Dexter Appreciation thread! (Part 2)

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Sammi42

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by psychmed:
“I read these posts you make about Dexter and Charlie and their private life and quite frankly I despair. Dexter was a housemate in Big Brother for the best part of three months. He provided entertainment, intrigue and a good understanding and perception of those around him. He struck up a friendship with Charlie which was a very close bond, and yes I know he declared his love for her in that environment, which to be honest in totally alien to how life is in the outside world.

Whilst he was in Big Brother he forfeited his right to privacy for that period of time. Once he left, of course, as we all do his right to his privacy returned. Nowhere does it state that he has to continue to live his life through twitter or any other media stating what goes on, on a day to day basis in his private life. He is more than generous with his tweets about his day to day life. Yes, on occasion he will tweet something about Charlie and what they are doing together whether it is by way of a PA or some other situation.

I would like you to explain to me what right you think you have to know every detail of his private life. It astounds me that you can be so involved in what you THINK is going on with very little to go on.

When Charlie was in Big Brother, she was a totally different type of character. She didn't wear her heart on her sleeve and say what she thought. She didn't give 110% of herself and bare her soul. That is why she came 5th and not 2nd. Who knows why she choses to keep her life even more private than Dexter. It doesn't mean she is wrong and he is right. They are just different people.

I have watched the videos and there is a connection between them, whether that is romantic or otherwise it is their business. Dexter is obviously happy with the situation otherwise he would have nothing to do with her. You give him no credit whatsoever for having a brain of his own, and we all know he has a very good one! Yes, he has had difficult relationships in the past, but I am sure he has learned many life lessons from them. That is what we all do in life.

I really do think you are becoming a tad obsessive about this situation. For your own sanity perhaps you should take a step back and stop examining every detail of every tweet, every word and every glance. He is not public property and nor should he be. He is an ambitious hardworking guy who has had an opportunity to step off the life treadmill for 3 months to examine himself and make changes in his life. Leave him to enjoy please! ”

Well said. Excellent post

I'm all for hearing other people's views Burt sometimes it can be a tad too much.

Sammi42

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by anthony_lowe:
“Your right it's none of our business and TBH that's my view like everyone got there view i think Charlie is leading him down the garden path you say his happy with whatever is going on but how do you know he is his a good kind person and his let people walk all over him in the past i agree with on they def have a connection and a bond iv'e watched The Travers and the Chrissy B show clip and it make's me unwell how she bullies him and belittles him time and time again someone wouldn't do that if you were going out with someone IMO on the Chrissy B show she belittle him 6 times and there was no need”

I watched the same interview and no where in it did I see her belittling him.

Sammi42

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by anthony_lowe:
“Why do you think Gina and Dexter don't talk anymore 2 reason's the first is Gina know's what Charlie is like and she using Dexter she thought this may happen on the outside and don't want to see her friend get hurt and the second i believe is Charlie has told Dexter to stay a way from her look how close Ginxter were after BB Charlie was angry with Dexter in BB for saying he wanted Gina to win face it Charlie is poison and i can't believe she had the cheek to go on the Chrissy B SHOW AND TALK ABOUT TOXIC PEOPLE and listen to how hard Dexters life has been”

How do you know they don't talk? Have you access to their phone records? Infact having a look through the activity bit on twitter Gina favored Dexters tweet yesterday and started following Charlie not too long ago.

This is just getting ridiculous now ad I think it's you just let it be an let tem get on with things instead of picking apart every word, tweet, look.

Sammi42

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by psychmed:
“I think you must have been watching a different show to me. No way did she bully him on the Chrissy B show. What they had was a bit of friendly banter. I have seen the Travers Youtube and Charlie did chose to answer the question that she would "never" marry Dexter. The whole thing was done very tongue in cheek. That is Charlie and having watched her for 3 months, it is only what I would expect of her. It is not bullying. She does not belittle him time and time again. You have all of this totally out of proportion. Have you seen some of the banter he has with his friend Holly It is the way he likes to #springroll. For goodness sake lighten up a bit, he is not a child and if you a right about the "garden path" the so be it. Another life lesson he will learn.

I cannot see how all of this is appreciating someone. If fact you are making him out to be some kind of fool who cannot think and see for himself. He is far from that.”

Yes to everything you said

I agree that it's just banter and like you said having seen the banter he has with other people he'll take it for what it is, some people need to just loosing up.
I wouldn't like to think what people would say if they seen me and my friend together the stuff we say to each other

psychmed

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by anthony_lowe:
“That was a friend of mine having a joke on twitter nothing to do with me i hate Hazel or she care's about is herself she's stuck up i don't like her so what are you going on about so if you like someone and they told you straight there not feeling you sexally what so ever time after time you would still going after them you wouldn't and say wait to we get outside and see what happens you wouldn't he acts weird at the end of the day he only wanted Charlie because of Callum ”

Oooops you have slipped up again and now you are implying he is a liar and weird. Not very appreciative at all. I would keep quiet now before you dig yourself an even bigger hole!

Sammi42

20-10-2013

I do recall you being a Hazel supporter on twitter

Now that's not really appreciation is it. It's not weird to say wait till they get outside, in fact didn't both of them say something about waiting till they were out so they could go for dinner and have a proper talk?

psychmed

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by Sammi42:
“Yes to everything you said
I agree that it's just banter and like you said having seen the banter he has with other people he'll take it for what it is, some people need to just loosing up.
I wouldn't like to think what people would say if they seen me and my friend together the stuff we say to each other ”

I have just watched the whole thing again. There were lots of knowing glances between them. She listened intently to what he was saying and agreed. She obviously knew about the abusive girlfriend. Basically they seemed very comfortable with each other, or at least as comfortable as it is possible to be in a TV studio in front of cameras. I think Charlie acknowledged that she was not very good at reading people in BB and acknowledged Dexter was much better at it. I don't honestly know what more people expect to see other than them having a full on snog in front of the cameras.

psychmed

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by Sammi42:
“I do recall you being a Hazel supporter on twitter

Now that's not really appreciation is it. It's not weird to say wait till they get outside, in fact didn't both of them say something about waiting till they were out so they could go for dinner and have a proper talk?”

Thank you I knew I had not imagined that one

Sammi42

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by psychmed:
“I have just watched the whole thing again. There were lots of knowing glances between them. She listened intently to what he was saying and agreed. She obviously knew about the abusive girlfriend. Basically they seemed very comfortable with each other, or at least as comfortable as it is possible to be in a TV studio in front of cameras. I think Charlie acknowledged that she was not very good at reading people in BB and acknowledged Dexter was much better at it. I don't honestly know what more people expect to see other than them having a full on snog in front of the cameras. ”

I do wonder what people expect to see

I'm sure they have talked about their past, 3 months in that house as well the topic I'm sure came up at some point. I've only seen the interview the one time but didn't she even point to a scar or something when he was talking about the light incident?

psychmed

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by Sammi42:
“I do wonder what people expect to see

I'm sure they have talked about their past, 3 months in that house as well the topic I'm sure came up at some point. I've only seen the interview the one time but didn't she even point to a scar or something when he was talking about the light incident?”

Yes she did. She did a bit of the usual Charlie mumbling under breath but generally spoke very well as did Dexter. She is a bright articulate girl. I didn't like some of her behaviour in BB but to me she just came over as a very vulnerable, confused young girl, who didn't know her own mind. An over-bearing mother doesn't help. I think Charlie is fundamentally a kind, loving girl with lots of the same insecurities that Dexter has. They have a lot in common and if nothing else that makes for a good empathy between them.

changa

20-10-2013

For every misinperpretation that some of you lovely people try to clear up, another 10 come back. It is impossible and pointless to debate with such tactics. Every single attempt ends up with the same rant or unpunctuated irrational stream of consciousness. I applaud the patience of some of you, but you may as well try and hold back the Thames with a toothpick. Please, please, I beg of you to just stop trying to convince someone who is not here to be convinced - instead, they're here to make mischief, follow some bizarre agenda or something even more worrying and strange. The repeated pattern of posting relatively calmly, incessant apologising, increasing anger, obsession with minutiae and weird interpretation of events will not change any time soon.

Looking forward to this video and Dexter's book. Hope we don't have to wait too long

Sammi42

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by changa:
“For every misinperpretation that some of you lovely people try to clear up, another 10 come back. It is impossible and pointless to debate with such tactics. Every single attempt ends up with the same rant or unpunctuated irrational stream of consciousness. I applaud the patience of some of you, but you may as well try and hold back the Thames with a toothpick. Please, please, I beg of you to just stop trying to convince someone who is not here to be convinced - instead, they're here to make mischief, follow some bizarre agenda or something even more worrying and strange. The repeated pattern of posting relatively calmly, incessant apologising, increasing anger, obsession with minutiae and weird interpretation of events will not change any time soon.

Looking forward to this video and Dexter's book. Hope we don't have to wait too long ”

Very true, but it gets so hard, I do try to ignore it.... most of the time

But yes I can't wait to see this interview and book

psychmed

20-10-2013

I am all for a bit of rational debate but I do agree much of it is irrational. However, I do feel we can all learn something from observing how others see things albeit their perceptions are completely skewed. I guess that is the nature of forums such as this one. It takes all kinds

Like you I am looking forward to the video and Book.

psychmed

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by Sammi42:
“Very true, but it gets so hard, I do try to ignore it.... most of the time But yes I can't wait to see this interview and book ”

Me too, but on this lazy Sunday afternoon I succumbed

Ah well I will no doubt disappear back into the world of lurkdom and sitting on my hands

anthony_lowe

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by Sammi42:
“I do recall you being a Hazel supporter on twitter

Now that's not really appreciation is it. It's not weird to say wait till they get outside, in fact didn't both of them say something about waiting till they were out so they could go for dinner and have a proper talk?”

Listen i don't have to justify myself to you even Gina said it to him he takes thing's to far with Charlie yo get to attached to quickly so don't tell me i'm talking rubbish i fed up of people telling me what to do the reason she said that because he didn't stop going on about from day 30 so she gave in he even took his mum on his first date

anthony_lowe

20-10-2013

Maybe i should watch it again then maybe it's me reading to much into everything

Sammi42

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by anthony_lowe:
“Listen i don't have to justify myself to you even Gina said it to him he takes thing's to far with Charlie yo get to attached to quickly so don't tell me i'm talking rubbish i fed up of people telling me what to do the reason she said that because he didn't stop going on about from day 30 so she gave in he even took his mum on his first date”

Did I, anywhere in my reply, say the words 'you're talking rubbish' so don't put words in my mouth..... And FYI don't 'listen' me, that's actually quite rude.

I remember a conversation with Gina were she told him she thought he should leave it, but she has also said that if it works out for them she'd be happy for him.
Everytime you seem to reply you seem to throw your own wee digs at Dexter in

like saying he acts weird and he only wanted Charlie because Callum did etc now that Charlie only agreed to dinner so he would stop going on.....

anthony_lowe

20-10-2013

TBH just watched The Chrissy B Show hate to admit it i was totally wrong they were very comfortable looking at each other while the other was talking and listening and yes it was a little bunter he and there there seem's to be a connection between them so i was wrong only one thing i didn't like was when Charlie called him a schmer didn't like that missed that first time around so i will accept all you stuff about me feel well stupid now

psychmed

20-10-2013

Caitlin- #teamnicky ‏@xCaitlinxAnnex 9m
#askgina @iamginario who r you closest to who was in the bb house with you?

Gina Rio ‏@iamGinaRio 6m
@xCaitlinxAnnex @dexter_koh

#AskGina

This is interesting exchange. Gina being asked who she is closest to out of those in BB with her. Her response @dexter_koh

ucra girl

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by anthony_lowe:
“Don't understand the last bit of your comment could you explain please ”

I will not explain but thank you for the request.

anthony_lowe

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by ucra girl:
“I will not explain but thank you for the request.”

No worries then

ucra girl

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by reader123:
“I don't know Ucra, but if they are good luck to them.

However, (I know there is always a however with me,lol) I do not see the point in the secrecy if they are seeing each other. I have no time for Charlie, but I wish them all the best if they are together.

If they are so what, I would be more pleased that Dex is happy. I cannot abide all this are they arn't they stuff.

Maybe I am being cynical, but could it be a PR exercise to keep people guessing and interested. I say this as the reason I have always supported Dexter is that he has always been totally honest and this "we want to see how things go" is not him. It is either yes or no with him which is what I liked.

Ah well, maybe time to move on if I am thinking like this about Dexter, either that or Anthony has got to me.:”

Well,that is the most common phrase used by PR Specialists.They never give straight answers.They are media trained.Infact Media andSociology are the two subjects that are fundamental to PR.It is about managing information in society.

I think reader the Dexter you supported is the Big Brother Housemate.The Dexer now is both the housemate and PR specialist.

It will not do his business or brand a favour if he flounted a BB relationship with all the associated circus.It has to be managed in context with his career.

ucra girl

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by Dexter_KOH:
“Ok guys: As a special for this thread think of 10 questions for me and I will answer them and put them at the end of the video with your forum names.

As you have supported me greatly.

Hope your all having a good Saturday .”

Dexter I can see you online lol.

As I am a writer,what is your book about,the genre and whether you have self published?

jayne3

20-10-2013

Well I thought I would pop on and say twitcam at 7pm if anyone is interested

I see it is all going on in here the usual suspect I am keeping my lips sown tightly together with super glue I might add as I find it very hard not to comment

ucra girl

20-10-2013

Originally Posted by anthony_lowe:
“Ucra Girl i know you don't like me but in your head no matter what anyone said you think there a real couple iv'e read your post's why are you so convinced they are it's can't be when they were in the house because yes they got close but it because they were stuck in the house together and obviously after a while you get close with people but nothing she has done out of the house can warrant she has feeling's for Dexter and when AmyFontana went to that club and saw them together what was telling for me was when she said they were alway's close together and even holding hands see for me that don't mean nothing if people think your a couple and see you holding hands which anyone can do it keep's people of your back”

Hey Anthony,why do you think I dont like you.That is tad funny.I have never replied any of your posts.

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