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Friends TV Show! Were they on a break?


View Poll Results: Was Ross and Rachel on a break?
Yes 51 79.69%
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Old 11-05-2013, 17:02
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Who was right,
Rachel or Ross!

Rachel clearly said they should go on a break, but Ross shouldnt of had the affair!

Lets get this sorted once and for all
Vote yes or no on the poll!
please reply with your reason why?
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Old 11-05-2013, 17:29
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I'm confused.

If Rachel said they should go on a break then clearly everyone should vote yes to your question.

Aren't you really asking if it was ok for Ross to doink that other lady because he was on a break from Rachel ?! - and if you're asking that then methinks yes, IF "being on a break" means you can mess around with other people, but no IF it doesn't.
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Old 11-05-2013, 18:09
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Great thread. Perhaps one of those memorable television questions where even in the later seasons, it would be brought up and still gets a mention today.

They were very much on a break. But ross didn't need to hook with the next girl he saw just hours later.
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Old 11-05-2013, 18:11
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I do think they were on a break. But they should of talked about what they could and could not do to establish boundaries of behaviour. Going on a break is a bit on the vague side and they should of set some do's and dont's. And if I had to choose a team, it would be team Ross.
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Old 11-05-2013, 18:19
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If you are on a break, there's no guarantee you will ever be back together.

What did she expect him to do, live like a monk
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Old 11-05-2013, 18:26
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Is this a male / female thing. As I guy I read it the person instigating the break is looking to experiment with others before deciding whether to settle down. Therefore Rachael can't complain if Ross sleeps with someone else as she instigated the break.
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Old 11-05-2013, 20:27
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They were on a break, Ross thought Rachel was cheating on him with Mark, so when he phoned later to apologise and talk he heard Mark in the apartment, proceeded to get drunk and sleep with the copy girl. As in his drink addled mind he was single and Rachel was with Mark.

However I am agreeing that he was free to do it - he shouldn't have then ran all over town to try and stop her finding out, he should have been honest.
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Old 11-05-2013, 20:33
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In his shoes, I'd have definitely slept with Cloe.

She was gorgeous.
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Old 11-05-2013, 20:39
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If you are on a break, there's no guarantee you will ever be back together.

What did she expect him to do, live like a monk
This is how I always saw it. Rachel's issue might be how fast Ross "moved on" though. In my eyes, he certainly wasn't cheating, but did go and fall into bed with someone else a little too quick.

The whole Ross and Rachel thing was one of the worst things about Friends imo. I liked them both as characters, but their relationship bored me.
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Old 11-05-2013, 22:49
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Considering how long it took for them to get together, I was surprised how quickly Ross moved on by sleeping with that other girl. As the above poster said, he wasn't cheating, but Rachel's actions afterwards and throughout weren't very nice.
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Old 11-05-2013, 23:16
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They weren't on a break. Rachel said it in a moment of exasperation because she couldn't get through to Ross (he refused to believe her job was important to her - 'is this about Mark?') and then he stormed out before they could discuss any "boundaries" etc.
It was unfortunate that a) she let the stupid mark guy come over in the first place and b) Ross heard him on the phone and felt his suspicions about Mark were being confirmed.
If he really thought they were on a break he wouldn't have been tearing around town trying to make sure she didn't find out and then begging her forgiveness. He only thought of the "break" excuse later when it became clear she wasn't going to forgive him.
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Old 11-05-2013, 23:19
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Rachel said - " I want to take a break"
Ross - " okay lets get some frozen yoghurt or something"
Rachel - "No a break from us"

Seems clear to me they were on a break.

He only wanted to hide it because Rachel had came over in the morning to say that she should never had said about the break etc. I think in his mind he thought hiding it wouldn't have hurt her.
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Old 11-05-2013, 23:27
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She told him he was making things too hard, which he was, he replied asking what she wants him to do
She said "I donít know, I donít know. Look, maybe we should take a break."
Maybe is the important word there. He stormed out.
Now, even of she really wanted a break, she probably meant a couple of days with no contact or talking about the "relationship" a chance to clear their minds without being accused of sleeping with co workers etc , not a break where it's free reign to jump on the first person who buys them a beer.
Dunno how people can really think otherwise in the context of Ross and Rachel but hey, each to their own
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Old 11-05-2013, 23:34
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When she said maybe, he thought she meant going to get a snack, she then cleared it up by saying a break from them.

He should never have done it but as I said earlier his drink addled mind had her sleeping with Mark etc, so he made a stupid mistake.

However she added to it by allowing Mark to come over.
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Old 11-05-2013, 23:50
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Yes having mark over was so so stupid of her but she was distraught and all of her other friends were out, so I can kinda see why she didn't tell him to leave when he came over.
When Ross was talking to Chandler and Joey he thought the relationship was over. They convinced him to get in touch and he did. When he heard Mark he lost the plot. Being "on a break" was never a factor in his decision to sleep with Chloe.
Being drunk, being upset, feeling unloved, vunerable, thinking his relationship with Rachel was over - all factors. He didn't think they were on a break, he thought they were over and she was with Mark.
Obviously that didn't wash as an excuse or a reason with Rachel , even though I think it was understandable, so he changed to the "we were on a break" defence, to try, again, to put the blame back on her which is bullsheeeet, IMO of course.
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Old 11-05-2013, 23:52
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Yes having mark over was so so stupid of her but she was distraught and all of her other friends were out.
When Ross was talking to Chandler and Joey he thought the relationship was over. They convinced him to get in touch and he did. When he heard Mark he lost the plot. Being "on a break" was never a factor in his decision to sleep with Chloe.
Being drunk, being upset, feeling unloved, vunerable, thinking his relationship with Rachel was over - all factors. He didn't think they were on a break, he thought they were over and she was with Mark.
Obviously that didn't wash as an excuse or a reason with Rachel , even though I think it was understandable, so he changed to the "we were on a break" defence, to try, again, to put the blame back on her which is bullsheeeet, IMO of course.
Yep agree with it all! He tried to blame her as he was upset, confused and guilty. Typical tactic of anyone having done wrong.
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Old 12-05-2013, 10:30
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and then he stormed out before they could discuss any "boundaries" etc.
There are no boundaries, when you have split up.

He only thought of the "break" excuse later when it became clear she wasn't going to forgive him.
She wouldn't have needed to "forgive him", had she not decided, 12 hours later, that she didn't want to "take a break" after all.
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Old 12-05-2013, 10:35
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Of course they were on a break but it was wrong of Ross to automatically start dating.
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Old 12-05-2013, 10:36
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Typical tactic of anyone having done wrong.
If Rachel hadn't changed her mind the following morning, he wouldn't have felt the need, to cover up the fact he had slept with Cloe.
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Old 12-05-2013, 10:39
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Of course they were on a break but it was wrong of Ross to automatically start dating.
You don't need your ex's permission to see/date/sleep with other people.
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Old 12-05-2013, 11:25
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You don't need your ex's permission to see/date/sleep with other people.
But they were on a break so they were going to get back together soon. Even if they did splitup it's a bit crass to dive straight into the next persons bed.
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Old 12-05-2013, 18:02
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If Rachel hadn't changed her mind the following morning, he wouldn't have felt the need, to cover up the fact he had slept with Cloe.
She didnt change her mind the following morning.
If you believe she ever wanted a break where sleeping with other people was on the table then she'd changed her mind as soon as Ross slammed the door.
But she never wanted a break. She was calling Ross constantly. He wasnt home. Then when he did call thet both agreed they would work things out. But then he heard Mark, assuming he had be right along about
Them he slammed down the phone.
They were never on a break.
Rachel wanted to fight for their relationship, Ross thought it was already over.
No one thought they were on a break.
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Old 12-05-2013, 18:10
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There are no boundaries, when you have split up.
Going on a break doesn't mean "split up", "on a break" is quite a vague term so clarifying what it actually meant was obviously needed since he stormed out and they both took it to mean different things.
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Old 12-05-2013, 18:19
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Going on a break doesn't mean "split up", "on a break" is quite a vague term so clarifying what it actually meant was obviously needed since he stormed out and they both took it to mean different things.
Exactly. Going on a break to me is a few days to clear their minds and try and come to a solution to their problems without getting into a screaming match. Not oh lets jump into bed with whoever
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Old 12-05-2013, 19:57
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Even if they were 100% taking a break (I thought Rachel only said "maybe" they should take a break), they had not established anything. Ross went out and slept with someone else. I don't believe that Rachel would have been happy for this to be one of the rules. By suggesting they "take a break", she was obviously just in need of space from Ross and his jealousy. If he wasn't so jealous and possessive, they wouldn't have been arguing so much in the first place. It's beyond insulting to basically accuse your girlfriend of thinking of cheating, which he was doing whenever he showed how unhappy he was that she was working with a good looking man.
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