Originally Posted by vmchunkymonkey:
“Thanks. Would you recommend calling him out to eat/drink etc or just let him do it at his own accord?
He used his litter tray yesterday on his own - also he doesn't seem to be eating/drinking much?”
I looked after my friend's cat a couple of years ago, she came to my house when I thought that she seemed really lonely in an empty one bed flat (no cat flap in my friend's flat at that time) with just one visit from me a day. She didn't eat a thing for at least 2-3 days and I don't think she used her litter tray either for the first 48 hours. It didn't help that I had 2 of my own cats in the house though this cat had her own spare room and I was keeping them separated. I was nearly about to give up and bring her home again when she started eating and toileting. In the end she relaxed so much that she 'took over' my home and played chasing games with my Bernard - and she was the chaser, little madam. I was just glad she left my elderly Tabitha alone who I found out just a few weeks later had terminal cancer. I wonder if cats somehow know when other cats are not well?
My friend looked after my Bernard in her flat for a few days when I went on a short break shortly after Tabitha's death. Again, my friend reported that Bernard didn't touch any food or use his litter tray for the first 2 days and she was becoming quite worried until he suddenly relented and made himself at home - sleeping in her bed at night and pulling out her kitchen plinths etc. He started eating a bit but not nearly as much as he normally does when he's in his own home - I just wish he had lost a bit of weight while he was there!
So I would advise to just be patient and let the cat relax and find his confidence at his own pace. Don't force the issue but be calm and soothing, cats need to know there's no threat and that they're in a place of safety - they're just not in the mood yet to have fun and frolics but this will come with time. I was lucky in that. after my cat's death, I took on 2 new cats who were already bonded so I found their introduction into my home incredibly easy, I think because they had each other for familiarity and comfort and they were used to living with other cats in the cattery. Having said that, it took over a year for one of them to display affection for me, I had rarely heard her purr for the first year and the other one still hides away as soon as anyone strange enters my house. Rescue cats have generally had a very traumatic and stressful time - even if they have not been abused or neglected they have generally had to endure frequent changes in their environments and adjustments to new human owners.
Good luck with your new cat, it's very rewarding seeing their transition into happy, confident and contented cats.