Can we please put this to bed?

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Damanda

29-07-2013

Originally Posted by HIGHERSTATE:
“Why do people think it's a good thing to say something to someones face? No matter what it is..As in its not being backtabbing, sneaky or snidey (or whatever buzz words you want to use)..Apparently it's 'Keeping it real' :yawn: It really is just out of the playground stuff.

Apparently backstabbing is the work of the devil according to this forum and being able to confront people head on is a good thing..

Real adults use things called 'descretion' or 'tact'..as in choosing when and how to say things and to take peoples feelings into consideration.”

Correct. the obsession with back stabbing or being real is silly, they would be very weird if they didn't talk about each other to each other, it is after all the thing they have in common to discuss.

Originally Posted by jacqueline_gree:
“I much prefer people to say what they have to say to my face than behind my back, so it's a very good things in my world. Some lived a more sheltered life it seems, that might explain why some don't like it.”

No its not good to always say things to peoples face.
[LIST][*]Sometimes the issue is yours so telling another person they are annoying you is pointless. [*]Sometimes it your own mood and what you need to do is vent, without hurting anyone.[*]Sometimes you want to get a check from another person about how you are viewing a person[*]Sometimes the other person is a git who will react very badly and you don't want an argument[*]Sometime you cant bloody stand them and just have no interest in engaging with them to improve the situation.[/LIST]

DavetheSensible

29-07-2013

Originally Posted by rancidbeings:
“I doubt there is a person alive who hasn't spoken negatively about someone 'behind their back'.”

Yeah, but it always pays to check you've disconnected from the answerphone before you start calling someone a F W.
As one local tradesman found out last week when I played it back to him ....

bambii

29-07-2013

It also depends what you define as back stabbing. If someone is saying negative things behind someone back in order to try and influence someone elses opinion then it could be viewed as sneaky, and snidey.

SpiderMan 83

29-07-2013

Originally Posted by HIGHERSTATE:
“Never got this...just a gameshow rubbish..

its not family fortunes or 321 is it?”

Ok its a reality tv show better?

eyespy

29-07-2013

saying things to peoples faces is mean.

SpiderMan 83

29-07-2013

Originally Posted by DavetheSensible:
“Yeah, but it always pays to check you've disconnected from the answerphone before you start calling someone a F W.
As one local tradesman found out last week when I played it back to him .... ”

HAHAHAAHA. Serves him right.

SpiderMan 83

29-07-2013

Originally Posted by eyespy:
“saying things to peoples faces is mean.”

Depends how you say it to their face though.

If you have a mate who smells, just say.

Do you not saying anything but talk to another mate about it behind their back. or do talk to that mate in a gentle way and explain to them so they know your a real friend.

It depends on the tone you take with what you need to say.

bambii

29-07-2013

Originally Posted by SpiderMan 83:
“Depends how you say it to their face though.

If you have a mate who smells, just say.

Do you not saying anything but talk to another mate about it behind their back. or do talk to that mate in a gentle way and explain to them so they know your a real friend.

It depends on the tone you take with what you need to say.”

I agree and the motives behind what you are saying.

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