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Old 11-05-2013, 15:05
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I had a heated debate at work yesterday with a younger workmate he was very surprised I was not on Facebook ,I told him I was not interested in sharing my every movements with everyone, I also said I did not want people from the past getting in touch with me ( some people I never want to meet again) what I hear is Facebook has caused a lot of relationship break-ups( by the way I am very happily married).

My work mate said that I am missing out on not being on Facebook !

Whats your opinions of Facebook?
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Old 11-05-2013, 15:10
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its been great for me, ive moved about a lot in my life so its helped me get back in touch with many people i otherwise would have never spoken to again. i also enjoy sharing opinions, funny stories and whatever on there with people as and when things happen.

of course there are people who have annoyed the crap out of me with how they use it, constantly posting cryptic woe is me posts or telling everyone their every uninteresting movements on every single day, using it to put across their bigoted crap in some occasions, but thats cool cause i can just remove anyone who annoys me too much.

in short it gets a bad rep but its a tool that can be used for many many different purposes, not just the negative things that get all the publicity. all depends on you and the people on your list basically. wouldnt necessarily say anyone not there is "missing out" but im glad i have it
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Old 11-05-2013, 15:13
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I'd tell him to mind his own business and carry on with his own, i have my opinion you have yours, no one is right and no one is wrong
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Old 11-05-2013, 15:18
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i would have to add that i dont think facebook is the cause of any relationship break-ups, people acting like ***** is usually the cause of most relationship break-ups, facebook is just one more medium through which they can do that
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Old 11-05-2013, 15:19
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Well I think you can't dismiss something like Facebook without trying it, and it's the users not the application that causes relationship breakups.

But, if you're just not interested, then you shouldn't have to justify yourself to anyone
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Old 11-05-2013, 15:39
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But, if you're just not interested, then you shouldn't have to justify yourself to anyone
I had to

I vowed I'd never join it and my old group of friends knew that and weren't bothered. When I had a new group of friends, they were surprised I wasn't on it but one of them just wouldn't accept it. I was badgered pretty much every day as to why I wasn't on it yet and how I was "missing out on everything because everyone's on it". In the end, I threw in the towel and made an account just to stop the constant nagging and the threat of an account being made for me. Two years on, I barely log in and I no longer speak to the idiot who was desperate for me to get on it in the first place
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Old 11-05-2013, 15:50
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Facebook is useful for me because I'm on the committee of a university society so it's good for quick communication and organisation purposes. Aside from that, I don't really post anything. People tend to make idiots of themselves on there trying to seek attention and cultivate 'online personalities' so to speak. Facebook has made me dislike/hate people that I wouldn't really even think about otherwise.
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Old 11-05-2013, 15:55
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Whats your opinions of Facebook?
I agree with you. I don't have a Facebook account and don't want one. I've got a Google+ account but that's because I had no choice. I think I needed it to post something on YouTube. I haven't updated it and generally ignore it.
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:00
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I had a heated debate at work yesterday with a younger workmate he was very surprised I was not on Facebook ,I told him I was not interested in sharing my every movements with everyone, I also said I did not want people from the past getting in touch with me ( some people I never want to meet again) what I hear is Facebook has caused a lot of relationship break-ups( by the way I am very happily married).

My work mate said that I am missing out on not being on Facebook !

Whats your opinions of Facebook?
I get the same sort of reaction by not being on Facebook.

I think it's a useful tool if you have friends and relatives scattered around the globe, but my main concern is privacy issues and the "harvesting" of your content/data once it is out there.
Therefore....I'm out!
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:00
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Facebook has made me dislike/hate people that I wouldn't really even think about otherwise.

thats worked both ways for me to be fair. theres people ive quite liked who have shown themselves to be absolute bellends through what they post on facebook, however theres also been people ive not known very well or not had massively high opinions of who have shown themselves to be far more intelligent or eloquent than id have ever thought
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:02
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I had a heated debate at work yesterday with a younger workmate he was very surprised I was not on Facebook ,I told him I was not interested in sharing my every movements with everyone, I also said I did not want people from the past getting in touch with me ( some people I never want to meet again) what I hear is Facebook has caused a lot of relationship break-ups( by the way I am very happily married).

My work mate said that I am missing out on not being on Facebook !

Whats your opinions of Facebook?
I'm with you and for the same reasons. Check out this site. I got so fed up with explaining to people why I'm not on there that I just redirect them to this site which pretty much explains all the reasons for me. An interesting (but long) read.
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:09
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I had a heated debate at work yesterday with a younger workmate he was very surprised I was not on Facebook ,I told him I was not interested in sharing my every movements with everyone, I also said I did not want people from the past getting in touch with me ( some people I never want to meet again) what I hear is Facebook has caused a lot of relationship break-ups( by the way I am very happily married).

My work mate said that I am missing out on not being on Facebook !

Whats your opinions of Facebook?
It has its uses.

Surprised you had a "heated" debate about it though. Surely it's for each individual to decide for themselves.
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:13
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Your workmate sounds like a closed-minded idiot if he can't grasp that not everyone is going to like a site like Facebook.

I hate people like this.
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:16
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It has its uses.

Surprised you had a "heated" debate about it though. Surely it's for each individual to decide for themselves.
But that's the whole point - it shouldn't be heated, but because of people's utter incomprehension of someone not being on it, it often leads to a heated debate. I suspect in part due to the person in question getting frustrated at having to constantly justify their reasons over and over again...a la the other thread on here about not having children. Same thing. Why can't people just accept something without questioning it?
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:21
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But that's the whole point - it shouldn't be heated, but because of people's utter incomprehension of someone not being on it, it often leads to a heated debate. I suspect in part due to the person in question getting frustrated at having to constantly justify their reasons over and over again...a la the other thread on here about not having children. Same thing. Why can't people just accept something without questioning it?
agreed, though i do also know a few people who arent on it who take great pleasure and delight in constantly announcing theyre not on it and rubbishing those who are, as if it somehow shows not being sucked in to something so popular makes them better people.

similar to how a fair amount of people who dont own television sets never seem to shut up about the fact they dont own television sets. except of course they will call it "the idiot box"
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:21
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But that's the whole point - it shouldn't be heated, but because of people's utter incomprehension of someone not being on it, it often leads to a heated debate. I suspect in part due to the person in question getting frustrated at having to constantly justify their reasons over and over again...a la the other thread on here about not having children. Same thing. Why can't people just accept something without questioning it?
Dunno, it is odd, isn't it.

My stance is that if it doesn't affect me, I don't care what others do.
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:23
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Im not on Facebook, and don't think im missing out, ive seen people on it, looks an absolute load of cack to me
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:24
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I told him I was not interested in sharing my every movements with everyone
Genuine question - who says you have to "share your every movement on facebook"?.

I also said I did not want people from the past getting in touch with me
If your profile is private, that won't happen.

Whats your opinions of Facebook?
It's one of those things that you get out of it as much as you put in to it. As a tool for keeping in touch with family and friends who might live far away, it's great.

Some people let it take over their entire lives though, but I think with the need for some people to 'fit in', that's always going to happen. It doesn't mean it has to happen though.
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:25
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Your workmate sounds like a closed-minded idiot if he can't grasp that not everyone is going to like a site like Facebook.

I hate people like this.
Does sound like he's a bit of an idiot. If you love Facebook then great, good for you. Don't get all upset because someone chooses not to use it.
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:27
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Facebook isn't in the least bit important in the greater scheme of things. And you don't have to give reasons for not being on it.
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:27
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Facebook can be useful. I don't do things like post status updates every 5 minutes or check in at places. I simply use it for talking to friends and family that I never see and organising get together events with people with the same medical condition as me. But some people I know treat it like a life line and are forever posting updates and pictures etc

It's useful yes but I wouldn't day you're missing out as such as it's not essenial.
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:30
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I wish I never signed up now.
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:37
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I wish I never signed up now.
Me too. Curiosity got the better of me. I've reduced my usage to just having it on my phone which will alert me if any messages arrive and not updating my status any more.
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:42
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I cannot understand why people get so het up about Facebook. The concept of it if used for it’s purpose is actually fantastic.

IF people used it in the way it was originally designed for there would be no problem. The problem lies with using it for some kind of ego thing, ie loads and loads of “friends”, and here lies the problem, they are not your friends.

I actually LOVE face book. I have just my family and close friends, we can communicate on more or less a daily basis we all live miles apart but we can keep in touch, share photos of daily/weekly/monthly stuff that in years gone by would not have been possible.

My daughter went travelling for a year in 2010/2011 and face book was our life line….no waiting for the postcard to arrive months after sending, no expensive phone calls, and I was able to see all of her travels in almost real time, the photos were amazing.

I for one with my 29 friends will continue to love the invention of Facebook because I use it just how it suits me.
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Old 11-05-2013, 16:54
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I have it to keep in touch with family in the US. As far as anyone else is concerned I'm not on it....I guess how it's used or how much it interferes in someone's life, is purely down to the individual.
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