I'd find out if the bloke was gay and looking for a cover. 
If your 16 year old daughter wanted to marry a 50 year old what would you do
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I'd have probably blown a gasket if my daughters had married someone that age BUT
then I'd have had to remind myself that if my nana age 22 hadn't have married my granddad age 52, back in the early 20th century, I wouldn't have been here!!! And they were together for over 25 years till he passed away in his late 70s.
How times and opinions have changed!!!
then I'd have had to remind myself that if my nana age 22 hadn't have married my granddad age 52, back in the early 20th century, I wouldn't have been here!!! And they were together for over 25 years till he passed away in his late 70s.
How times and opinions have changed!!!
There is absolutely NO way that I would allow that to happen.
First of all, they met online when Courtney signed up for some b.s. online acting course that Doug was doing.. She lived in another state. It's not like they met at the library or something--and lived in the same city..It would've been easy to keep him away from her, if her mother really wanted..
I would say NO to her leaving to state to meet up with him and if she ended up with him, then I would have pressed charges against him.
But her mother isn't like most mothers.. She's a stage mom.. She had a part in this "arrangement". She's another Dina Lohan / Kris Jenner-type.. wanting her daughter to be famous at whatever cost.
First of all, they met online when Courtney signed up for some b.s. online acting course that Doug was doing.. She lived in another state. It's not like they met at the library or something--and lived in the same city..It would've been easy to keep him away from her, if her mother really wanted..
I would say NO to her leaving to state to meet up with him and if she ended up with him, then I would have pressed charges against him.
But her mother isn't like most mothers.. She's a stage mom.. She had a part in this "arrangement". She's another Dina Lohan / Kris Jenner-type.. wanting her daughter to be famous at whatever cost.
Originally Posted by itsy bitsy:
“I'd have probably blown a gasket if my daughters had married someone that age BUT
then I'd have had to remind myself that if my nana age 22 hadn't have married my granddad age 52, back in the early 20th century, I wouldn't have been here!!! And they were together for over 25 years till he passed away in his late 70s.
How times and opinions have changed!!!”
“I'd have probably blown a gasket if my daughters had married someone that age BUT
then I'd have had to remind myself that if my nana age 22 hadn't have married my granddad age 52, back in the early 20th century, I wouldn't have been here!!! And they were together for over 25 years till he passed away in his late 70s.
How times and opinions have changed!!!”
But your nana was a woman though itsy bitsy and it's not just the years between them that's worrisome, although that is a part of it.
It's the fact that she was sixteen when they got together and he had no business getting involved with her.
If he had any integrity, he'd have left her alone and would have wanted her to be with a young guy of her own age. Even if it was so that he could wait for her until she was older and had more life experience.
Neither of my young ladies 14 and 16 have b/f's of any age. House rules are no b/f's until over 16. School-work comes first.
The 16 year old had a b/f after she passed her b/d for 3 mths but has dumped him of her own volition to concentrate on school work. and because IHO he did not make enough effort. I never interfered.
Good house rules protect young girls when they are immature, hormonal and vulnerable. But if that scenario arose, I would advise her, support her and point to the flaws etc but leave the final decision to her. No pressure to push her into his arms but keep a close eye.
The 16 year old had a b/f after she passed her b/d for 3 mths but has dumped him of her own volition to concentrate on school work. and because IHO he did not make enough effort. I never interfered.
Good house rules protect young girls when they are immature, hormonal and vulnerable. But if that scenario arose, I would advise her, support her and point to the flaws etc but leave the final decision to her. No pressure to push her into his arms but keep a close eye.
Originally Posted by Bunions:
“But your nana was a woman though itsy bitsy and it's not just the years between them that's worrisome, although that is a part of it.
It's the fact that she was sixteen when they got together and he had no business getting involved with her.
If he had any integrity, he'd have left her alone and would have wanted her to be with a young guy of her own age. Even if it was so that he could wait for her until she was older and had more life experience.”
“But your nana was a woman though itsy bitsy and it's not just the years between them that's worrisome, although that is a part of it.
It's the fact that she was sixteen when they got together and he had no business getting involved with her.
If he had any integrity, he'd have left her alone and would have wanted her to be with a young guy of her own age. Even if it was so that he could wait for her until she was older and had more life experience.”
Have to agree with you. In my nana's day young women tended to be scared of being left on the shelf, and were looking for security. Can't imagine Courtney was feeling like that!!! Or maybe she was ?????
Originally Posted by itsy bitsy:
“I'd have probably blown a gasket if my daughters had married someone that age BUT
then I'd have had to remind myself that if my nana age 22 hadn't have married my granddad age 52, back in the early 20th century, I wouldn't have been here!!! And they were together for over 25 years till he passed away in his late 70s.
How times and opinions have changed!!!”
“I'd have probably blown a gasket if my daughters had married someone that age BUT
then I'd have had to remind myself that if my nana age 22 hadn't have married my granddad age 52, back in the early 20th century, I wouldn't have been here!!! And they were together for over 25 years till he passed away in his late 70s.
How times and opinions have changed!!!”
people used to keep quiet about this kind of thing - it is now more 'acceptable' - takes all sorts as they say ----- but I would do everything I could to advise against it - I'd be so very disappointed and just wait for the bubble to burst as it will in due course. One bone of contention between Courtney and Hubby is he doesn't like her going out with her friends her age --- ummm wonder why !
Originally Posted by sandy50:
“people used to keep quiet about this kind of thing - it is now more 'acceptable'”
“people used to keep quiet about this kind of thing - it is now more 'acceptable'”
No they didn't, because it was seen as quite normal and even sensible. Both my grandfathers were not allowed by their employers to get married until they were thirty and young women were encouraged to marry men who were older than them and financially secure.
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