makes any difference?

Have tried googling it but it wasnt very helpful.
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Old 12-02-2013, 13:42
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It makes no legal difference at all, but as a hyphen is seen as "the norm" then if you don't have one be prepared for misunderstanding after misunderstanding.

For example if you verbally give your name to someone as "Mr Fitzpatrick Smith" then 99% of people are likely to write it down as "Fitzpatrick-Smith". Not a huge problem most of the time of course, but it might annoy you. You may get fed up of always saying "...no hyphen".

Alternatively if you write down John Fitzpatrick Smith on a form or information card then 99% of people are likely to assume that Fitzpatrick is a middle name and put you down officially as Mr Smith. Again perhaps not life threatening but possibly annoying.

So by all means have the two names seperate, it's entirely your choice, but be prepared for a married life full of being annoyed and always having to explain yourself (otherwise known as married life ).
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Old 12-02-2013, 14:06
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Adding your 1st name & surname with your partner's surname i.e. Mr James Abbott Byers may be easy.

How about your partner adding his 1st name & surname with your surname in a different way like this: Mr James Byers Abbott?

Or you could add your 2nd name such as Mr James Frank Byers to prevent confusion? Hope your partner doesn't have the same 2nd name as well!
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Old 12-02-2013, 14:34
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It makes no legal difference at all, but as a hyphen is seen as "the norm" then if you don't have one be prepared for misunderstanding after misunderstanding.

For example if you verbally give your name to someone as "Mr Fitzpatrick Smith" then 99% of people are likely to write it down as "Fitzpatrick-Smith". Not a huge problem most of the time of course, but it might annoy you. You may get fed up of always saying "...no hyphen".

Alternatively if you write down John Fitzpatrick Smith on a form or information card then 99% of people are likely to assume that Fitzpatrick is a middle name and put you down officially as Mr Smith. Again perhaps not life threatening but possibly annoying.

So by all means have the two names seperate, it's entirely your choice, but be prepared for a married life full of being annoyed and always having to explain yourself (otherwise known as married life ).
Adding your 1st name & surname with your partner's surname i.e. Mr James Abbott Byers may be easy.

How about your partner adding his 1st name & surname with your surname in a different way like this: Mr James Byers Abbott?

Or you could add your 2nd name such as Mr James Frank Byers to prevent confusion? Hope your partner doesn't have the same 2nd name as well!

We did think about him adding mine to his somehow..but he has 3 children and I didnt really like him having a different name to them..also for his work would look odd.

I guess after reading the comments I will hypen his onto mine,seems the easiest solution...or one of us change our first name...lol.
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Old 12-02-2013, 15:01
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Why do you need to change your name anyway? Are you losing your identity and becoming someone elses property? I didn't want my wife to change her name and I'm quite often called by her surname in town.
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Old 12-02-2013, 15:07
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Why do you need to change your name anyway? Are you losing your identity and becoming someone elses property? I didn't want my wife to change her name and I'm quite often called by her surname in town.
LOL..I wont be "losing me" in any of this..Its my choice to want to take on his name...we will be a family and as such I think that means we have the same name.

For many reasons I dont feel an attachement to my surname,so would have just stopped using it,but as said in OP we share the same first name.
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Old 12-02-2013, 15:19
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Why do you need to change your name anyway? Are you losing your identity and becoming someone elses property? I didn't want my wife to change her name and I'm quite often called by her surname in town.
What surname do your children have, if you have any?

Kids would end up with generations worth of surnames if one partner's name wasn't given priority over the other.

They'd have to stop taking their parents names altogether to make it fair - invent their own surnames.
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Old 12-02-2013, 15:42
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Why don't you start using your middle name as your Christian name?

Along the line of Joe B. Bloggs becomes J. Bill Bloggs who then marries Joe Smith to become J. Bill Smith
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Old 12-02-2013, 15:57
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Why don't you start using your middle name as your Christian name?

Along the line of Joe B. Bloggs becomes J. Bill Bloggs who then marries Joe Smith to become J. Bill Smith
That was one thought...But that would be far more confusing for everyone including me!lol

And I like my first name more than my second name.
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Old 12-02-2013, 16:22
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Am I write in thinking this is actually a civil partnership and not a marriage in the traditional sense ie male - female
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Old 12-02-2013, 16:44
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Does the first surname name sound like a christian name too? If it does then i would hypenate so people dont think thats a middle name.

Although i think id hyphenate anyway since it seems most double barrelled names are.
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Old 12-02-2013, 16:44
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I am getting married in 6 weeks and will be adding on my partners surname to mine...we both have the same first name so cant just use his.
we will be a family and as such I think that means we have the same name.
I'm confused - are you saying that you already have the same first name, and want to change your names to the same hyphenated name? Isn't this likely to cause even more confusion than just keeping your current name?
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Old 12-02-2013, 16:46
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I'm confused - are you saying that you already have the same first name, and want to change your names to the same hyphenated name? Isn't this likely to cause even more confusion than just keeping your current name?
I think its more like paul smith marrying paul jones.

Paul smith already has kids that are smiths so wants to stay smith.

Paul jones wants to take his partners name but two paul smiths would be confusing therefore hes debating paul jones-smith or paul smith-jones and whether to have the hyphen.
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Old 12-02-2013, 16:50
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I think its more like paul smith marrying paul jones.

Paul smith already has kids that are smiths so wants to stay smith.

Paul jones wants to take his partners name but two paul smiths would be confusing therefore hes debating paul jones-smith or paul smith-jones and whether to have the hyphen.
That's what I initially thought from the OP, but only one of them having the hyphenated name still wouldn't be "having the same name".
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Old 12-02-2013, 16:53
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That's what I initially thought from the OP, but only one of them having the hyphenated name still wouldn't be "having the same name".
I think the op meant he wants to incorporate the partners name in his so they do have partly the same name. If he changed his completely to the partners it would cause havoc with mail etc.

If he didnt change it at all there would be no visible sign of marriage (except the rings) which is important to some people when they get married, especially if they like the traditional aspect.
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Old 12-02-2013, 16:58
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Am I write in thinking this is actually a civil partnership and not a marriage in the traditional sense ie male - female
Yes you are right...male male.
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Old 12-02-2013, 17:00
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I'm confused - are you saying that you already have the same first name, and want to change your names to the same hyphenated name? Isn't this likely to cause even more confusion than just keeping your current name?
No because I will be ++++++ ++++-+++++
he will be. ++++++ +++++

His name wont change. I will just be adding his surname to mine.
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Old 12-02-2013, 17:01
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That's what I initially thought from the OP, but only one of them having the hyphenated name still wouldn't be "having the same name".
It will be the nearest compromise we can think of without changing one of our first names.
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Old 12-02-2013, 17:02
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I think the op meant he wants to incorporate the partners name in his so they do have partly the same name. If he changed his completely to the partners it would cause havoc with mail etc.

If he didnt change it at all there would be no visible sign of marriage (except the rings) which is important to some people when they get married, especially if they like the traditional aspect.
Thank you...thats exactly the thinking and reason we are doing it.
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Old 12-02-2013, 17:04
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No because I will be ++++++ ++++-+++++
he will be. ++++++ +++++

His name wont change. I will just be adding his surname to mine.
I always imagined your name was paul for some reason

I could have got a smith or jones right though
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Old 12-02-2013, 17:05
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I always imagined your name was paul for some reason

I could have got a smith or jones right though
LOL mine and his name is Paul!!
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Old 12-02-2013, 17:06
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Yes you are right...male male.
OK thanks - it was just that you said you both had the same first name and that seemed the most logical explanation
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Old 12-02-2013, 17:07
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OK thanks - it was just that you said you both had the same first name and that seemed the most logical explanation
lol indeed.
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Old 12-02-2013, 17:07
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[quote=queserasera;64211038]OK thanks - it was just that you said you both had the same first name and that seemed the most logical explanation[/QUOT

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Old 12-02-2013, 17:29
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What surname do your children have, if you have any?

Kids would end up with generations worth of surnames if one partner's name wasn't given priority over the other.

They'd have to stop taking their parents names altogether to make it fair - invent their own surnames.
Iceland has the best surname convention. A male would take son and a female dottir. E.g. Magnus Magnusson or Bj÷rk Gu­mundsdˇttir. Sally Magnusson ruins the system. Their phonebook is in Christian name order.

No children, just cats and hens
OK thanks - it was just that you said you both had the same first name and that seemed the most logical explanation
I'd assumed something like Lesley / Leslie or Gwyn / Gwynne
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